It is only God that knows what the world is turning to.you ll be baffle at the kind of things kids of today does.I recently caught these two children,brother and sister,the girl who is the eldest is 6yrs old and the brother is about 3yrs old.I ve always suspect the girl to be misleading the younger one into such an unfamous act.i was just entering the sitting room from my own room when i met the girl on the floor with her pants off and the younger brother had also pulled off his short and he was making effort to insert the toin.i stood still at the door and was shocked at the scene before me.I scolded them and i threatened the girl that i ll report to her mother.
Though i ve not taken any action against this.i m reluctant to tell their mum,who is like an aunty to me and also she has been kind to me.i dont want to make her sad about the news and also i dont want this to go unchecked.Please what should i do? was making effort to insert the toin.i stood still at the door and was shocked at the scene before me.I scolded them and i threatened the girl that i ll report to her mother.
Though i ve not taken any action against this.i m reluctant to tell their mum,who is like an aunty to me and also she has been kind to me.i dont want to make her sad about the news and also i dont want this to go unchecked.Please what should i do?

Na wa oh.I think you should just scold them and warn them seriously cos the mum will be heartbroken that you even knw about such thing

First of all it seems that these kids must be watching someone either parents, or porn. Or even perhaps there is someone in the vicinity who may be abusing the kids. 6 is way to young to know what they are doing, please tell the parents ASAP

@High chief.
Exactly my concern,i know the mother would not be happy about this,but i also want a seriouse measure to be taken about this to avert feature occurance or a major catastrophy.The girl is my problem,she has some elements of future waywardness and i fear,just as the mother,what she may becomes.
@mschance.
I agree with you,there is no restriction to what this children see on Tv,couple with the fact that they still sleep in their parent room.

I think u need to let their mother know what you say her kids doing. Those kids may have been opportuned to learn such "act" from their parents who may av been reckless about what they do in their bedroom (since the kids sleep in the same room with them) in the presence of the kids.

Those kids are just too young to even think about such if not by watching mum and dad and want to practice what they saw mummy and daddy doing.

Pls report the issues, but I hope the parents are mature enough to handle them in love with serious warning. They need teaching and programming. If you're concerned about the children feeling betrayed by you, one of the best way to handle it is to tell them yourself that you had to report the issue for their good. Tell them as soon as you have told their mum so as to prepare them to know it's for good.

You caught a six yrs old and a 3yyrs old trying to do the thing and you are reluctant to tell their mom. If you are scared to tell their mom,did you explain to them why they must never do such. the appropriate time to be involved e.t.c even if you explained to them the reasons why their actions are wrong you still need to tell their parents as a responsible adult so that they can watch them closely and maybe make better sleeping arrangements as this may be the case. Kids watching movies with X-rated scenes may also be the cause of this.

Do not report this kids the problem might be with the parents because i am sure they might have seen it somewhere either from the parents or TV. Give them a second chance if you find them again them go straight to the mum.

I believe if you scolded them then they must have known that what they were doing isn't right. Don't report them but pay close attention to what they do together and make sure they don't do it again.

Well it is hard for me to believe that he was trying to penetrate her. I can believe that they were both naked and maybe touching each other. That is not unusual at all. If they were actually trying penetration then you should be worried that that little girl has probably already been raped by an older male adult in the family. A 6 year old simply does not know these things

U are planning to keep this away from the mother? that would be the greatest disservice you would be giving to that family, have u forgotten that they are kids? and would keep doing it until they are convinced its bad?

My advice to Parents, who still have young kids is, please whenever you are making love, please ensure the kids are either asleep or far away from the room, or better still u can properly shut the door, because kids of today are very smart and inquisitive, those kids are certainly practicing what they saw their parents doing.

Please ensure u report the issue to the parents and necessary corrective measures are taken, if not properly handled, then i can tell u those kids have taken the biggest step to a life of promiscuity.

Tell the mother, infact, tell her immediately, because that six year old would be waiting for everyone to leave the house, and would think of kicking it on again, she does not know what she is doing, only practising what she has seen,

Hmm Ronke should I tell your mom what you were doing with me at age 6 too?

