He's wife has health issues.Doc. says her life will be in danger if she get pregnant .He claims he loves her but want kids .Also has famly pressures . Should he go for a 2nd wife [/b]or stick to " [b]for better for worse".

i think best thing for them is child adoption, it will bring them joy and family pressure could stop or decrease. but if the dad is desperate to have a child of his own he can marry another wife.

Depend on how important his vows are to him. If he made a vow in the presence of God and loads of witnesses, he'll pay if he breaks those vows.

too many children are out there just waiting to be adopted and loved by somebody. so they should adopt. if he marries a second wife that amy just kill the wife sharp sharp.

Marriage is for better or for worse, i dont think he should go and marry another woman
into his house, sheeii some men,
i do agree with ya'll, they can adopt kids,

Adopt a child sounds like a temporary solution here! .This is a 9ja man living in 9ja wit 9ja families and freind.You get me?
.I feel you guys thinking about from this angle.He will be childless, Cos they will be a day the child would ask you are his or her true parents are.Then probably return to them, Though he might be lucky the child still treat them like his parent but, Who carries his name over,

whatever, let them do the adoption first and they can deal with the real parents issue later in life, the world will not come to an end because someone wants the real parent plus, most adopted kids always wants to be with the people that was there for them when they were young

teju oso:

whatever, let them do the adoption first and they can deal with the real parents issue later in life, the world will not come to an end because someone wants the real parent plus, most adopted kids always wants to be with the people that was there for them when they were young

Good point ! you see that wot i mean. its a short term solution. just being real here!

1. Adoption is always an option. There are plenty of children out here that have no home. Be a blessing to thier lives and adopt.

2. Marriage is for better or worse, in sickness and health, till death do them part. I don't remember hearing an "if, but, or except" in those vows.

1. problem with a lot of people is they go into marriage thinking if it doesn't work we can always divorce. this kind of thinking is what would make a guy like that even contemplate having an affair.

2. if an adopted child wants to know his origin, so what? let him or her know. does not mean the child would love or appreciate you less. you are the parent he/she knew.

3. even if the wife were not sick, what if she was unable to have children, would taht also qualify as grounds for adultery?

nikinash:

1. problem with a lot of people is they go into marriage thinking if it doesn't work we can always divorce. this kind of thinking is what would make a boy like that even contemplate having an affair.

2. if an adopted child wants to know his origin, so what? let him or her know. does not mean the child would love or appreciate you less. you are the parent he/she knew.

3. even if the wife were not sick, what if she was unable to have children, would taht also qualify as grounds for adultery?

Good Yarns Girl!! now we are going somewhere, Nbut can he convince his folks.& his mother -in-law.Who is also asking for a child.But they r not ready to disclose to her her daughter health?

Its not fair.it actually means that he married her cos of making babies.Finally its every man's dream to have children after wedding but wen the case is different,u accomodate.marrying a second wife is not the best alternative cos of he is not even sure if that one is going to bear him children.the best is best thing is to wait 4 Gos's time.but if u cant,then he should go and adopt

Good Yarns Girl!! now we are going somewhere, Nbut can he convince his folks.& his mother -in-law.Who is also asking for a child.But they r not ready to disclose to her her daughter health?

they do not owe anyone any explanations. how they chose to live their lives is their biz and nobody else's. its time people in this part of the world learnt the meaning of the marriage vows. i have a friend who was married for 8years before she had a baby and from the word go, the husband told his people never ever to harrass his wife and beleive me, because they know the kind of son they had, nobody dared.

nikinash where r u ? consider hw diffcult that is in a 9ja setting?

Where are the guyz!! dont let us (f) tread alone, Opnions Pleeeeeeease, i guess u would know better?

nikinash where r u ? consider hw diffcult that is in a Nigeria setting?

am right here in nigeria and what i am talking about happened here so its not too hard to imagine.

this is a sad & difficult subject. i have an aunt who for whatever reason never carried a child to term. her husband stayed married to her and didn't take any other wife. he was a wonderful, committed husband until his early passing last year. you see, THEY BOTH WANTED A CHILD. and they shared their pain together. only GOD knows why they never had one, but what they had or didn't had, THEY HAD OR DIDN'T HAVE TOGETHER.

isn't this the point of marriage? or do we marry to wander t/o life alone? or do we marry to listen to mummy and great-uncle?

if i commit a crime, is it great-uncle who will stand by me or my spouse

i agree w/ the adoption ideas. but, also, is there anyway the woman can see a professionally trained doctor who specializes in obstetrics and gynecology

unfortunately, my aunt was never able to do. ask your friend if he is willing to travel a far distance at a great cost to have a SPECIALIST see his wife and perhaps have a child w/ her. if he is willing to travel far and part w/ money for a 2nd wife, the answer should be "yes".

good luck to all.

I agree and have been making making excuses he has been giving that why am asking the guys to please help.In true opinion am aganist it.But i need to make him see it to.I cant be married and chicken out cos my spouse has issues.Now his wife is begining to buy the idea,

chinani:

this is a sad & difficult subject.

- Tx guyz so far!!

diyobdw:

I agree and have been making making excuses he has been giving that why am asking the guys to please help.In true opinion am aganist it.But i need to make him see it to.I can't be married and chicken out because my spouse has issues.Now his wife is begining to buy the idea, - Tx guys so far!!

yea,that's right

can anyone tell me what it takes to adopt a child in Nigeria, if it differs from state to state? edo state in particular.
thanks