pendo89:

@ sexkillz.Why do you always start your threads with Disclaimers!

Anyway you are quite right even though y[b]ou have left out a number of solid issues.
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The word Love (which claremont )believes is a delusion  blinds so many people they stop thinking with their brains and allow emotions to do the thinking.We realise only when its too late.

I think am crazy or extreme but I always tell people to really piss each other off without letting the other person know you are doing it intentionally to test them and see how they react to issues.

Test their anger,their patience their decision making skills,their morality,their intellect,their social economic spiritual attitudes.
Fight and see if you are both capable of agreeing without anybody's intervention. This should show you how mature the other person is when it comes to conflict management/resolution.

Just put everything to test. But guess what? we only test SEX, get our minds fried and we want to marry a girl or dude bcz of their intimate proweress
As if it will put food on the table or settle disputes.

^^^ I agree with what you said above! Except one thing! "We only test SEX!" I dont test sex and i know "some" people dont test it too! It's just that Those who test sex are in the MAJORITY! So it makes it seem as if "EVERYONE" Tests sex! And those who test and experiment with sex are actually looking down on and insulting does who dont, calling them all sorts of names! How WRONG! It's up to us who dont test and experiment sex to prove to those on the "neutrals" that "Choosing the right one" doesnt necessarily depend on s e xu al compatibility!

I start my threads with disclaimers so as to reduce the number of "Queries" i'll get for airing my views which most people see as always being in support of females! BTW they've given me a Name: FEMALE MESSIAH!
I left out a number of solid issues so as not to elongate the thread and make it boring! I have more, but for a later thread!

sexkillz:


****You MAY or MAY NOT Agree with the following Article, Different strokes for Different folks****
Before you can consider who might be right for you, you need to know yourself well. Getting to know yourself is no small task. Learn more about your strengths, weaknesses or vulnerabilities. And also the emotional needs you tend to have or need! The more you understand yourself, the better equipped you will be to find someone who will amplify your strengths rather than your weaknesses. . .
In the process of choosing a marriage partner, more than a few members of the opposite sex may catch your eye. But not just anyone will do. After all, you want someone you’ll be comfortable with—someone who truly fits your personality and your goals.
Be careful, though! You might be inclined to see only what you want to see. So take your time. Try to perceive his/her true nature. This will take effort on your part. But that’s only to be expected. Yet, many who date don’t look beyond the surface. Instead, they quickly point to the things they have in common: ‘We like the same music.’ ‘We enjoy the same activities.’ ‘We agree on everything!’. . . Look beyond superficial traits and discern the secret person of the heart. For example, rather than focus on how much you agree on things, it might be more revealing to note what happens when you disagree. In other words, how does this person handle conflict—by insisting on his or her way, perhaps giving in to “fits of anger” or “abusive speech”? Or does this person show reasonableness—a willingness to yield for the sake of peace when no issue of right or wrong is at stake?
Another factor to consider: Is the person manipulative, possessive, or jealous? Does he or she demand to know your every move? Some dating couples fight because one person can’t stand that the other hasn’t constantly ‘checked in!'. . . .That’s a bad sign. . .

Not just any size shoe will fit; similarly, not just anyone will make a good partner!

pendo89:

just dont be lazy to read.

dazzle37:

@ poster
i agree with your article.
someone said its too long, now this is making wonder were all our reading culture disappeared to ?
now Nigerians are always looking for a short cut out of everything

pendo89:

@james my grandkid,

Develop a reading culture and stop loving shorthand.

I love thorough posts which capture the story very well.

James-dman:

@DAZZLE, Y the indirect inference n scoldin? Come clean bro, or are u scared of me? I'm not a monster, i won't eat u, if u refered to me directly. ~~LOL.
@ james, i believe its an (f) you saw in front of dazzle, i was not refering to you alone, i have seen alot of threads that people complain about being too long, so i would say i was thinking aloud. and no i am not scared of you, and even if you are a monster, FYI i was not even scared of the famous cookie monster or zelda, as a kid, so i can't be scared of you now.