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Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by advanceDNA: 4:57pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
MadarasBlade: Person wey no get money or job dey rent house?? He should swallow his pride and thank God he has a landing in his down time.. Women will be women...they are not wired to be the sole breadwinners ...it makes them feel cheated and defensive.... .but that doesnt mean she will wake up and send him out.... the nigga should go and focus on getting his life back and build trust with his wife...instead of lookimg foe how to complicate the marriage by living elsewhere 2 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Kobojunkie: 5:16pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
Axis313:Was a disagreement regarding land ownership to begin with that you felt to bring up the land documents in this? Did the women claim the land belonged to her alone since she funded much of the cost for the house built on it? Na so una dey begin wahala where wahala no dey at all be this? 3 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Mindlog: 5:53pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: From the narration, the land upon which the house near completion was built on was bought by the woman, it is different from the one she and her husband was building on before he lost his job. So the land documents is in her name. 3 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Kobojunkie: 5:56pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
Mindlog:I am trying to understand the reason for the land document mention is what. If the land on which her property is built is not the husband's, why did OP mention the husband's own land document in this 2 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by somenody: 7:50pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
so she saw her husband struggling to find something to do to help the family, she had Money to buy land, to build on it, complete the building and couldn't help her husband open up a business, couldn't invest in the man. unless he was not business oriented or lazy she was a terrible person and a bad wife. The fact that she kept insulting him adds to my verdict . If he goes With her she will destroy his confidence completely and then kick him out for the slightest reasons. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by MadarasBlade(m): 8:04pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
advanceDNA: So you suggests that he moves in with a wife that insults him at any given chance? I think he's better alone. I continue to tell men, if you don't have money, sorry for you,. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by NoToPile: 8:12pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
Axis313: I actually find it very funny you keep talking about this keeping the documents if he's going to live there. What exactly does it achieve, boost his ego, change the fact that his wife owns the house? what exactly? 4 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by NoToPile: 8:17pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
MadarasBlade: Then where does he get the money to live alone? All he needs is a job. I don't understand why we are not being realistic. 3 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by advanceDNA: 8:24pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
MadarasBlade: It's his ego that's talking...the woman doesn't insult him at any given chance... ..she fends for the home..he eats...she even built a house and say they should stop paying rent and you all are trying to paint her as a devil... .have you not heard men that say their wife insult them even though the man pays all the bills... thats woman for you.... they always have small madness... its the man's ego and sitution that's making him notice small things he should ignore in his wife's behaviour Okay.. where does he want to stay...?? He has no money...no job... This woman is his wife not an outsider... I dont know why you people are blowing it out of proportion...... what do you think the marriage will turn to when the man says he's not moving in with his family but going to the village..remember he has no job to pay rent ...so how will he stay near his family....?? Please answer.. 3 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by MadarasBlade(m): 8:53pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
NoToPile:And i understand why you're not realistic. |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by x2x2(m): 8:55pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
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Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Ahmed0336(m): 9:06pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Can you stay with an abusive partner under her roof? 3 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by PrayerMasterKey: 9:45pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
Op has been shouting document document. What's he planning to do with the document? What will change if he holds it? All the woman will do is give him a copy or outrightly refuse. If she built a house without him knowing,she may be fine with moving into it without him coming along as well.She has him by the balls,she knows he has no money to rent his own place, so he isn't in a position to give ultimatums. Maybe he should go back to his parents house and operate from there. It might be better than living in the oppression the OP has described. 4 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Kobojunkie: 10:02pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
Ahmed0336:First of all, the narrative provided in the OP here seems to be coming from, not the husband in the marriage but an outsider whose idea of abuse seems to be warped by the delusion that a husband is meant to be a god over his wife. Second, if the man is indeed in what is an abusive relationship then he ought instead to seek an out from the marriage itself, and his friend, the OP ought to advice him along the same lines but it doesn't seem to be an option any of them are even considering. 4 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by lilyheaven: 11:49pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
