The greatest ambition of Nigerian women ends in the bedroom while the greatest ambition of Nigerian men ends in the boardroom.

Majority of Nigerian women are more desperate to marry than Nigerian men.

In fact, majority of Igbo parents send their daughters to school to increase their material value more for marriage than careers.
The higher standards of education you have, the higher bride price and greater matrimonial status.
You are exposed to more men who are the potential suitors. Whereas the first and foremost priority of majority of Nigerian men is to be successful in their careers to increase their purchasing power  to afford a good accommodation, a good car/SUV and a good wife or trophy girlfriend.

Many Nigerian men are still single, because they are yet to achieve this priority and there are  not many choices of good women or trophy girlfriends to marry in Nigeria.  Because, Nigerian men have been relegating majority of Nigerian women to the background and have ended up with more liabilities of millions of Nigerian girls and women who live at the mercy of men.

Nigerian women have their dreams and God has given everyone a unique purpose in life to fulfill your destiny. Therefore, do not let any Nigerian man make you give up your dreams to make a positive impact in your community and our society.

Any man who loves you will help you to succeed from the bedroom to the top of the boardroom.
We need more female CEOs than baby factories in Nigeria.
God made you to be more  of a helpmate than bed mate.
Use your brains to excel and not your loins.  

A senior Nigerian banker was dating a very beautiful Nollywood actress from Akwa Ibom and said that he would prefer her to give up her acting career and goal to be a software engineer and be his wife with a supermarket. I advised her to dump him and she did. Then the other man told me that he would persuade her to stop acting to prevent her from being tempted and lured away by randy Nollywood actors and other big guys.

You see the inferiority complex behind the egos of these Nigerian men?

Nigerian men would prefer their women to end up eating from their hands to the women being independent.

Nigerian men feel better when they can show off their status symbols of posh cars or SUVs, luxury apartments and seven-digit salary positions to Nigerian girls and ladies, but get goose pimples and jittery when the Nigerian women are equally upwardly mobile top executives you cannot bluff.

Igbo men in particular feel reluctant to date big girls with big pay checks.

With majority of Nigerian men lording over Nigerian women, Nigeria will never advance in social, economic or technological civilization.

Dump any dumb Nigerian man who cannot stand your dreams and who does not want you to LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE NOW!

Narrow minded Nigerian men have been responsible for the underdevelopment of Nigerian women.

When my father retired, my great mother Gladys Eke started working for the Lagos State Government to make sure that the family fared well and my father supported her. She was there with me on the high table when I launched my first book when I was 25 and encouraged me until the day she died. That is why I have called her the Mother of my genius. She was the one who taught me the art of story telling that has taken me places since age 13.

So, my success is the fulfillment of the dreams of my mother of blessed memory.

Nigerian women must never give up their noble dreams to achieve their intellectual and professional goals no matter what any man offers them to do so.

Look at the positive couple Stephanie Okereke and Linus Idahosa!
The are the best tag team in Nollywood and making great impact in the nation building of a New Nigeria.

If your man cannot stand by you to chase and fulfill your dreams, then he is not worthy of being your man. But your servant!

 
~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima, author of four books, Founder/Festival Director of the annual Eko International Film Festival (EKOIFF) in Lagos. His new books Time after Time, In the House of Dogs and Barack Obama and the American Dream will be released before winter.
For more, see Michael Chima Ekenyerengozi | Changemakers
www.changemakers.com/users/michael-chima-ekenyerengozi

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they should alwayz come 2 my bed 4 nyashing.

I like this. It's very true.

@Orikinla; I don't totally agree with you o, there a lots of women who are at the top of their careers and pose serious challenges to Men.

A lot of women are begining to realise that they actually can become something else apart from being pregnant and bare footed in the kitchen

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Comments are now open.

The following email I sent to Amy DuBois Barnett. The Editor-in-Chief of EBONY magazine is worth reading too.

Hello Amy,

The August issue of Ebony on THE BLACK WEALTH is really loaded with
facts of life for a reality check to help all Blacks in the United
States and overseas to know what to do, how to go about it and when to
do so to overcome the challenges of the Great Recession and succeed in
spite of the odds against us in a White dominated world.

On the predicament of your spendthrift friend who went over the moon
when she got promoted with a six-digit salary. I was wondering what
her man was doing for her? Sponging off her until she got bankrupt?

Great post, definitely prefer a Career woman to a Housewife.

one of the most enlightening post i've read on NL thus far  . . . was too long though
true, very true facts of life in a typical Nigerian society.
all these begging men for food to eat, for money and other material things will stop if and only if women would see themselves as achievers rather than tools used just to satisfy d loins and bellies of men.
it is dat bad that even presently, wen people see a woman living life (good car,apartment etc), they automatically assume that she must have slept wit loads of men to obtain that fortune.  .  . SMH 

but then again, in their defence, i tink the younger generation of men are becoming more enlightened and really fed up wit women's over reliance on them. some younger women have also learnt to become independent. though the mentality has not completely faded (and the society, together with our fathers generation are not helping at all), its at least better than what it used to be in the past. 
A woman's success should in no way be a challenge to any man
AND
The success of a woman should not be the weakness of a man

The lamest poster of all time.

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Wheel chair needed?

lindabon:

one of the most enlightening post i've read on NL thus far  . . . was too long though
true, very true facts of life in a typical Nigerian society.
all these begging men for food to eat, for money and other material things will stop if and only if women would see themselves as achievers rather than tools used just to satisfy d loins and bellies of men.
it is dat bad that even presently, wen people see a woman living life (good car,apartment etc), they automatically assume that she must have slept wit loads of men to obtain that fortune.  .  . SMH 

but then again, in their defence, i tink the younger generation of men are becoming more enlightened and really fed up wit women's over reliance on them. some younger women have also learnt to become independent. though the mentality has not completely faded (and the society, together with our fathers generation are not helping at all), its at least better than what it used to be in the past. 
A woman's success should in no way be a challenge to any man
AND
The success of a woman should not be the weakness of a man

Thank you for your reasonable reply.

It is always good to separate the boys from the men on the romance board.