Yemialade:
Hello nairalanders, am searching for a job,am yet to see one as i want to be financially stable.my mom came and ask me this question about my suitors,am like marriage is the last thing on my mind now.what do you guys think.

HRHQueenPhil:


Why wld u tell ur mother dat? Pls stop dat
U are getting married this December 2022 so prepare urself and start making preparations spiritually and physically and mentally

Yemialade:
i just told her right now its a job i need. Abeg i no wan marry this december o

HRHQueenPhil:


So if Holy Spirit brings the two together nko..are u saying u can't handle it.., I don't like how u're underestimating GOD..mind yaself

Yemialade:
Hello nairalanders, am searching for a job,am yet to see one as i want to be financially stable.my mom came and ask me this question about my suitors,am like marriage is the last thing on my mind now.what do you guys think.

Kobojunkie:
Please do not let anyone blackmail you into getting married without first having your feet set squarely on the ground. Your mother wey dey talk, na she go come bail you out when your suitor-turned-husband starts treating you as though a liability?

Yemialade:
Marriage na turn by turn sef,i dont want to be pressured into it.i feel lyk my friends are getting married but i know what i want as i would want to support my spouse financially also.

Kobojunkie:
Support your spouse financially or contribute financially to your marriage and family?

Marriage is best when planned well by both man and woman from the beginning. So many allow their hormones and urges drive them into marriage only to find themselves stuck trying to make the best out of what was a terrible decision from the beginning. Don't end up like them and don't be deceived by how nicely they look from the outside, more than half of those in marriage are living miserable existence but will rarely utter a word about it for shame.

Yemialade:
one pattern i saw was people got married get kids and go into debt borrowing loans to suistain d family.

Yemialade:
Hello nairalanders, am searching for a job,am yet to see one as i want to be financially stable.my mom came and ask me this question about my suitors,am like marriage is the last thing on my mind now.what do you guys think.

baralatie:
Make sure you have suitors o!
Meanwhile it is not a pressure something
At the same time it is not when you have become a millionaire before you start planning for a home


Prayer is key

Acidosis:


There is no link whatsoever between your need for a job and your desire for marriage. Is there any law that says you can't get a job once you're married?

Stop putting the two needs (if at all you need both) on the same scale. Job will always come and go. A job is nothing but a means to an end and not an end in itself.

And what is this thing you guys call "financial stability"? Do you know what is means to be financially stable? Having a job is not the same as being financially stable. How many Nigerians can survive a year without their salary? That's how to know those who are financially stable and those who aren't.

Yemialade:
True talk.thanks.i have a business online though.

I help small business earn $1000 within 30days

Kobojunkie:
.... and then the expectation is that somehow those kids will grow up and help pay off all those debts. Essentially, they are birthed and enlisted as slaves in the process that is called marriage.

Please make better decisions so you don't end up another statistics in your own life.

Yemialade:
Do u mean they pay the parents loan? i dont get

Acidosis:

You mean this online business on your profile?

Lonestar124:
I will advice you to accept any suitor that come your way, this life is mysterious, you may not understand now until you learn a lesson...

Listen to me and your mother that are talking from experiences....

Every customer that come to patronize your wares at the opening of your shop, should not be allow to leave the shop, you must try much to compelled him to buy from you at that particular time.....

Acidosis:


You mean this online business on your profile?

Esthered:


Good afternoon egbon, please reach me on xxxxx

Acidosis:


There is no link whatsoever between your need for a job and your desire for marriage. Is there any law that says you can't get a job once you're married?

Stop putting the two needs (if at all you need both) on the same scale. Job will always come and go. A job is nothing but a means to an end and not an end in itself.

And what is this thing you guys call "financial stability" sef? Do you know what is means to be financially stable? Having a job (or job security) is not the same as being financially stable. How many Nigerians can survive a year without their salary? That's how to know those who are financially stable and those who aren't.

So ask yourself; are you willing to go through the process of financial stability before you consider the need for a spouse?

crackhaus:
You guys are funny.
Here's a young woman who desires to have something doing for herself before venturing into a marriage and becoming a burden on a man, and y'all are encouraging her to not have personal ambitions.
Na wa...

UyaiIncomparabl:


Would you marry a jobless woman without a penny of her own?