OgbeniOja1:
Let him go. Don't force it. Don't let him cause trouble for you guys. Sadly when he is older he will regret it. My mum's driver till she retired always told us a story of how he would have been educated and maybe had a better job. He had this uncle in Kano they sent him to live with. Now this said uncle already had 5 kids so he made it 6 kids the man was feeding. The man put him in a private school and treated him like his own kids. But Baba kasali (our driver) ran bk home because the man measures garri in cups. Garri wey dey surplus for village. Young Baba kasali started complaining that he wasn't feed very well and he wanted to go home. One day he packed his bag without telling them and went back to Ogun state. It caused a lot of commotion Then as there was no phone for communication. Police case was made, the uncle was in panic. What will he tell them when he got home. we know how he could have been accused for killing or using someone's child for ritual. Finally the got to know young Baba kasali had gone home. SoBaba kasali no go school again. Now he has retired as a govt driver and is now driving ambulance to survive in old age.

OgbeniOja1:
Let him go. Don't force it. Don't let him cause trouble for you guys. Sadly when he is older he will regret it. My mum's driver till she retired always told us a story of how he would have been educated and maybe had a better job. He had this uncle in Kano they sent him to live with. Now this said uncle already had 5 kids so he made it 6 kids the man was feeding. The man put him in a private school and treated him like his own kids. But Baba kasali (our driver) ran bk home because the man measures garri in cups. Garri wey dey surplus for village. Young Baba kasali started complaining that he wasn't feed very well and he wanted to go home. One day he packed his bag without telling them and went back to Ogun state. It caused a lot of commotion Then as there was no phone for communication. Police case was made, the uncle was in panic. What will he tell them when he got home. we know how he could have been accused for killing or using someone's child for ritual. Finally the got to know young Baba kasali had gone home. SoBaba kasali no go school again. Now he has retired as a govt driver and is now driving ambulance to survive in old age.

oluwaseyi0:
He probably doesn't feel at home with you guys

Maybe any small thing you are shouting and reminding him he's not your child and will be deported soon

I feel this is more psychological

Let him stay with his father or mother if two of you can't establish connection with each other

I'm sure if he tell his own real side of the story we will all be shock

Reinamaria:
You people should stop torturing that child!
That could be the only reason why he ran away.
He is so afraid, and doesn't feel safe with you people.

Lamanii22:
he is not even saying anything… we don’t shout on him without a cause… it’s always for a good cause like telling him to do his assignment, reading for tests… the reason he was brought here in the first place is that his mom is not feeling well(she has partial stroke). His dad is mostly not around as his job takes him out every now and then… his elder brother is in uni so there’s no one to watch over him….

oluwaseyi0:


Oh, I understand the context a little bit more

Just try to make him comfortable, this may be easier if you there's his age mate at home too

But you still need to understand he's very scared of you guy and you need to find ways to allay the fear, you may make him speak more with his dad, mum and brother on phone regularly, speak to him that you are his family, and you love him and deeply care about him, let him feel he can be free and expressive around you just like your own kids and even if you discipline him you will have done same for your kid too

Just try to toast and win him over

I must also commend you for taking him in and caring for him, not so many family members are that good and reliable in this country again, you guys are really amazing

oluwaseyi0:
He probably doesn't feel at home with you guys

Maybe any small thing you are shouting and reminding him he's not your child and will be deported soon

I feel this is more psychological

Let him stay with his father or mother if two of you can't establish connection with each other

I'm sure if he tell his own real side of the story we will all be shock

Thank YouOoo @ Bold...If I know how to give you 12 likes, I would have done that...
If I was in that kid's shoes, I would rather stay in the village than to stay in a palace were I wasn't needed....
or a place where a teacher will call and report that I was not taking notes and my lord and master tells them to kill me without approaching me first like a kind parent should to know what I was battling with...Why I was not writing notes, or ask if there was bullying and maltreatment going on @ home in the name of discipline or if it was happening in school...

Nonexisting1:
You don't say nothing to him, just allow your cain to do the saying. Flog the shit out of him so that next time he plans to run away, he will remember the horror.

oluwaseyi0:


Oh, I understand the context a little bit more

Just try to make him comfortable, this may be easier if you there's his age mate at home too

But you still need to understand he's very scared of you guy and you need to find ways to allay the fear, you may make him speak more with his dad, mum and brother on phone regularly, speak to him that you are his family, and you love him and deeply care about him, let him feel he can be free and expressive around you just like your own kids and even if you discipline him you will have done same for your kid too

Just try to toast and win him over

I must also commend you for taking him in and caring for him, not so many family members are that good and reliable in this country again, you guys are really amazing

Lamanii22:
he even has so many of his peers here, I have been taking care of some of these kids since when they were babies now that they are grown they still come to our house after school so my cousin gets to play with them…

His dad came for him today though… they’ve gone home… he was telling his dad that we don’t give him food and money and his dad believed him.

His elder brother lived with us since he was three, very sound and intelligent boy, bagged so many awards from secondary school and he gained admission immediately, he’s currently studying mech engineering… I really don’t understand his younger brother, maybe their parents over pampered him.