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| When To Trust by femmy2010(op): 1:05am On Aug 08, 2011 |
How much trust should you give a person at the beginning of a relationship, especially since you can be misled? I used to think that when one enters a relationship, the way to handle trust was to give it until the person did something that proved to me he or she couldn't be trusted. So I'd keep getting burned all the time. I'd trust the person, thinking this was the way not to bring previous baggage into the relationship, but that person wouldn't have done anything to prove he/she was worthy of me placing my trust in him/her. What do you think? |
| Re: When To Trust by deniyor: 2:23am On Aug 08, 2011 |
That's how I do it. Trust them first without reason to. Over time a lot of them betray my trust. And I thank God they did because they are not worth it. There comes someone eventually who will value your trust and you as a person as much as you do value them. Question to bother with is : are you worthy of their trust or are you going to betray it? |
| Re: When To Trust by 190: 3:01am On Aug 08, 2011 |
[color=deeppink]As long as shes a nigerian girl count me out I have vowed never to touch a Nigerian girl with a 1000meter pole ever again Too many green snakes amongst them (Kant take a chance anymore) Put ur trust alone in your Gawd! your family and any other women from other races (But not Nigeria)  [/color] |
| Re: When To Trust by iice(f): 4:23am On Aug 08, 2011 |
[color=#9900ff]I'm the opposite. With everybody. Trust is earned. People are devious.[/color] |
| Re: When To Trust by Nobody: 4:31am On Aug 08, 2011 |
@ poster, good question. Ive struggled with that too. |
| Re: When To Trust by Dyt(f): 9:20am On Aug 08, 2011 |
Well as 4 me wen he tells me he s got numerous babes n does hell of sh1t wit dat he s jst created space 4 trust |
| Re: When To Trust by Tosinville(m): 9:33am On Aug 08, 2011 |
Who can i trust in this cold world, my phoney homie had a baby by my own girl. |
| Re: When To Trust by MMM2(m): 9:42am On Aug 08, 2011 |
op sorry  i dont even trust my self, so how can i trust some1 else. |
| Re: When To Trust by Sijo01(f): 10:06am On Aug 08, 2011 |
Its gud 2trust but people take u for granted wen u trust dem. its a big problem 4me, am too trusting.  |
| Re: When To Trust by Nobody: 12:21pm On Aug 08, 2011 |
It is only a realistic acknowledgment that we ALL are imperfect! Even YOU the one demanding TRUST! But, we can learn to trust our partners. First, look at yourself. Are your fears solidly grounded? Are you suspicious of others’ motives? Is there a way to minimize the risk of getting hurt? Yes. How? Try to get acquainted with him/her personally in a NEUTRAL setting. Talk to them, not just about ROMANCE & SEX. Get to really know the person inside. Concentrating on the persons outward appearance alone could be a BLUR! TRUST, like RESPECT, MUST be earned. So be patient! As you get to know him/her, your confidence in them will grow. Reveal your concerns GRADUALLY. If he/she responds in an appropriate, sympathetic, and discreet way, you might then try disclosing more.  If not, then WALK AWAY!!! Before you get BURNT!  Working hard at cultivating endearing qualities in your relationship with him/her results in an atmosphere of TRUST in the Relationship. |
| Re: When To Trust by claremont(m): 12:25pm On Aug 08, 2011 |
190:Seconded!!! (minus the God part) |
| Re: When To Trust by amblors(m): 12:45pm On Aug 08, 2011 |
femmy2010:thats how i do it, without trust whats the point of going into relationship? except you wanna get laid. I apply that in my friendships too. About getting burned, no matter WHEN you decide to trust, you'll get burned coz we're humans. so its up to you, trust or not to. if you don't wanna get BURNED, REMAIN detached emotionally, don't invest emotionally, donot trust, donnot love. the other option is to distrust the person, until the person convinces you they could be trusted. |
| Re: When To Trust by femmy2010(op): 3:12pm On Aug 08, 2011 |
M M M:hmm |
| Re: When To Trust by lindabon: 3:34pm On Aug 08, 2011 |
hmmm. wen i start asking too many questions in a relationship, i only give it one month. if the questions bounce back unanswered, then i flee from the r/ship, cos no matter how far in love i've gotten wit d person, its not worth getting my heart stumped OVER AND OVER AGAIN! . its better to get my heart stumped just one time, and then move on, than repeatedlymost people go out wit people that they are sure are up to no good yet they still stick around hoping that their instincts are wrong. i follow my instinct wen there are way too many suspicious circumstances hovering around the same person!! cos NO TIME! when it seems wrong and feels wrong, there is definitely something WRONG!! and wen the "wrongs" are not justified, then . . . . have had more trusting relationships so far though! |
| Re: When To Trust by Phate07(m): 3:39pm On Aug 08, 2011 |
Trust like respect is earned. It is not something you just pick up. Given enough time, trust can be earned. |
| Re: When To Trust by Mynd44(mod): 3:46pm On Aug 08, 2011 |
The only creature I trust is my Dog. |
| Re: When To Trust by femmy2010(op): 4:37pm On Aug 08, 2011 |
I agree with phate07 that trust should be earned but we equally need trust to sustain a new relationship till our parters is able to earn our trust. Frankly,without trust the relationship would have ended before starting. |
| Re: When To Trust by femmy2010(op): 9:44pm On Aug 08, 2011 |
We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone but if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy. |
| Re: When To Trust by amblors(m): 9:50pm On Aug 08, 2011 |
^^^word. btw whats wrong with NL server today? |
| Re: When To Trust by Mynd44(mod): 2:18am On Aug 09, 2011 |
^^^ Thought I was the only one |
| Re: When To Trust by Nobody: 7:49am On Aug 09, 2011 |
"Always doubt every statement" you know why because "Everybody Lies", it wud be stupid at this current Generation to be gullible. at least nothing can come as a surprise to you. |
| Re: When To Trust by amblors(m): 11:31am On Aug 09, 2011 |
^^^if you have to confirm every statement? hmm,how much would we achieve? |
| Re: When To Trust by Mynd44(mod): 12:09pm On Aug 09, 2011 |
^^^ well atleast we would learn to watch our own backs and not have someone else do that for us |
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