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My own question is why did u have to write NB in full...

advanceDNA:
My own question is why did u have to write NB in full...

When I saw it, I laughed

Your friend should first of all inform his wife of his decision to marry another woman, if she agrees, good and fine, if she doesn't, he can proceed with divorce

As for cheating, he shouldn't complicate things unnecessarily, divorce or my first paragraph.

advanceDNA:
My own question is why did u have to write NB in full...

Any crime?

Cheating that he wants to cheat, is it osho free cheating or one where he'll have to be spending money?

The marriage can still be fixed as long as none of them committed adultery during the period of the separation.

What's the guarantee that the second wife will favour him?

Romanoff:
Cheating that he wants to cheat, is it osho free cheating or one where he'll have to be spending money?

The marriage can still be fixed as long as none of them committed adultery during the period of the separation.

What's the guarantee that the second wife will favour him?

There's not guarantee, but needed a companion... How best to handle the situation?

Abbeytoy:


Any crime?

Yeah...its a crime...
..that's why i added a smiley emoji instead of reporting you to the police and DSS

advanceDNA:


Yeah...its a crime...
..that's why i added a smiley emoji instead of reporting you to the police and DSS

Ignore the errors and give advice to the needing

Cheat

Jovialjune1:
Your friend should first of all inform his wife of his decision to marry another woman, if she agrees, good and fine, if she doesn't, he can proceed with divorce

As for cheating, he shouldn't complicate things unnecessarily, divorce or my first paragraph.

What's with all the text book advice....the woman has been gone for two fvcking years.....u guys think its okay to treat people like trash becos of a marriage certificate yet be treated with respect in return..
.. lol... the nigga should enjoy himself....the woman isnt coming back..

Abbeytoy:




Ignore the errors and give advice to the needing

Two years..the man shoukd enjoy himself jare.

What is she coming back for...

Abbeytoy:


There's not guarantee, but needed a companion... How best to handle the situation?

They both need counselling.

Me I believe the marriage can still be fixed.


If all effort to make the marriage work fails, then they can divorce and go their separate ways.

Picking another wife may be better for him.

Romanoff:


They both need counselling.

Me I believe the marriage can still be fixed.


If all effort to make the marriage work fails, then they can divorce and go their separate ways.

All efforts, have been made, but all she said is she needed time... She doesn't want a counselor as she claimed they have no issues

Abbeytoy:


All efforts, have been made, but all she said is she needed time... She doesn't want a counselor as she claimed they have no issues

OP didn't clearly state what steps were taken.

A marriage with two children that are 10 and 8 years old isn't a fling.

I'm just trying to ensure all steps have been taken to fix the marriage.

advanceDNA:


What's with all the text book advice....the woman has been gone for two fvcking years.....u guys think its okay to treat people like trash becos of a marriage certificate yet be treated with respect in return..
.. lol... the nigga should enjoy himself....the woman isnt coming back..

This is not text book advice, just common sense

Long distance marriage has been happening from time immemorial and that of Op's friend wouldn't be the last, so where exactly is the trash in that? Is it not the long distance marriage people do that husband will be abroad, the wife in naija, yet you all expect the wife to be faithful while husbands cheat at will wherever he is, then shout to high heavens if the wives are caught or seen doing same cheating act he does?

And how do you know she isn't coming back? Are you Op's friend or you know the wife personally?

Since he has fully recovered and works from home, what stops him from going to where she is to keep his marriage alive, with his work being very flexible and she probably works 9-5, why can't he compromise and move over to wherever she is?

If their marriage is at a place of no return and he wants to enjoy himself, he should inform his wife of his need for second wife, divorce if she doesn't agree, and enjoy his fun with another woman in peace, very simple.

Abbeytoy:


All efforts, have been made, but all she said is she needed time... She doesn't want a counselor as she claimed they have no issues

Your wife has a boyfriend and is getting fücked where she resides.

Abbeytoy:
Nota bene: My friend has never cheated on her, he does not drink or smoke, and he hasn't had sex in nearly 30 months prior to the accident...

He is considering taking on another wife without a proper divorce because he refuses to cheat. They have two wonderful children, a 10-year-old boy and a 7-year-old daughter. My friend only needed a companion during this difficult time... Should I counsel him to begin cheating or simply find someone to marry? Your advice will be greatly appreciated, and I am confident that both of them will be reading this as Nairalander.

