Age has always been a factor in our environment, when a lady at eighteen to twenty years old gets married, some people raise eyebrow, when sisters in the age bracket go into divorce, the whole society shout down in condemnation.

Getting married early is a fantastic decision, between brothers and sisters that are capable physically, psychologically and financially, indeed, early marriage is better than fornication.

Many of these young sisters did not marry themselves, they actually got married to men who should take good care of them, but unfortunately, they are shown the way out few weeks or months of the marriage. So, we do not just tongue lash the sisters alone, what about the brothers?

There are many factors responsible for this, these young sisters are easy to marry and divorce respectively, they get infatuated in a mere relationship, and most unrefined men take advantage of this. Majority of them are still in school or acquiring skills, they need money, gifts and attention, and they meet opposite sexes on daily basis that offer some of these things to lure them, getting entangled will be inevitable.

At that age, a ma sha Allah sister can marry a brother because of his beard, trousers, the appearance is enough for her, she does not realize that there is big difference between religiousity and compatibility. In our Madrasah, these sisters run after their male teachers, and if the teacher is not well cultured, immorality can take place. There is nothing wrong if a sister is interested in a brother, but using a third party arrangement remains the best method, when a sister makes herself too available for a brother, she will be taken for granted.

Due to lack of knowledge on relationship and marriage, most ma sha brothers find it easy to entice them with little things. A man once told a sister that, 'you can send your nude picture to me, because religion permits me to see what I want to marry", he is actually lying, but the sister is naive, more so, she is hearing that from a ma sha brother, she complied and did unpredictable things.

As brothers, we need to be mindful our actions, the rate at which these sisters are complaining of sexual harassment and assault is extremely high, sleeping with them under the guise of 'I want to marry you', is not acceptable, stop taking advantage of their inexperience to maltreat them sexually and emotionally, the consequence of fornication and adultery is very severe.

We should be very careful of our dealings, both brothers and sisters should seek knowledge about relationship and marriage, your Western and Arabic Education should be extended, in order to perform better in a marital relationship.

Always pay attention to details.

Abu Sheikh

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It is not a do or die affair, if you're not interested in the marriage, you are tired of her, no problem but chasing out a woman that has five children for you, without any form of financial assistance is cruel. How do you want her to cater for five children all alone?

You have remarried, no problem, but as you are wining and dining with your new your wife, remember your ex wife and five children are roaming the streets.

Please, if you are a man, and you are in this type of lifestyle, correct the abnormalities.

Always pay attention to details.

Abu Sheikh

JAZAAKUMULLAHU KHAIRAN.

THANK YOU SISTER FOR SHARING THIS.

THE SUMMARY, LET'S ALL FEAR ALLAH (brothers and sisters, SEEK HIS FORGIVENESS AND FLEE FROM ZINA.

BECAUSE MAY BE STANDING BEFORE HIM SOONER THAN WE THINK.