Ok nairalanders I need your help on this. I have a serious problem with women. I easily fall out of love with any woman I date. When I get a new girlfriend things start off smoothly and before i know it, I lose all feelings and then a breakup follows. It's not a use and dump situation because in some cases i've fallen out of 'love' even before any intimacies. I'm currently in a relationship but im begining to get tired of the whole thing again. Ive been contemplating breaking up but then for how long will I continue like this. It really troubles me because I don't want to this to affect me when I get married.

you have a big problem o

i will advise you to see pastor chris ASAP

Em, this doesn't happen to me.
It could be caused by how you view relationships, just a thought
maybe you view it as a short term thingy
you shouldn't consider marriage until youve fixed this.

op
u should be happy

u re a big boy,
keep it on.

D CENSUS CONTINUE.

poster

you are very normal. you are still finding yourself as a person so its only natural that you will date around a bit. Start figuring out what you are looking for in a mate that way you wont get into these "relationships" just because a girl looks good. once you know what you are looking for the rest will fall in place (maybe)

Happens 2 me 2
get tired so easily
mayb cos of 2much wantin or nonchalancy
well jst tk ur tym sha
wen next u want a partner
mk sure s one u can always do wit in terms of troublsm n mute

@ OP; O/E normal baje! You're perfectly normal. The problem is that you've not found the right one.
Infact, you're even luckier than most people. You don't waste your time and investment(s) on your "potential partners". Keep smiling. You're good.

I appreciate all ur replies cos the thing was secretly troubling me.
@dyt its good to know uve had similar experience.
@babe! Im sure going to keep smiling and focus on more important things.

Absolutely normal. Nothing to worry about. You haven't met the right one yet.

It could be cos you get bored of people easily or smth.
Also You know being in a relationship takes a lot of work on both ends. You have to work hard to keep the love fresh at all times.

Happened to me before! I know dat feeling,

Take ur time, don't rush into a relationship just for d sake of it or to know how long u r stayin in this time. When u'll meet the right lady for u trust you won't let het go, & feelings won't fade away like the previous times

^prisicillia is that you

maybe you dont like commitment.

probably ur gay

@ chrisplus, that one no follow oo. I'm straight like ruler. Im attracted to women like every other regular guy. I just get tired in my relationships too quickly. So no homo

Yeah, I’m a bit like that too, can’t commit myself to anything for long…I like being free, a natural wanderer, and routine bores me silly.

I hope Babe! and Tricici are right. Bottom-line, you are not alone, so no worries.

BABE!:

The problem is that you've not found the right one.

fact!

tpia@:

maybe you dont like commitment.

so true!

Unbelievable, so Nairalanders could be this warm, helping and supportive without mis-yarning. Better days

Poster, I think you are dating them for the wrong reasons, probably physical. If its that, it'll probably continue like this. You are a good person to identify that its wrong and you'll like to correct that.

Look out for other qualities in women apart from appearance. Try intelligence, friendliness, good companionship, exposed, informed, funny, goal-oriented, smartness etc. These features keep you coming back and busy with them even when the beauty fades.

Big shout out to Dammytex, Lindabon, Babe!, Tpia, Long One, Chrisplus, sexkillz, 190, Mr president, tricici, Dondav, deniyor, Goldieluks, dyt, Omega25red, MMM, Amblors,r32. Really appreciate ur comments. U guys are the best.

Hi Martin, in French we call that "coeur d'artichaut" equivalent to the expression "to be fickle", in fact I think you 're a bit confused between "like" "appreciate" "and love" because for me and this is just an opinion, love comes with time, time to know more, time to hang out, time to see his/her surroundings, his/her behaviour in public, temper and so on

I think you should take distance when you meet someone talking, chating, and take your time and then you would see if it's love when you can explain why do you love her, something special ( much more than physical appearence) which attracks you then you would be able to separate love from "appreciate"

Lol, 190 im not arresting u na. See how quick u wash ur name from the matter. Like someone the 9ja police has asked to be a witness. Its fine though

it is just because you have not seen that ONE that would capture your heart and your wholebeing,

@OP, check urself, u probably ve pride and think no woman is best for u, if its pride, deal with it before it ruins ur happiness, all da best

sexkillz:

Trust me! That FAKE AS[b]S[/b] doesnt have ALL the ANSWERS!

who are you to a Pastor fake WATCH YOUR MOUTH