I am a 28yr old lady .......pls I need advice I dnt know if something is wrong with me or it's my dad that is being over reactive cos I dnt have a mum anymore......my family thinks I am insane cos I stood my ground dat I do not want to get married....ryt frm time I had always wanted my own kids bt not marriage,cos I feel I haven't gotten anything out of life...I feel so unfulfilled with my level of success no1 believes I am normal...my parents marriage are d only peaceful marriage I ever experienced evryoda1 is a whack....I am currently pregnant and I am all excited Abt my pregnancy bt I dnt want to marry my baby daddy even if he is ready to take d big step.... nothing jst freaks me Abt d institution....I feel all d stress doesn't worth it,jst cos u want to be under a man,pple Even end up in psychiatric homes in d name of marriage,many unfulfilled dreams lies under d Institution to an extent I have it all planned out and I can take care of myself and my baby.... without my baby daddy.....I jst want to serve God make a nice footballer out of my kid..adopt another child and be happy does it mean something is wrong with me ...pls advice me ...I jst need other opinions apart from my family's own

Just stop being hard on yourself

You dont even care how your son will treat other women when he grows up without a father figure.

I just dey laugh. You are an adult. Any step you take you bear the consequences whether good or bad.

Cutehector:
You dont even care how your son will treat other women when he grows up without a father figure.

What has her decision got to do with how her son treats other women?

Jovialjune1:



What has her decision got to do with how her son treats other women?

it has a whole lot to do. Raise up a son as a single mother and revert when he is of age

Cutehector:
it has a whole lot to do. Raise up a son as a single mother and revert when he is of age

Raising up a son as a single mother has NOTHING to do with anything, because we have men that grew up with both parents who turned out to be worse than the devil.

Jovialjune1:



What has her decision got to do with how her son treats other women?

If u are married,u will know how important that narration is.

ibechris:




If u are married,u will know how important that narration is.

I am married, and I don't see any importance in it, because there are worse people in existence today despite living and growing up with both parents

Live and let live.

The devil is always seeking to destroy what God created. Marriage is the only institution God created. God didn't create educational institutions. This OP will definitely want to further her education & does not see anything wrong with that, but has a problem with marriage.

People celebrate more of the problems in marriage than the benefits & rewards in it. This is just the hand work of the devil

Mainchip:
I am a 28yr old lady .......pls I need advice I dnt know if something is wrong with me or it's my dad that is being over reactive cos I dnt have a mum anymore......my family thinks I am insane cos I stood my ground dat I do not want to get married....ryt frm time I had always wanted my own kids bt not marriage,cos I feel I haven't gotten anything out of life...I feel so unfulfilled with my level of success no1 believes I am normal...my parents marriage are d only peaceful marriage I ever experienced evryoda1 is a whack....I am currently pregnant and I am all excited Abt my pregnancy bt I dnt want to marry my baby daddy even if he is ready to take d big step.... nothing jst freaks me Abt d institution....I feel all d stress doesn't worth it,jst cos u want to be under a man,pple Even end up in psychiatric homes in d name of marriage,many unfulfilled dreams lies under d Institution to an extent I have it all planned out and I can take care of myself and my baby.... without my baby daddy.....I jst want to serve God make a nice footballer out of my kid..adopt another child and be happy does it mean something is wrong with me ...pls advice me ...I jst need other opinions apart from my family's own

If within uou, you know that you are capable of taking care of your plans and you don't need a man's contribution

Go ahead it's your choice

Mainchip:
I am a 28yr old lady .......pls I need advice I dnt know if something is wrong with me or it's my dad t want to serve God make a nice footballer out of my kid..adopt another child and be happy does it mean something is wrong with me ...pls advice me ...I jst need other opinions apart from my family's own

I don't see anything wrong with your decision or mindset.

My concerns is if you kept your baby papa in the loop before you got pregnant?

Else I feel you have used him to drive your dreams. Have you imagined the kind of life he also envisaged (not having a child outside his final family) for himself. Since you insisted on no marriage.

This woman is only seeing today but she is not seeing tomorrow.

It's your choice

Selfish beech!

I hope the pregnancy doesn’t come out as a boy child.

Follow your heart. You’re an adult.