Good day NL.. I need your advice
Straight to the point

I happen to be the first male child in my family and my dad is late. Someone asking for my immidiate sister's hand in marriage but the truth is that he's not financially stable but insist in coming to pay for her dowry.
Secondly, he's not a graduate yet but had (Diploma) but telling my sister that he'll further his education after marriage. To my understanding, the marriage wants to be foot by his family..

Pls NL help me with your advice because I have a strong final say about this. Thank you

MARSHALDEMSA202:
Good day NL.. I need your advice
Straight to the point

I happen to be the first male child in my family and my dad is late. Someone asking for my immidiate sister's hand in marriage but the truth is that he's not financially stable but insist in coming to pay for her dowry.
Secondly, he's not a graduate yet but had (Diploma) but telling my sister that he'll further his education after marriage. To my understanding, the marriage wants to be foot by his family..

Pls NL help me with your advice because I have a strong final say about this. Thank you

Financial stability isn't a criterion for marriage. If I tell you my story, e go shock you. Once God approves the union,they should move on

Op you better reason this matter well,any man his family is helping financially to marry a wife is not yet fit to start up a home,he should atleast be able to sponsor his marriage on his own or maybe with little assistance from few people but not depend solely on his family for help,op you better think of the kind of life your sister would live in that marriage,can that man be able to take care of your sister and her children when she starts having kids,i think you should first advise him to get something tangible doing before think of marriage.

Any man that is brave to pay the woman brideprice, is able to take care his family

Op disregard all those advice from people above me.

Buhari and his satanic cabal have shattered the Nigerian economy, inflation is on the rise, prices of food items keep soaring on daily basis.

Ask yourself if you would like your sis to be soaking garri in the man's house.

Tell that mofo to go work harder and come back.

Only a financial stable man should consider marriage,take the advise of motivational speakers at your sisters risk.

Eriokanmi:
Financial stability isn't a criterion for marriage. If I tell you my story, e go shock you. Once God approves the union,they should move on

It is mr man,stop decieving yourself,you and i know that no marriage can stand well when the man is not a bit financially stable even though God approves it.

Reasons why I say MODERN marriages are for f00lsih, weak,low self esteem,exploited MANGINAS...

@op,tell that young man that he is a simp, he shouldn't part ways with his resources(bride price) just to get laid, as that is simply prostitut!on...


With due respect, if your sister ain't a virgin and you guys have the gut to collect any shi shi, TONDA go flog una yansh, but if she's a virgin, then Its cool according to traditions..


Any sane man out there should not buy(bride price) the cow, when the milk (pucci) was free..

Why do some real men feel glad to take themselves to prisons(marriage).

Men are tools to be used, men act like a leverage for vvomen to get something(comfort,marriage and finance)..

Who raised these f00lish m£n for christ sake

Thanks sir

the man and your sister Should be able to meet their basic needs like shelter,food and clothing...IF NOT TELL THE BOTH OF THEM TO ABORT THAT MISSION...and they should have adequate financial plan before having babies...


TRUST ME,A LIFE THAT THEY WILL DEPEND ON OTHER PEOPLE (FAMILY) TO SURVIVE IS A WRONG PLAN AND IT WILL FRUSTRATE THEM AT THE END... I'm not saying earn millions but earn enough to meet 90% of your family needs...if the man is jobless, advise your sister to tell him to wait...if not......at the end your sis will be a burden to you all...

good luck

Lonestar124:
Any man that is brave to pay the woman brideprice, is able to take care his family

You mean even been paid for by someone ?

Does he have a vision he's working towards?
Does he have set goals, achievable ones he's focusing on?
If yes, it's worth the risk.

virginprincess:

Please ma say something

Chee59:
Does he have a vision he's working towards?
Does he have set goals, achievable ones he's focusing on?
If yes, it's worth the risk.

Well, he works under someone

That decision or 90℅ not yours to make but your sis. Or is she a minor?
Yours is to caution her or were you the one who brought the man home for her!!!
Come to think of it.
The sister you're talking about is she a graduate? Does she have a job that can take care of her financial needs?
Why are you making it look like the young man committed a crime!

rickpat:
the man and your sister Should be able to meet their basic needs like shelter,food and clothing...IF NOT TELL THE BOTH OF THEM TO ABORT THAT MISSION...and they should have adequate financial plan before having babies...


