mistilink:
I came back from the office today only to be told that a couple I know and very close to have dissolved their marriage of 10 years.
The husband sent the wife packing on the ground that the marriage didn't produce a child after many years of waiting!
Is marriage no longer for better for worse again? Are children now the only achievement in marriage?

mistilink:
I came back from the office today only to be told that a couple I know and very close to have dissolved their marriage of 10 years.

The husband sent the wife packing on the ground that the marriage didn't produce a child after many years of waiting!

Is marriage no longer for better for worse again? Are children now the only achievement in marriage?

Jovialjune1:
I think that "for better for worse" phrase should be removed from marriage vows from henceforth because it has done more harm than good to so many people especially women in Africa/Nigeria. It enables and gives ultimate guts and effontery to most especially men to behave anyhow because they feel they are covered by that vow and church doctrine

That was how a distant relative married a man she met in the church in 1998, both of them were workers, for years no kids, this lady went for check up and she was okay and fertile, husband go and do your own rara o, he said he automatically knows he is not the problem, that was how he started broadcasting to anyone that cares to listen that my aunt damaged her womb, her elder sister had to take her to other hospitals and they still said she is very fine o, guy man started beating her then drove her out of the house, that was how the marriage ended.

My aunt, ever the religious fanatic refused to remarry saying it is against the will of God bla bla bla, there is nothing we did not do, she said no believing her horseband will come back to her one day, while the man remarried three times and he still was unable to father a child, as an excuse for his infertility, the foolish man said my aunt cursed him never to have children with other women imagine the nonsense. The story is long but Las Las my aunt died in 2016(diabetes) while the man died in 2018, very sad and annoying

Anytime I remember her I'm always sad that evil happens to good people, very beautiful curvy woman that wasted her years with an idiot and church belief plus that annoying marriage vow, and she loved children alot

Klass99:


Typical rant, when such men have messed up or nothing is working out for them, they blame the woman who was or is in their life. Did you see that thread where a guy said a prophet told him his wife is the reason he is not progressing?

My classmate from Uni said her hubby was told the same nonsense in some church he went to, they instructed him to stop telling her his plans, if he wants to prosper and succeed.

She slammed him with a divorce and from her food trade business has been paying the bills for their 3 kids. Something she was already doing even while they were married, he was that much of a liability, but my classmate was the problem according to some dimwits.

The breaking point for her was the BS that, she's behind his unproductive and fruitless life and him believing it is true.

mistilink:
I came back from the office today only to be told that a couple I know and very close to have dissolved their marriage of 10 years.

The husband sent the wife packing on the ground that the marriage didn't produce a child after many years of waiting!

Is marriage no longer for better for worse again? Are children now the only achievement in marriage?

mistilink:
I came back from the office today only to be told that a couple I know and very close to have dissolved their marriage of 10 years.

The husband sent the wife packing on the ground that the marriage didn't produce a child after many years of waiting!

Is marriage no longer for better for worse again? Are children now the only achievement in marriage?

bukatyne:
@Topic: no

However, you can't stop anyone who wants to leave.

culf:
this is why courtship is very important. before marriage. I told my wife that companionship is the first thing for me, that children will be additional blessing and shouldn't be the only thing in case of delay as I don't like women running from one prayer house to another because of baby. she became suspicious thinking maybe I have issue, she confess after getting pregnant.
Some of these things are suppose to be sorted before marriage but some people will just ignore it until it happens.

Richy4:

That was what led to the demise of my favourite actress in Nigeria.. Jenifer Okere Ossai..
The white garment churches used her as an experiment...

culf:



imagine that. very unfortunate. A lot of ladies are not learning from all these and are still falling victims out of desperation.

The most annoying part is that the husband is happily married to another woman who probably must have given him so many kids.. life goes on..

Assuming she wasn't an actress, no one would have known that such lady actually walked on this planet..
Now imagine the number of women who must have gone just like her that no one remembers anymore...

She was way too beautiful and poised to end up like that honestly.. her death was one of those stupid death that made me thank God I wasn't born a woman.. (no disrespect intended... just me being me) It's just a crazy world

mistilink:
I came back from the office today only to be told that a couple I know and very close to have dissolved their marriage of 10 years.

The husband sent the wife packing on the ground that the marriage didn't produce a child after many years of waiting!

Is marriage no longer for better for worse again? Are children now the only achievement in marriage?

Klass99:




Your comments remind me of that hot radio talk show Sharing Life Issues which the late Chaz B used to host.

One time he had a female guest on the show who narrated her sojourn for a baby/child as a married woman. I didn't catch her story from the beginning but she said she wasn't proud of herself for the things she had done and places she had gone to, in her quest for a child as a believer/Christian.

I remember listening to her and silently praying that may I never be in a situation where I seek help from the devil, not for a child, not for money or anything else in this life. She felt so ashamed and embarrassed, she said she won't reveal all the details of what she'd done or where she'd been, on air.

That part of her story I remember clearly but my memory is a bit foggy though, as to whether she got the child or not. The studio phone lines were ringing off the hook that day and when they breaked for a commercial I didn't keep up with the rest of her story.

I didn't know that was what killed Jennifer Okere Ossai ooo, but a quick Google search confirmed what you said. Na wao.....

Klass99:


In fact when I read your post my heart skipped several beats, I tend to mix up some of these actresses and their names so my mind went to Steph-Nora Okere.

I been wan faint because I like Steph Nora a lot and I kept thinking it can't be, Steph is too sensible for such nonsense na.