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dayokanu:

Hmm Ronke should I tell your mom what you were doing with me at age 6 too?

Dayo, u don come againoooooo

Please & please for the love of God & the future of those children, let the parents know immediately.

I'm thinking, the kids were 'caught' in the sitting room tells me that they might not know the implication of what they were attempting; guilt would have made them take it somewhere hidden.  In addition, I am almost certain that they saw it somewhere else, maybe the parents or maybe even you the poster; thus your reluctance to tell the parents because you know very well that one of the first questions would be " who taught you that? and trust children to mention names.  If you are not involved/responsible, then I apologise.  You say the 6 year old girl has been displaying some wayward tendencies?  She learnt it from someone.

Nevertheless, please let the parents ASAP, this might nip things in the bud, for all we know, someone may be molesting those babies.  Nothing as heartbreaking as the despoiling of a child's innocence.

The mother needs to know asap, it maybe a case of where the child is copying what she seen some where. But on the other hand if the child is been abused the mother needs to know so she can take steps to protect the child from further abuse, This is a situation where you can't keep quiet,

If your comments here are anything to go by, I'd think twice about telling the mother:

ficoram:

@High chief.
Exactly my concern,i know the mother would not be happy about this,but i also want a seriouse measure to be taken about this to avert feature occurance or a major catastrophy.The girl is my problem,she has some elements of future waywardness and i fear,just as the mother,what she may becomes.
@mschance.
I agree with you[b],there is no restriction to what this children see on Tv,couple with the fact that they still sleep in their parent room.[/b]

Unless you know the parents to be reasonable people, DO NOT tell them what you saw their children doing. It sounds like the poor child would probably be punished by her mother and labelled as "wayward" at 6 years old through no fault of her own.

The children have been over-exposed  and probably see what their parents have been doing in their shared room and are simply mimicking them.  If's a way to tell the mother, it would be to encourage the parents to let the children sleep in a separate room.   And saying something along the lines like are  they aware that the children may know when they are being intimate; if the parents aren't careful, the children will start "playing" intimacy outside of the bedroom.

That should be a wake-up call to the parents. If anything happens in future and you're not around, they can't say they weren't warned.

Thank u all for the advice,i must ve bin away for too long to reply on time.i ve informed the mother about it,it seems a simillar thin was reported to her some month ago by the househelp and she delt with the girl then.She felt disapointed,and wish i had flogged them the moment i saw it.she is a woman of virtues and ll never condone such immorality,despite her achievement,she still believe children should be disciplined if they misbehave.she is sure those act were not learnt from them as the children bed is well partition from theirs.we ve collectively taken measures to restrict the children from seeing "just anything'' on Tv,and i pray it ll work.
@Oyinmama.At first i took offence at ur assumption/accusation,but i decided to overlook it, as i see that u are a concern parent too.i m just new to the house,and ve never invited anybody,plus i dont intend staying for long.you are reasoning like an average Nigerian policeman,which i m sure u are or an acquaintance.it is pple like u that discourage others from doing the right thing or helping others,for fear of being labbeled the culprit.What would ve been your conclusion if it was my own butt the said girl open while i was sleeping?Always get your fact before jumping to conclusion.tnx

Wow! I had to go back to my post to be certain of what I wrote originally. I did apologise to you if I was wrong u know; it is however not uncommon to trace such acts to histories of sexual molestations of little girls by older males in the environs (friend/family) or the children being unknowingly exposed to private acts between their older relatives and their boyfriends/girlfriends or even parents as others have mentioned. You are right about my being a concerned parent, but way off about my being an 'average' Nigerian police officer or being linked with any though; if anything, from your previous posts on NL, it appears we are in the same profession, albeit, a much older colleague I should be to you   

It's all good that you have told the mother, I do hope that she will still take a step forward to investigate where the daughter learnt these acts from, so as to mitigate any further occurrences; I am also curious about how she 'dealt' with the girl previously because that was obviously non-effective.

Once again, I apologise.

@oyinmama.
Apology accepted.About being an older colleague,hmm, never be too sure ,but, ,tnx for the advice and the maturity u played.