She had so much money to buy a new a land , when they had one already. At least she would have used the money to start a new business for her husband. Then develop the land they had already. I wonder where all the love they shared with travelled to? crackhaus: 2 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Kobojunkie: 12:11am On Jul 29, 2022 |
lilyheaven:Dem tell you say the man problem be say him need money to start a new business ni? Develop the land they already had? Land which you lot insist belongs to him regardless of what she does to it? What love where told they shared? So since childhood till now you never yet figure out say no be every marriage dey built on love particularly where one person is expected to live in submission to another by society and not by choice?. What the frell is wrong with the educational system that it keeps churning out half-baked minds abeg? 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by lilyheaven: 12:20am On Jul 29, 2022 |
This one is looking for who to stroll with. Na dream land I dey , come and meet me inside dream. Kobojunkie: |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Kobojunkie: 12:54am On Jul 29, 2022 |
lilyheaven:Given what you have expressed so far of the contents of that your mental, I would instead opt for one of them psychedelic trips abeg! At least my mind go know well say na delusion I dey dig well, no confusion.. 2 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Ahmed0336(m): 6:47am On Jul 29, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Married? |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by crackhaus: 10:26am On Jul 29, 2022 |
lilyheaven:It's on sabbatical. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by lilyheaven: 5:40pm On Jul 29, 2022 |
Onye Nigeria Kobojunkie: |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Saintmary(f): 6:00pm On Jul 29, 2022 |
Axis313: Whoever came up with the idea of collecting a woman's house documents, her hard earned sweat, is an evil person. Can any man hand over his house documents to his own wife for any reason? I don't know the kind of weak women who are marrying horrid men like this! If he can't tolerate her, he should walk away naw. Haba 3 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Saintmary(f): 6:01pm On Jul 29, 2022 |
Axis313: Whoever came up with the idea of collecting a woman's house documents, her hard earned sweat, is an evil person. Can any man hand over his house documents to his own wife for any reason? I don't know the kind of weak women who are marrying horrid men like this! If he can't tolerate her, he should walk away naw. Haba mana 2 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Saintmary(f): 6:04pm On Jul 29, 2022 |
advanceDNA: I don't see that marriage lasting either. It's toxic to both of them. 2 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Saintmary(f): 6:10pm On Jul 29, 2022 |
advanceDNA: Men and women live in different planets, our way of thinking is so different. A woman will easily understand your point, but men will not. 1 Like |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by advanceDNA: 6:23pm On Jul 29, 2022 |
Saintmary: Only men with trust issues and ego problem will have a problem with something this simple.. .i know some women sometimes have a problem providing for a man not doing anything...but she has been doing it and has even built a place for them.... .another lady would have looked for a way to fight with the man..so that he won't move with her and her kids to the new house...but she was still supportive... U are having a down time....ur wife is doing fine...shes your wife...not an outsider or a roommate you met on campus....why is afraid of her all of a sudden...Unless he has been wicked to her before when he had money.... this type of stuff happens like everyday....and I've seen men that never get back on their feet...its as if God paired such people so that whem downtime comes the other person can take the baton 2 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Saintmary(f): 6:30pm On Jul 29, 2022 |
advanceDNA: See, I get you But a lot of factors contributed to the sorry state of the mental health of most of these men, so, rather than waste my energy doing unpaid psychoanalysis, I'd focus on having a relaxing Friday evening, what do you think? |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by cococandy(f): 6:33pm On Jul 29, 2022 |
These are problems for people that do his and hers in marriage. If it was theirs from the beginning, there would have been no issues. 3 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by cococandy(f): 6:35pm On Jul 29, 2022 |
Most likely advanceDNA: 2 Likes |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by advanceDNA: 6:36pm On Jul 29, 2022 |
Saintmary: Lol....thank God it's Friday...having a relaxing evening is always the aim.... |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Kobojunkie: 6:52pm On Jul 29, 2022 |
Ahmed0336:Well, duh! They are married. |
Re: Should He Move In With His Wife? by Nobody: 8:53pm On Jul 29, 2022 |
If you check very well like really well, you'll realize that the woman most probably did nothing wrong. This toxic gender ideological construct that has been formed by the society to put the value of a man on his financial capabilities has made men feel useless when they can't provide. When a man can't provide for himself and his family, he feels useless, worthless, lazy, angry, and irrational. He believes that there is an attack on his "manhood" when asked to help out in the home. In the process, he leaves everything for his wife. The woman, being a human being that she is LASHES out by either verbal abuses or refusal to have sex and that is when the problem starts. The sad thing is that nobody cares to know the cause only the reaction and so the woman is seen as a demon. Although there are exceptions to this but this is what happens most of the time. 5 Likes |
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