TRUST ME,A LIFE THAT THEY WILL DEPEND ON OTHER PEOPLE (FAMILY) TO SURVIVE IS A WRONG PLAN AND IT WILL FRUSTRATE THEN AT THE END... I'm not saying earn millions but earn enough to meet 90% of your family needs...if the man is jobless, advise your sister to tell him to wait...if not......at the end your sis will be a burden to you all...

good luck

Thanks sir. But the truth is, woman behavior is something else when it comes to the one they want to marry. Ones advice can never be positive to them

MARSHALDEMSA202:


Well, he works under someone

Sounds like an apprenticeship. Correct me if I'm wrong.
Then let him focus on that work, master the work and become his own boss.
Let him set an achievable target, let's say in 1 year, 3 year's time, 5 year's time. Targets he should meet by the time the period elapses.
A man, in fact, an adult should have a certain level of financial independence before stepping into marriage.

Nyascobar1414:
Reasons why I say MODERN marriages are for f00lsih, weak,low self esteem,exploited MANGINAS...

@op,tell that young man that he is a simp, he shouldn't part ways with his resources(bride price) just to get laid, as that is simply prostitut!on...


With due respect, if your sister ain't a virgin and you guys have the gut to collect any shi shi, TONDA go flog una yansh, but if she's a virgin, then Its cool according to traditions..


Any sane man out there should not buy(bride price) the cow, when the milk (pucci) was free..

Why do some real men feel glad to take themselves to prisons(marriage).

Men are tools to be used, men act like a leverage for vvomen to get something(comfort,marriage and finance)..

Who raised these f00lish m£n for christ sake

Thanks for your contribution.. pls sir if it's your sister, how would you handle this. Thanks

Creamcrest:
Op disregard all those advice from people above me.

Buhari and his satanic cabal have shattered the Nigerian economy, inflation is on the rise, prices of food items keep soaring on daily basis.

Ask yourself if you would like your sis to be soaking garri in the man's house.

Tell that mofo to go work harder and come back.

Only a financial stable man should consider marriage,take the advise of motivational speakers at your sisters risk.

Thanks sir

MARSHALDEMSA202:


Thanks sir. But the truth is, woman behavior is something else when it comes to the one they want to marry. Ones advice can never be positive to them

just do your part and leave the rest

MARSHALDEMSA202:

Please ma say something

I Just modified my comment.

Medianna:
That decision or 90℅ not yours to make but your sis. Or is she a minor?
Yours is to caution her or were you the one who brought the man home for her!!!
Come to think of it.
The sister you're talking about is she a graduate? Does she have a job that can take care of her financial needs?
Why are you making it look like the young man committed a crime!

She's currently studying in the university

MARSHALDEMSA202:


Thanks for your contribution.. pls sir if it's your sister, how would you handle this. Thanks

I wont handle anything sir, I will only sit somewhere and pity the man, cos married men are simply Loosers.

MARSHALDEMSA202:
Good day NL.. I need your advice
Straight to the point

I happen to be the first male child in my family and my dad is late. Someone asking for my immidiate sister's hand in marriage but the truth is that he's not financially stable but insist in coming to pay for her dowry.
Secondly, he's not a graduate yet but had (Diploma) but telling my sister that he'll further his education after marriage. To my understanding, the marriage wants to be foot by his family..

Pls NL help me with your advice because I have a strong final say about this. Thank you

Is your sister too finacially stable??

MARSHALDEMSA202:
Good day NL.. I need your advice
Straight to the point

I happen to be the first male child in my family and my dad is late. Someone asking for my immidiate sister's hand in marriage but the truth is that he's not financially stable but insist in coming to pay for her dowry.
Secondly, he's not a graduate yet but had (Diploma) but telling my sister that he'll further his education after marriage. To my understanding, the marriage wants to be foot by his family..

Pls NL help me with your advice because I have a strong final say about this. Thank you

If he’s not financially stable how is he going to look after your sister?

Are they supposed to live on love alone?

MARSHALDEMSA202:


She's currently studying in the university

So in your mind now, she doesn't know what she's getting herself into abi?
Caring big bro,
Let her use her tongue to count her teeth.
Any decision she makes support her, no body knows tomorrow.
God forbid, if she starve in the marriage, it was the consequences of her decisions not yours.

virginprincess:
Op you better reason this matter well,any man his family is helping financially to marry a wife is not yet fit to start up a home,he should atleast be able to sponsor his marriage on his own or maybe with little assistance from few people but not depend solely on his family for help,op you better think of the kind of life your sister would live in that marriage,can that man be able to take care of your sister and her children when she starts having kids,i think you should first advise him to get something tangible doing before think of marriage.

Thank you ma

Medianna:

So in your mind now, she doesn't know what she's getting herself into abi?
Caring big bro,
Let her use her tongue to count her teeth.
Any decision she makes support her, no body knows tomorrow.
God forbid, if she starve in the marriage, it was the consequences of her decisions not yours.

Thanks ma. She's my immidiate elder sister

What beats my imagination is, why would a man be rushing to hang liabilities on himself.

Just let the guy and his family know that your sister is a big liability.

Make them understand how useless and opportunist she is.

With this, you keep your sister to yourself and help save the young man.