Beaf!:

Physically:

When i look at myself in the mirrow i wonder what kept me from marrying my wife since the first few months we have met (we courted for one and half years).

Emotionally:
I b.ang my wife with all the relaxations in this world without any thought of the HIVs and the drama of 'i missed my period' etc back in the days.

Financially:
So so prudent in spending and managing my finance.

Hyginically:
My wife is something else! She can even 'inspect' my shoes to make sure no sand or any dirt is attached to it before 'allowing' me into the house, can u imagine?

My marriage is 18 months and 15 days today and i always silently pray to God to let it continue this way till the end.

mummy3:

You've just got an admission into JSS 1, my brother you never see nothing. How can it continue this way with children that are yet to arrive in future. by the time you start buying pampers, cerelac, sma, toys, clothes, shoes, medical bills, text books, school fees etc, you'll now realise that life can never remain the same and you'll now realise that your wife has slightly or heavily changed from colour blue to colour red.
I wish you wisdom and understanding to lead your home shia.

Da Doctor:


[b]BLATANT LIES!! SO THEY TOLD ME EVEN BEFORE I GOT MARRIED!

THE RESPONSIBILITIES WOULD ONLY INCREASE

IT IS OPTIONAL TO LET THE INITIAL CHANGE. ITS A THING OF THE WILL

FOR ME IT HAS BEEN AS IT WERE FROM THE ONSET. WE BOTH BEAR IT IN OUR HEART AND IT HAS WORKED AND I AM OLD IN THIS INST.[/b]

NOTE THAT THE WOMAN RESPONDS TO CHANGES FROM THE MAN EITHER GOOD OR BAD SO, WE HAVE TO WORK ON SUSTAINANCE OF THE GOOD OLD DAYS, AFTERALL THE WOMAN WE MARRIED REMAINS A HUMAN AND NOT A LOG.

mummy3:

My brother it seems your monthly pay is very good that's why you are not experiencing it
Just try not to give your wife what you"ve been giving her now, if she'll not show you her true color.  or come out of your job for 2-3months, u'll come and confess your experience openly here.  Dont you know without enough cash marriage wont flow well? (quarell, disrespect, etc)

mummy3:

You've just got an admission into JSS 1, my brother you never see nothing. How can it continue this way with children that are yet to arrive in future. by the time you start buying pampers, cerelac, sma, toys, clothes, shoes, medical bills, text books, school fees etc, you'll now realise that life can never remain the same and you'll now realise that your wife has slightly or heavily changed from colour blue to colour red.
I wish you wisdom and understanding to lead your home shia.

xynerise:

After marriage I stop eating junks cos she gives me d best Nigeria dishes. I stop coming back home late from business, instead I ask some of my employees to stay till the late hour while I go home and prepare my wife's food(I enjoy doing that since she became preg). What else? Well I dont drive rough again

maran1983:

For me, a whole lot has changed.
1st off, i used to love partying and having a good time every now and then, only for me to marry the epitome of boredom, no more outings.
Secondly, i'm a neat person but my husband is chief of slobs, so i tend to find myself cleaning like a mad person almost daily.
Thirdly, my husband is couch potato, so i spend most of mt time running up and down getting chores done like a jackie!

TeskyMan:

@ Mumumy3

You are right. Only an unrealistic person will tell you that, there is not much different when married without kids and when the kids set in.

For me a lot has changed.
No 1 . thing is that I can "b-a-n-g" my wife without the fair of "Have you seen your period?" In fact, we do am like waterrrrrr.

2. My sense of responsibility increased. Before we gave birth to my first son, I was like, whats the big deal in marriage sef? I am free, I still do stuffs i used to do while I was single and bla bla,  but when our first son came, oh lalala. Na then, I come no say there is different between Acid and Water. Hay, I started nagging, I mean serious nagging. I bet it in life and I say it with all authority, No other woman in this world can tolerate me like my wife. She is the woman for me and over time she has made me learn a lot.