Please do the needful for better advice

1. He doesn't want to divorce the woman but wants instead to take on a second wife simply because he hasn't had sex in 30 months?

2. So, what happens if the other wife returns jobless, will your friend then shoulder catering to bother women along with their children on the money he makes working from home?

3. You want to advise your friend to cheat in his marriage as if that is any different in terms of load and stress than what your friend is proposing to do? Have you finished sorting out your own life before wanting to carry your friend issue for head so?

Abbeytoy:


There's not guarantee, but needed a companion... How best to handle the situation?

Your "friend" was/is in the situation, so he should know best how to handle it.
If he cannot make a decision for himself, then he should rest. Ya zu ike.
Unu na a cho onye unu ga a raputa.

Jovialjune1:



This is not text book advice, just common sense

Long distance marriage has been happening from time immemorial and that of Op's friend wouldn't be the last, so where exactly is the trash in that? Is it not the long distance marriage people do that husband will be abroad, the wife in naija, yet you all expect the wife to be faithful while husbands cheat at will wherever he is, then shout to high heavens if the wives are caught or seen doing same cheating act he does?

And how do you know she isn't coming back? Are you Op's friend or you know the wife personally?

Since he has fully recovered and works from home, what stops him from going to where she is to keep his marriage alive, with his work being very flexible and she probably works 9-5, why can't he compromise and move over to wherever she is?

If their marriage is at a place of no return and he wants to enjoy himself, he should inform his wife of his need for second wife, divorce if she doesn't agree, and enjoy his fun with another woman in peace, very simple.

She's been gone for two years without looking back?? And u want to swing this under long distance relationship..why do u women just like supporting whatever u women do.

.that's not a relationship ...the man is marrying himself.....

advanceDNA:


She's been gone for two years without looking back?? And u want to swing this under long distance relationship..why do u women just like supporting whatever u women do.

.that's not a relationship ...the man is marrying himself.....

Do you have comprehension issues? Who is supporting who? I said it TWICE in my first and second comment that he should divorce her if the marriage is not salvageable or are you blind? Where is the support there? You guys just throw baseless senseless words when bereft of nothing valid to say without thinking, Where did I call it a relationship? It is a long distant MARRIAGE not relationship, as in married people staying apart.....do you understand

mariahAngel:


Your "friend" was/is in the situation, so he should know best how to handle it.
If he cannot make a decision for himself, then he should rest. Ya zu ike.
Unu na a cho onye unu ga a raputa.

He's just in a confusing state cos he still like his wife

Jovialjune1:



Do you have comprehension issues? Who is supporting who? I said it TWICE in my first and second comment that he should divorce her if the marriage is not salvageable or are you blind? Where is the support there? You guys just throw baseless senseless words when bereft of nothing valid to say without thinking, Where did I call it a relationship? It is a long distant MARRIAGE not relationship, as in married people staying apart.....do you understand

Comprehension issues??
Basless ??
Senseless??
No vex say i mention you....its been a long day

Abbeytoy:
He's just in a confusing state cos he still like his wife

He still likes his wife but he can't wait for her for what exact reason?

Kobojunkie:
1. He doesn't want to divorce the woman but wants instead to take on a second wife simply because he hasn't had sex in 30 months?

2. So, what happens if the other wife returns jobless, will your friend then shoulder catering to bother women along with their children on the money he makes working from home?

3. You want to advise your friend to cheat in his marriage as if that is any different in terms of load and stress than what your friend is proposing to do? Have you finished sorting out your own life before wanting to carry your friend issue for head so?

My friend and I is not a useless person, he find himself in this situation unexpected so its not wrong to seek for advice.

If you can't advice someone lonely or depressed, please don't add to it

Ebubu:


Your wife has a boyfriend and is getting fücked where she resides.

His wife

It would have been better if she asked for divorce than putting the man in tight conner

Kobojunkie:
He still likes his wife but he can't wait for her for what exact reason?

To me, the marriage ended already

Abbeytoy:
My friend and I is not a useless person, he find himself in this situation unexpected so its not wrong to seek for advice.
If you can't advice someone lonely or depressed, please don't add to it

Your response does not make sense at all. Are you the one who is the friend here?

Abbeytoy:
To me, the marriage ended already

If you feel your marriage has ended, then get a divorce or you only create problems for yourself without one.

advanceDNA:


Comprehension issues??
Basless ??
Senseless??
No vex say i mention you....its been a long day

Good.

30 months prior to the accident means 30 months before the accident.

Take note of that.