A friend who sees me as a bestie that can be trusted on family issues has a problem, but I think the answer I gave her seems not good enough.


My friend, a female has =N=9m savings this year, her husband who pays for everything in the house to her airtime sometimes has =N= 1.3 m savings, they are to pay house rent of #1. 2 m this month, knowing fully well that the year is about to end and rhey have expenses such as, their child's school fees is by January, rent, feeding and other miscellaneous expenses, the husband's business is not as it used to be, my friend insisted that it's her husband's responsibility to provide shelter for her, that "his money is our money, my money is my money".

What other advice can I give, as I already told her to tell her husband that they should go and buy #10m house, and she asked me that with whose money?

Please urgent advise is needed, as she might be loosing her home at the end of the year.

Oyindamolah:

"his money is our money, my money is my money"

JeffreyJunior:
Your money is our money but my money is my money.

Run away from anyone with this mentality whether man or woman.

Sadly, it's a mantra one often hears from ladies.

Houseofglam7:
Some MF posted this last year. Why y’all churning old tales??


https://www.nairaland.com/6871801/urgent-needed

Truvelisback:
The wife is a Stingy thief. If i were to be the man, i will singlehandedly buy the house with my own money. As for the wife, she isn't trustworthy. She could leave at anytime. Although, i know that this story isn't real.

Oyindamolah:
my friend insisted that it's her husband's responsibility to provide shelter for her, that "his money is our money, my money is my money".

What other advice can I give, as I already told her to tell her husband that they should go and buy #10m house, and she asked me that with whose money?

Please urgent advise is needed, as she might be loosing her home at the end of the year.

Truvelisback:
What?

Stevenbright:


If they buy 10m naira house, they will use their teeth to furnish and equip it right?

Anyway, a 6-7m naira house will not be a bad idea. They can use I .5m to furnish and equip it.

The remaining cash can be splited into two. One part for immediate needs like school fees, food, etc and the second part to remain as savings.

Baloranking:


House 10m

Nazgul:
Tell her that she has no iota of love for her husband...she just married him because she felt it was time to get married and age wasn't on her side.

If she cannot render support to a man she calls her husband, she has no business being with him, she just just get a divorce and leave that innocent hardworking man alone.

Kobojunkie:
Love, in marriage, is defined by the agreement between the man and woman. If the husband was well aware of this her "my money is mine and his money is ours" side of her, and still went ahead with it, it means he accepts it as part of her love for him. Who then are you to declare it ain't love?

Nazgul:
1. Go back and read the article this time slowly, then come back and read what you wrote here and ask yourself if you're making any sense.

2. I had a roommate during my university days. Of course my money was my money and his money was his money. But whenever I'm financially down, he comes in and supports me and I'll reciprocate when he's financially down. Did we have rules in the house...yes. Did the rule include us sharing our money equally amongst each other...no. But we knew when to come in and help one another...that's what friendship is all about. We weren't couples, we were just roommates.

3. Now look at the woman in question, she has kids for this man, and she's on the verge of loosing her house but she remains adamant because in her weired mind spending her money on a family she's part of is wrong. And you're here blabbing about agreement. What nonsense agreement. When you genuinely care about someone, his/her happiness would be your uttermost pirority. She doesn't love her husband... period.

Cutehector:
Oyindamolah why you go plagiarize another person thread?