yeyenatu: hello

tbaba1234: People wear gloves to the market now!! Hehe...

Ebola scare!!

baba11: Ustaz,what should we do about hand-shaking?

baba11: @Sissie,based on first impression:I believe she's someone calm,intelligent,talk at great length but doesn't argue after presenting her point,entrepreneur ship minded person,detribalise Nigerian,bold and ready to compromise her standing if she's at fault etc

Sissie:

tpia1: Tbaba

Sometimes its just not that easy to overcome depression.

From the way your friend spoke, he probably needs professional help, depending on how long he's been feeling that way, and if nothing else has worked.

baba11: Why ?didn't I try??

onegig: Your appraisal is more than first impression. More like a thing you gathered over months. Just saying.

baba11: Over months?how do you determine the duration of the first impression??

tpia1: Any type of therapist.

If he has tried on his own and nothing works, then he has to get help.

onegig: a first impression is the
event when one person first encounters
another person and forms a mental
image of that person.

Different from general perception or impression. I doubt you can collate such large cache of information from just first impressions.

baba11: I have garnered over the years that you don't necessary need third parties to solve some situations e.g psycologist,to solve some major life crisis.You are the only change you need in your life...even if one goes to them,these are some of the things they are going to work on with you.The best is to leave anything bothering you negatively and focus on positive part of life....no matter what happens, life goes on

tpia1:


You are right, but sometimes people really do need outside intervention to help them cope.

tpia1: Therapist.

baba11: Why ?didn't I try??

Sissie:

You did, it was a smile

tpia1: why would people repeatedly refuse marriage proposals though?

i find that weird, maybe its just me.


surely everybody proposing cant be unsuitable?

and what exactly is considered unsuitable?

tbaba1234: He seemed a bit depressed! When I asked him how he feels, he said he was a bit tired of all the children in the house and going to work every day!

I said to him: whenever you sit with your family, praise Allah that you have children as there are people who wish for what you have!

And whenever you wake up early for work, smile! There are thousands who are jobless and wishing for what you have!

And whenever you are tired from shopping and doing your household chores, be grateful! Tens of thousands of people wish they were fit physically or financially to have what you have!

When you finish praying two rak'ah, praise Allah and smile. There are millions of buried people wishing for what you have!

And when you drive in your car or walk the streets, keep on smiling and praising Allah! Millions live in fear as it is not safe for them and they wish for what you have!

Shouldn’t you be the happiest and wealthiest person on earth?

Shaykh Assim Alhakeem

yeyenatu: And did it work? Is he happier? Because he now smiles often?

Even if he smiles like you advised, does his heart feel it?

Being thankful for What you have doesn't always make you a happier person. It doesn't take away what he is feeling. The guy is going through a phase. It isn't that he isn't grateful for the gift of life and cheerfulness and all others. There is something his heart he is longing for. Something, maybe in his past or he foresees in his future that's making him sad. Smiling with his 32 won't make his laughter be deeply felt, to me it'd be like him hiding away his pain. Wrong in every way, if I may say.

So, I go with Tpia1 on this. He needs professional help.


Una well done oo!

Ma salaam!.

baba11: I have garnered over the years that you don't necessary need third parties to solve some situations e.g psycologist,to solve some major life crisis.You are the only change you need in your life...even if one goes to them,these are some of the things they are going to work on with you.The best is to leave anything bothering you negatively and focus on positive part

onegig: I can relate to this. The person is most times the only solution to their problems.

tbaba1234: JUST MARRIED
He: Yes. At last. It was so hard to wait.
She: Do you want me to leave?
He: NO! Don't even think about it.
She: Do you love me?
He: Of course! Over and over!
She: Have you ever cheated on me?
He: NO! Why are you even asking?
She: Will you kiss me?
He: Every chance I get!
She: Will you hit me?
He: Are you crazy! I'm not that kind of person!
She: Can I trust you?
He: Yes.
She: Darling!

YEARS AFTER MARRIAGE
Read from the bottom going up

-Sheikh Alaa Elsayed