Truvelisback:
Good day, fellas. Ladies aren't the only ones that are pressured by their parents, love ones or family members to get married. Guys too face the same pressure.

Candidlady:


so we can also call men EVENING NEWSPAPER ba?

Nazgul:

Aside from maybe your pastor, guys don't really receive that much pressure like girls.

Your friends would even want you to remain single so that you guys can continue to hangout together till midnight.

Nazgul:

Aside from maybe your pastor, guys don't really receive that much pressure like girls.

Your friends would even want you to remain single so that you guys can continue to hangout together till midnight.

Truvelisback:
U can't. A man can get married at any age and still bear children unlike u ladies that can approach menopause from age 40. Men at 40, 50, 60, 70 and above can still father children.

Candidlady:


with this you wrote.. can you see that the pressure is more on women..

Tallesty1:

You are not being honest here.

The pressure is equal on both genders, we just know how to handle it.
Once you are above 30 and employed, the next thing that people expect from you is to marry and they are more vocal about it than when it is a lady.

From your parents, to your relations, to your friends' wives etc. They will start arranging women for you to pick from or start to subtly place girls in your path. A guy who is unmarried is seen as irresponsible no matter what he has achieved in life. At a point people who don't know you will start asking you how is your wife or family because at that age, there is no reason to not have a family .


It will get to a stage that everyone will conclude that you are either impotent or gay or a ritualist or all of them.

The pressure is too much on men too but knowing that we can marry whenever we chose to makes it seem less.

Truvelisback:
Have u not red abt several stories here where the mum decides to drive away her son from her own house so that he can be on his own and have a family of his own?

Blessedmercy8:
Before nko?
You think there aren't men that are worried too?

I've met a couple of men begging me to marry them because time was no longer on their side but I get scared of such men in that stage and always run from them because their intentions are not always right. They just want to marry because time is going and that can be a red flag.

One was literally crying hot tears, begging me. Shoo... I run o. I felt for him Sha. .

Nazgul:

That's for those who still stay with their parents. I don't live with my parents.

Truvelisback:
Even guys who are living alone in their own houses aren't exempted from the pressure.

Truvelisback:
Couple of men begging u to marry them. hmmmm.

Nazgul:

This is for those who keep unnecessary ties with

irrelevant ^{This is not nice} extended family members

and elderly family friends.

I'm not married and I'm working and catering for myself. Aside from my pastor and most especially his wife. I don't receive that much pressure not even from my parents.

The only person who can embarrass me in public about marriage is my pastor's wife, I've made up my mind to tell her that I'm interested in marrying her daughter who just gained admission into covenant university the next time she tries to burden me with her marriage palava.

Shebi she's concerned about my single status, she should give me her daughter so I can say bye bye to bachelorhood.

Tallesty1:
This is not nice

Anyone outside that cycle who hasn't contributed in anyway to your life is irrelevant and shouldn't have a say in your private life.

Tallesty1:
Everyone's extended family members?

Nazgul:

Lol...it doesn't have to be nice...the reality here is that extended family members and elderly family friends contribute nothing to your life aside unnecessary monitoring and gossip.

You're not married... they'll talk.

You eventually get married and two years down the line your wife isn't pregnant... they'll talk.

She eventually takes in and within a couple of 5 years you have 3 daughters without any son in sight... they'll talk.

The best step any young man can do for himself is to cutoff from them, cos they're as useless to you as the letter P is to Psychology.

You family members are your parents, siblings, wife and kids. Anyone outside that cycle who hasn't contributed in anyway to your life is irrelevant and shouldn't have a say in your private life.

Nazgul:

Lol...it doesn't have to be nice...the reality here is that extended family members and elderly family friends contribute nothing to your life aside unnecessary monitoring and gossip.

You're not married... they'll talk.

You eventually get married and two years down the line your wife isn't pregnant... they'll talk.

She eventually takes in and within a couple of 5 years you have 3 daughters without any son in sight... they'll talk.

The best step any young man can do for himself is to cutoff from them, cos they're as useless to you as the letter P is to Psychology.

You family members are your parents, siblings, wife and kids. Anyone outside that cycle who hasn't contributed in anyway to your life is irrelevant and shouldn't have a say in your private life.

Karleb:


Honestly, sometimes you have to be selfish with your life.

You are the mostly important person in your life.

Blessedmercy8:
Before nko?
You think there aren't men that are worried too?

I've met a couple of men begging me to marry them because time was no longer on their side but I get scared of such men in that stage and always run from them because their intentions are not always right. They just want to marry because time is going and that can be a red flag.

One was literally crying hot tears, begging me. Shoo... I run o. I felt for him Sha. .

Treassured:


Hello are you the one on your dp?

Blessedmercy8:


My daughter

Treassured:


Okay she looks good though. My Regards.

Nazgul:

Who wants to pressure you in your own house to get married.

As long as you're fulfilling your financial obligation to your parents as a good son and have a good discussion with them to give you time to choose someone so you won't fall into error, who else has the right to pressure you?

Let me use myself as an example. I go to work very early in the morning, return home in the evening, take a shower, eat and hop to bed. On weekends I'm mostly indoors resting, Sunday I go to church, by Monday I repeat the same routine.

Is it not when people are seeing you that they'll pressure you?

talk2hb1:
Not only are we pressured, we are harassed and disrespected for not married at 30+