₦airaland Forum

chaircover:
@Goddys, there is a difference between a man being financially weak in the marriage by choice and one being financially weak by luck/hard times.

In your case you are deliberately entering a marriage with no means of caring for your family and this can only spell bad news in the long run.

No doubt you will probably find a woman or two who is prepared to go by your terms, but I can assure you that you are seriously limiting your choice of woman that you will find.

You can have a good companion in your fiancee; and since you have said that it is not the seex that you are looking for, your fiancee can almost do as much as a wife can do. . . . the only difference is that she has an escape clause in her contract.

If you were my blood brother, I will tell you to wait the few months till you graduate and find yourself a job before commiting yourself into something as serious as marriage.

Goddys:
I am nurturing the idea of getting married while at school to a fresh graduate,who i believe will start off a job to finance the marital relationship.

andromida:
Dayo,david and co will confuse and misguide those young men out there to be looking for women who can take care of them till they find their feet.

andromida:
This same men will tear to pieces a woman who is looking for a man to take care of her( which is in order and does not contradict the natural order of things) till she finds her feet.

andromida:
They are looking for a woman they will fifty things with before she is con sidered for marriage. Talk abt double standards.

andromida:
Goddy graduate and look for a job and stop looking for an easy way out. Why are you not looking for a girl that isn't working till u can both find your feet.

andromida:
Why do men always complain about women who want made men. There are different kinds of women why are you going for fly gals? Gals who will hussle from scratch with a man are more than gals looking for made men.The problem is with the man who wants to marry flash and then complain.

Most times if you look properly u can tell btwn a lazy man and a hard working man who isn't there yet.women will choose d latter if they are convinced he will get there.I cannot blame a woman for running from a lazy broke man.

andromida:
Why do men always complain about women who want made men. There are different kinds of women why are you going for fly gals? Gals who will hussle from scratch with a man are more than gals looking for made men.[/b]The problem is with the man who wants to marry flash and then complain.

Na lie. men dont bother to marry early these days because the available women are too busy looking for men with cars, houses and foreign passports. Tell me you are not looking for the same and let me call you a liar.

andromida:
Most times if you look properly u can tell btwn a lazy man and [b]a hard working man who isn't there yet.women will choose d latter if they are convinced he will get there.I cannot blame a woman for running from a lazy broke man.

andromida:
but i am damn sure you would scream blue murder for a man running from a lazy broke fat woman.

Well the man can run if he wants a working woman luckily variety is the spice of life many men still want housewives and many women are content to stay at home.If a man feels he wants a woman they will fifty things together he should go for it [b]but a man should never aspire to be a houseman it is a crime against humanity a[/b]nd poster should not be misguided the same Bible says a man who cannot take care of his family is worse than an infidel.

coogar:
why is it a crime against humanity? women do it, don't they? in this era of sex equality, what a man can do - a woman can do and vice versa.
women want the same salary scheme as men, women want the same rights as men and you are saying men should not aspire to be house-husbands?
why is that?

davidylan:
no mind am. I was very impressed to meet a postdoc here who was the breadwinner while her husband was a stay at home dad. turns out they planned it that way, he worked while she went to school then he stayed home while she finished her 2-3 yrs as a postdoc.

See andromida saying men should not aspire to be house-husbands but it is ok for her to sit at home and swallow eba with her big mouth.

andromida:
Because money is the language the world understands and a man's role is to be a protector, provider for his family besides men are naturally egotistical by nature they expect a woman to respect them, look up to them e.t.c If a man cannot earn money how will he play his role? Should he just become a Fluid donor? Even physically women in comparism to men are fragile.Take it or leave it we are the weaker sex anyother story is a falsehood.

andromida:
Because money is the language the world understands and a man's role is to be a protector, provider for his family besides men are naturally egotistical by nature they expect a woman to respect them, look up to them e.t.c If a man cannot earn money how will he play his role? Should he just become a Fluid donor? Even physically women in comparism to men are fragile.Take it or leave it we are the weaker sex anyother story is a falsehood.

andromida:
he worked while she went to school then he stayed home while she finished her 2-3 yrs as a postdoc.

Hear yourself o, he worked while she skooled. He already convinced her he is man enough u c there is a solid reason why he is staying home and she is working.

This is diff from a man aspiring to be a houseman.stop confusing issues and misguiding the confused.

davidylan:
Would you have married such a man in this case? Be honest!

andromida:
Would you have married such a man in this case? Be honest! 

U will not believe anyway so skip.

Women who stay at home and dnt bring home money are not egg donors they do more. Stop pulling them down what they do is immeasurable. You cannot do what they do for 2weeks u'll become frustrated.stop drinking panadol for men who like their stay at home wives u musnt marry one.

andromida:
Would you have married such a man in this case? Be honest! 

U will not believe anyway so skip.

Women who stay at home and dnt bring home money are not egg donors they do more. Stop pulling them down what they do is immeasurable. You cannot do what they do for 2weeks u'll become frustrated.stop drinking panadol for men who like their stay at home wives u musnt marry one.

andromida:
Men do not do what women do OK. They do not carry babies for 9mnths, push them into existence or be cut up and afterwards breastfeed them.

armyofone:
more white women are staying home to raise their children. i don't hear their men complaining. infact their men prefer it. but our black brothers won't let us breath immediately after you throw graduation cap into the air, oya go work  . na so the economy bad reach?
odikwa serious.

jennykadry:
I was expecting that verse. I don't support stay at home mums but the fact still remains that the bible's made it clear that men are the primary provider not the other way round. A man that cannot provide for his family even if his wife earns more than him, is really not a man.