3. Once I get a raise at work, the next thing is shopping speeee - I shop as if there is no tomorrow. You can imagine that I've gotten a raise for over 1 year and I hadly shop for myself. I'll rather shop for my 2 boys or their mum before thinking of mine. I dont know why? Maybe I love them more. At times, I would like - Is it not my money? Can't I spend it the way I like? But no I would rather go shop for my wife than Shop for myself. Somebody say na juju, ohhh I no mind jorrr.

4. Spiritually incline - This one I know say if no be say I marry, hummm!!!!

5. Better management of my finances. Hey my wife is an "akagum" - "eshin race course". When you are on the look for master planner when u talk about money, then come to my wife. In fact, I just have to say this, my wife manages me financially and not me managing her. At times she will advice me to do something. U know we men now, with our ego, i'll start my nagging. Na so she go dey siddon look me. Later, na that thing I go do. I respect her for that. Master Investor - I give it to her.

6. Sexxy Fun!! - Thank God nobody know my house or don see ma face - Na online we dey. See my wife and I experiment with sex a lot - I tell you, this is like a bond between us. We do it @ odd places and odd times. Before we got married, she was like, no I don't like it here, no my mum is calling me bla bla,  But now, we can have "quicky" or "indomie" any where. She understood those slangs, when I say Indomie or quicky - Ohh my wife understands it bajebaje. My wife knows that I love it and she gives me benevolently, sacrificially,anyday, anytime, anywhere infact everytime. She knows i don't like the normal "Missionary style". She know say new day, new style. I thank God. All glory to him.

7. I'm putting on weight on yearly basis. My wife is a good cook, africa dishes. She has to scold me to start gym.

8. We'll be celebrating our 5yrs anniversary very soon - My wife never add an inch of weight. Abeg wetin cause am? After 2 boys, she still be lepa shandiiiiiii,


I'll come back for more,

jennykadry:

I am still working on my temper, so nothing for that side . Even though my man is giving me lectures on anger management(session 213), he still likes(he hasn't told me but told my sister) the fact that I say what's on my mind and move on without holding grudges.

I used to dress half Unclad when I am in the house but now I have changed. He wouldn't let me wear skimpy clothes for fear of visitors knocking on our door , like say I cannot run into the room to change on time.

My intimate urges are high up the heavens.

I used to be a rough driver but not anymore. He would make me promise not to drive rough and follow the speed limit and only until I agreed to his terms would he get into the car.


[b]THE ONE THING I WANT TO CHANGE IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW IS MY CAR. FROM BANJO TO RR SPORTS. Does anybody know of a prophet that can hypnotize or charm my man to do as I say?

Beaf!:

Mummy3,

I think you got it all wrong. I think the picture you are trying to give suits your very person. Dont give me the "all women are the same" poo!

Pampers, Cerelac, Toys?? If i can buy new cloths, shoes, manage medical bills, pay my wife's tuition to pursue her 2nd degree, you think i blink when doing such for OWN baby child(s)? come on,

I have so many examples around me of those who can afford these things you've mentioned in folds but still crying out so loud. I love my wife and the kids that are underway and  i can assure you i am not rich but working very hard continue this new found life!

Let me tell you im enjoying my marriage but at least 70-80%
Mine is not as worse as others
There"s no how you'll not experience clash
I know you'll not come out with the truth
You want to tell me you've not had any quarell with ur wife?
in your case, It seem your wife is older than you by 10years
bring out ten men and ask them how are they enjoying their marriages, let them just tell you the real truth
What i wrote was because of what i have been seeing in other peoples home, my neigbours etc
Ur wife u feel is an angel, u dont know if other men are scrolling her somewhere
I know you and i know the wife you're talking about
shit

Beaf!:
Physically:

When i look at myself in the mirrow i wonder what kept me from marrying my wife since the first few months we have met (we courted for one and half years).