Na wa. Ficoram I am shocked at the way you and the childs mother handled this. I truly feel sorry for that child. Even if a child walked in on her parents in the act all she will take from it is that mommy was on top of daddy or something like that. She would never ever imagine penetration. So it is one of two things. You are either telling a lie on this child or you and the mother are not very wise. I am sorry but I had to say it. If someone is molesting this child you guys have basically made it impossible for her to ever say anything about it.

@Outstrip.Why would i tell a lie on the little girl.read my previouse post n u ll see that it was not d first time she was caught.corcerning us not been wise wt our action-Örö yën köja ënu ë.

@ ficoram, trust me, much older!!!! Have a good week & take care.

I am not sure why you would say a little girl was trying to get her brother to penetrate her. Everybody knows what is important to them I guess. If I walked in and saw my neighbors baby on another child the first thing that would cross my mind is not to beat up the child. The first thing to do is to find the source of the problem. What can I say again. I guess a good slap fixes every problem for you people.

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@ poster - if this little girl is not being molested - and I hope for your sake this is not the case - I think both you and the mother have taken the wrong stance. As for the mother's virtue, far be it for me to question it, but to think beating the child will deal with the problem is simply burying your head in the sand.

And this is the second time?? She "dealt" with the child the first time after the househelp reported the child - how? Should the mother not have started monitoring her child/ren from the time of the first incident and try to get to the root of the matter?

I strongly suspect that the girl is being sexually abused and flogging her is not the right way to handle this.It will only cause her to withdraw, shutdown and assume the abuse is her fault.I initially thought she must have watched her parents or some other adults or some movie but

ficoram:

Thank u all for the advice,i must ve bin away for too long to reply on time.i ve informed the mother about it,it seems a simillar thin was reported to her some month ago by the househelp and she delt with the gir[/b]l then.She felt disapointed,and wish i had flogged them the moment i saw it.she is a woman of virtues and ll never condone such immorality,despite her achievement,she still believe children should be disciplined if they misbehave.[b]she is sure those act were not learnt from them as the children bed is well partition from theirs.we ve collectively taken measures to restrict the children from seeing "just anything'' on Tv,and i pray it ll work.
@Oyinmama.At first i took offence at your assumption/accusation,but i decided to overlook it, as i see that u are a concern parent too.i m just new to the house,and ve never invited anybody,plus i dont intend staying for long.you are reasoning like an average Nigerian policeman,which i m sure u are or an acquaintance.it is pple like u that discourage others from doing the right thing or helping others,for fear of being labbeled the culprit.What would ve been your conclusion if it was my own butt the said girl open while i was sleeping?Always get your fact before jumping to conclusion.tnx

Where does a 6 year old then learn penetration?

@N101.i know what i saw and couldnt ve mistaken it for something else.whether penetration was attempted or not is not the issue,what matters is that the Kids were caught wt an immoral act.I know they ve bin expose may be due to the carelessness of the adults arround.But u need to know that nobody is perfect and most kids see us(we the adult) and atempt to practice what they see.it is now left to us to decide either to punish or not, depending on our school of thought about child discipline.i am of the popular saying that "SPARE THE ROD AND SPOIL THE CHLILD".I am sure the bible(proverb 13:24;24:13-14) and the Quran does not go against punishing children if they do wrong.

When you are talking about children discipline it entails three component.first is an healthy relationship btw parent and children,base on love and care.Two is positive re-enforcement when a child perform any good act.Third is punishment or deprivation of what the child values when they misbehaves.thank you.:13-14) and the Quran does not go against punishing children if they do wrong.

When you are talking about children discipline it entails three component.first is an healthy relationship btw parent and children,base on love and care.Two is positive re-enforcement when a child perform any good act.Third is punishment or deprivation of what the child values when they misbehaves.thank you.

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Anyhow Somebody got to 'CHOP' the cane.Mind u this is not a civilised society,it is 9ja.Moreover in civilised society i am aware social service takes custody (1)if in the process of punishing a child he /she sustain bruises,fracture bone or brake a tooth.2,An habitual child molester.