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Can A Mother Of 3 Survive Abroad by Ajagilatrensing: 8:50pm On Sep 26, 2022
I am trying to find out if a mother and 3 kids of ages 13, 10 ad 6 survive Abroad.

Papers already done and kids going to school. Can she survive with her earnings in USA to foot all her bills or should the husband still be sending money from Nigeria after he has done for almost 5 years now considering the recent exchange rate hype.

With the work she does in USA would she able to cope with responsibilities alone? And it to talk about sending money home
Re: Can A Mother Of 3 Survive Abroad by kenzo25(m): 9:20pm On Sep 26, 2022
Yes she can if she is authorized to work in USA
Re: Can A Mother Of 3 Survive Abroad by Mindlog: 12:26am On Sep 27, 2022
My question will be, why is the husband not in the US with her?

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Re: Can A Mother Of 3 Survive Abroad by Helpout12345: 12:45am On Sep 27, 2022
Yes and no.

Yes if she has work authorization, not a student and earns good salary

No if she has no work authorization, still studying like many of our people with wives abroad are doing to stay in the US or earning low salary

The questions are: what is her immigration status, how much does she earn, is she in school?
Re: Can A Mother Of 3 Survive Abroad by AndSunGorilla: 1:46am On Sep 27, 2022
Ajagilatrensing:
I am trying to find out if a mother and 3 kids of ages 13, 10 ad 6 survive Abroad.

Papers already done and kids going to school. Can she survive with her earnings in USA to foot all her bills or should the husband still be sending money from Nigeria after he has done for almost 5 years now considering the recent exchange rate hype.

With the work she does in USA would she able to cope with responsibilities alone? And it to talk about sending money home
No she can't do it alone. The husband should do his bit. Living in the US is super expensive for only one income source except if that one income source is from 150K and above. Rent is crazy, insurance premiums, childcare, depending on the ages of the children especially since na single parent for obodo oyinbo. They have to pay to do sports or any extra curricular activities.

It also depends on where (City and State) the woman is staying.
Re: Can A Mother Of 3 Survive Abroad by Kobojunkie: 2:49am On Sep 27, 2022
Ajagilatrensing:
I am trying to find out if a mother and 3 kids of ages 13, 10 ad 6 survive Abroad.

Papers already done and kids going to school. Can she survive with her earnings in USA to foot all her bills or should the husband still be sending money from Nigeria after he has done for almost 5 years now considering the recent exchange rate hype.

With the work she does in USA would she able to cope with responsibilities alone? And it to talk about sending money home
▪︎ Survive with what earnings though? To tell whether she can survive , we at least to know how much earnings we are talking about here. undecided

▪︎And why would the husband, the father of the kids, not expect to send money to support what is his own family, regardless of exchange rate, because she lives in the USA? Why would he even expect his wife to foot all the bills on her own? Does a father ever get a break or holiday from being a father? So why would high exchange rate be reason for a father to consider taking such a break from what are his responsibilities? undecided

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Re: Can A Mother Of 3 Survive Abroad by culf: 2:55am On Sep 27, 2022
if you can make hair and into wigs, you will do very well (make enough money).
Re: Can A Mother Of 3 Survive Abroad by Ajagilatrensing: 8:54pm On Sep 27, 2022
The husband has been the one paying all the bils from day one till now (5 years) that the woman and the kids now have authorization (green card and work permit). Those alone cost the man like 4m.

The woman work as a care giver after doing some months course/ training.

The husband is not even asking her þo send money down but for to take care and let the man face himself to plan for his old agè now that they have papers
Re: Can A Mother Of 3 Survive Abroad by Helpout12345: 9:25pm On Sep 27, 2022
Ajagilatrensing:
The husband has been the one paying all the bils from day one till now (5 years) that the woman and the kids now have authorization (green card and work permit). Those alone cost the man like 4m.

The woman work as a care giver after doing some months course/ training.

The husband is not even asking her þo send money down but for to take care and let the man face himself to plan for his old agè now that they have papers


Assuming the woman works FULL time, according to indeed, average salary for care givers in the US is 35,277.

https://www.indeed.com/career/caregiver/salaries

Then the poverty guidelines for a family of 4 is 27,750 for states, 34,690 for Alaska, 31,920 for Hawaii, based on the HHS chart below

https://aspe.hhs.gov/topics/poverty-economic-mobility/poverty-guidelines.

As you can see, if she works FULL time as a care giver, her family is just around the poverty line in the US.

I think though, since she is working now, the level of financial burden on the husband should reduce when compared to when the family just arrived in the US without work authorization and job.
Re: Can A Mother Of 3 Survive Abroad by Unrated900(m): 9:47pm On Sep 27, 2022
Whether you can survive or not is your hands

If you can work in USA
You will make
Money

Friends and family of mine are there
They kept on saying if you can work like the Mexicans here
You will make
Money more than anything
To
Your question
If you can work
You will survive with even five kids
Re: Can A Mother Of 3 Survive Abroad by bukatyne(f): 9:52pm On Sep 27, 2022
Ajagilatrensing:
The husband has been the one paying all the bils from day one till now (5 years) that the woman and the kids now have authorization (green card and work permit). Those alone cost the man like 4m.

The woman work as a care giver after doing some months course/ training.

The husband is not even asking her þo send money down but for to take care and let the man face himself to plan for his old agè now that they have papers


Are they separated or divorced?
Re: Can A Mother Of 3 Survive Abroad by Kobojunkie: 9:59pm On Sep 27, 2022
Ajagilatrensing:
The husband has been the one paying all the bils from day one till now (5 years) that the woman and the kids now have authorization (green card and work permit). Those alone cost the man like 4m.

The woman work as a care giver after doing some months course/ training.

The husband is not even asking her þo send money down but for to take care and let the man face himself to plan for his old agè now that they have papers
I am afraid rather than cut out completely, the man and woman should negotiate a contribution ratio that will work for both of them. Again, there is no taking a break as far as ones responsibilities as a parent is concerned. undecided

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