Greattestman:
I've noticed the drastic change in my mother's behaviour towards me such as compelling me to rent my own house, shouting at me for any little mistake, not helping me financially and even badmothing me to neighbours.

I took the case to my uncle (her elder brother), he said for not helping me with money, the reason is that my mother is saving money for her upcoming traditional wedding. I was surprised.

When I came back home and asked her, she unleashed anger on me and almost curse me to death. The worst part of it is giving me ultimatum to vacate my own father's house. Who the hell does that? I can't take that!!!

Greattestman:
I've noticed the drastic change in my mother's behaviour towards me such as compelling me to rent my own house, shouting at me for any little mistake, not helping me financially and even badmothing me to neighbours.

I took the case to my uncle (her elder brother), he said for not helping me with money, the reason is that my mother is saving money for her upcoming traditional wedding. I was surprised.
Respectfully remind her who the real owner is. Besides she is supposed to marry to jer husband's house.
When I came back home and asked her, she unleashed anger on me and almost curse me to death. The worst part of it is giving me ultimatum to vacate my own father's house. Who the hell does that? I can't take that!!!

othermen:
Your father would have remarried and that would still be his house. You have to get your own house. A different pursuit from this unhealthy entitlement will only make you better overall.

Greattestman:
I've noticed the drastic change in my mother's behaviour towards me such as compelling me to rent my own house, shouting at me for any little mistake, not helping me financially and even badmothing me to neighbours.

I took the case to my uncle (her elder brother), he said for not helping me with money, the reason is that my mother is saving money for her upcoming traditional wedding. I was surprised.

When I came back home and asked her, she unleashed anger on me and almost curse me to death. The worst part of it is giving me ultimatum to vacate my own father's house. Who the hell does that? I can't take that!!!

Greattestman:
Guy I can't be foolish. Leave so that she and her stupid husband will birth rodents to take my father's house? Lissen, if my mother doesn't back down on this then it will be a war between us.

BestMan001:


Sorry to say, your mum has been charmed.

How can she send you packing in your father's house?

Could it be she was the person who killed your dad?

This alleged new husband abi step dad, lacks shame to allow an arrogant woman to house him.

Solution?

Don't leave the house

Leaving the house will show that you're weak, and she with this man might sell the house and then buy another.

Avoid her, her money, food. This will save your life.

Always discuss new develelopment on this matter with your uncle (if only he can bring solution).

Pray, pray, pray.

Johnn78:

Omo l am not Victor o.
Just going thru the guys thread & l followed with interest, a previous thread and was completely horrified at the mom pressuring him & giving him ultimatum to pack out at just 20/21yo

I don't care whether the story is fake or not. Drop advice Waka pass. Sb going thru a similar situation might learn one or two things from there.
Afterall, Wetin dey make teens & youths of today commit suicide these days na small thing when nor reach anything. The other thread on front page today, a 400l student going through a low time was just overwhelmed by inability to afford a 50k phone & commited suicide.

Some suicides can start out as small still voice in form of a cry for help in public forum & social media. Deliquent behaviours, feelings of low self worth, trolling, disturbing behaviours, opening complaining threads,Some can even say it's their cousin or friend sth bad just described & soliciting advice for, just happened to and not them etc.

You never know, leaving a kind & constructive comment, could go a long way in helping suml out there facing sth similar.

Greattestman:
All these unreasonable advice irritates me like hell. Will I build the house with my mouth? Is it easy? Can you bear that?

Greattestman:
Is this the only idea you can come up with? You are still a baby.

Mercury12:
then advice him on what to do. Perhaps kill his mom or the step daddy.
I don't know how else y'all wanna get around this other than berate the mom and tell op to stand his ground against his mom. If he choose that path he should also expect the unexpected.
Life is about making choices.
Choices with good bad outcomes.
Everyone is free to make their choice anyway

advanceDNA:


No reasonable father will chase his son from property that will be his latter becos of pvssy he jam on the street.......

..lets call a spade a spade....the woman is being very irrational over nothing....

is it because she doesnt want her son to hear her moan.?? Or the man doesnt want the son around...?? ...its not like the son told her not to remarry......

Pootle:

Greattestman:
I've noticed the drastic change in my mother's behaviour towards me such as compelling me to rent my own house, shouting at me for any little mistake, not helping me financially and even badmothing me to neighbours.

I took the case to my uncle (her elder brother), he said for not helping me with money, the reason is that my mother is saving money for her upcoming traditional wedding. I was surprised.

When I came back home and asked her, she unleashed anger on me and almost curse me to death. The worst part of it is giving me ultimatum to vacate my own father's house. Who the hell does that? I can't take that!!!

Greattestman:
All these unreasonable advice irritates me like hell. Will I build the house with my mouth? Is it easy? Can you bear that?

Ndidi2:
best advice so far..

caesymore:



Last last Men wey understand still dey NL. My Father will say Man life's through the glory of his struggle

You're the Best, Man.

Greattestman:
Guy I can't be foolish. Leave so that she and her stupid husband will birth rodents to take my father's house? Lissen, if my mother doesn't back down on this then it will be a war between us.

Mercury12:

If it happen I will go and hustle and built a mansion that surpass that of my father. My father hustle to have his properties and as a man I will struggle to do same and even surpass him so he can be proud of me wherever he is. . .

Your problem is seeing your mom with another man and you can't stand it. You hate it and it same for many boys. But what can you do?
Stand your ground against your mom and get poison or you mistakenly harm her or your future step daddy? The constant back and forth between yall will be toxic and life threatening so the earlier you move out the better for everyone...
Nobody is taking away your right or claim to the property because no can take that away if that is your fear

Mercury12:
First of all what is your tribe?
For Bini people in Edo state
First born male usually inherits the parent property.
Yoruba culture. The parents properties are share among the male and female kids.
Igbo culture. The properties goes to the males alone
I don't know much about other tribes aside these 3

All these happen only in the absence of a will.

I will advice you leave for a rented apartment.
Nah person wey dey alive dey inherit property o.
It is a cold world and expect the unexpected from anyone including ones family members. So before someone harm you any way use your head and focus on your life.
Its a life challenge. Accept it.

You sef go build the house wey pass that your father own .

Devonelle:
How old are you? Do you have a job? Can you afford to rent a small place or even squat with friends and extended family?


Omo, if I were you, I’ll run and leave that toxic mother, she will drain you mentally over time. When she don’t see or hear from you after some months, na she go come beg.

Mark my words, she will not enjoy her new marriage. The man will show her pepper! This one she is saving up money and kicking out her own blood for crawcraw infested prick. It won’t end well.

Op be strong. This is a push for a new start

Mercury12:
oya go and kee your mother or your future step Daddy
Be a man and k*ll them

That is the fuulish advice pleasant to your likes ears..
Are you happy now?

fineboynl:
Did your father build the house? If yes the house belongs to you and she has no right to send you away. Stop touching her things or money. Stay put there but spend yoir money for feeding and other things don’t use her things.

If she plans to bring a man into that house never allowed it. Destroyed the marriage and give reasons why it shouldn’t hold. Except they plan to rent house. Never allowed that in that house.

Greattestman:
I've noticed the drastic change in my mother's behaviour towards me such as compelling me to rent my own house, shouting at me for any little mistake, not helping me financially and even badmothing me to neighbours.

I took the case to my uncle (her elder brother), he said for not helping me with money, the reason is that my mother is saving money for her upcoming traditional wedding. I was surprised.

When I came back home and asked her, she unleashed anger on me and almost curse me to death. The worst part of it is giving me ultimatum to vacate my own father's house. Who the hell does that? I can't take that!!!