Am not new. check out my profile, will post my choice shortly.

^^^Bros. I was not referring to you. I know you well.

sorry about that bros

i have deleted her comments, ignore her she is a known nuisance

Will not mind A lady with these qualities

Religions
Intelligence
Beauty
Good Attitude

olawalebab:

Will not mind A lady with these qualities

Religions
Intelligence
Beauty
Good Attitude

good,

Seems we know what many people want in their spouses,

Now ladies, if u find a guy with the Qualities you want, would you ask him out?? if not, why wouldnt you

and

Guys, to what extent would you go to make that lady yours?? and how best do you think that should be done

I think the best way for a guy who likes a girl is to let her know politely. Then, he should let her know the basics about him and why he thinks she should give him a chance. When 2 people from different backgrounds try to build a relationship they should be open and try to build trust. @Deols, its been a hectic day, will keep in touch.

deols:

Seems we know what many people want in their spouses,

Now ladies, if u find a guy with the Qualities you want, would you ask him out?? if not, why wouldnt you

and

Guys, to what extent would you go to make that lady yours?? and how best do you think that should be done

waiting for the ladies respomse.

olawalebab:

waiting for the ladies respomse.

waiting for your response too

maclatunji:

I think the best way for a guy who likes a girl is to let her know politely. Then, he should let her know the basics about him and why he thinks she should give him a chance. When 2 people from different backgrounds try to build a relationship they should be open and try to build trust. @Deols, its been a hectic day, will keep in touch.

Politely? fine.


But,my question is a reference to the question a brother asked under the title, salam sisters!,here- https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-711214.32.html

how exactly do you think a guy should approach a sister, what should he say? wear? and act like?

deols:

Politely? fine.


But,my question is a reference to the question a brother asked under the title, salam sisters!,here- https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-711214.32.html

how exactly do you think a guy should approach a sister, what should he say? wear? and act like?

@bolded. there is no specific answer to this. Some guys walk straight down to her and say, Salam Alaykum, my name is ,  and I like you, can we be friends?  Others will not say anything until someone suggests that the 2 individuals are compatible and they should give it a thought. It may be that the lady knows the guy is not involved with anybody and she really likes him and goes to him and says: I really like you and I know you like me too, can we make this work?

It may also be that by interacting together at school, work or within the community or a group chemistry develops between the 2 and before they know it they are a couple without asking each other out in the first place.

It may be out of pity or gratitude for an act of kindness from one of the parties that they end-up together.

Whatever it is, I think until you ask yourself: what do I want in a potential wife or husband? You are still floating like a balloon and not headed for any specific direction if you have not answered this question.

After you have answered that, you would then need to ask: Have I met anybody with these attributes?

Then ask: are they available (not married or engaged)?

Then ask: Am I able and willing to settle down immediately?

If you answered yes to the last question, you can now approach the person by proxy or directly in a civil and courteous manner. In terms of dressing, I don't think any sister no matter how religious will disqualify a suitor just because he wore shirt and trousers. Proper dressing is relative but at least it should fit the circumstance you find yourself; be formal when you ought to be formal and be casual when it is not repugnant to be that way (Nobody should blame you for wearing football shorts- with your navel to knees covered when playing the game or wearing slacks when doing some work that requires such).

It should be noted that a man may be responsible and want to settle down but he does not have economic power to take care of himself yet, not to talk of a wife. Would you advise the guy to focus on other things or start seeking someone tentatively? Perhaps, he might find somebody who is not quite ready too but will be there for him at such a time that he would have overcome some of his economic challenges?

Personally, I think the latter is not a bad idea provided that he lets her know from the onset (Look, I like you but I am broke at the moment. I am hardworking and responsible, pray for God to bless me and you will not regret it- Insha Allah!).

in-ta-res-ting !

mukina2:

in-ta-res-ting !

How does that help anybody? Expatiate!

bros pack well jor

i was reading posts on the thread [s]and that's the only thing i could up without having darts sent my way[/s]

You should be almost immune by now.

well not to on this board, i avoid in-everything

btw . . .you haven't updated us about you and sister deols

Am I supposed to do that? Well, I think she is amazing and we have mutual acquaintances which helps in my opinion. You might not be wrong in thinking we are compatible Mukina2. I like her indeed!

maclatunji:

@bolded. there is no specific answer to this. Some guys walk straight down to her and say, Salam Alaykum, my name is ,  and I like you, can we be friends?  Others will not say anything until someone suggests that the 2 individuals are compatible and they should give it a thought. It may be that the lady knows the guy is not involved with anybody and she really likes him and goes to him and says: I really like you and I know you like me too, can we make this work?

It may also be that by interacting together at school, work or within the community or a group chemistry develops between the 2 and before they know it they are a couple without asking each other out in the first place.

It may be out of pity or gratitude for an act of kindness from one of the parties that they end-up together.

Whatever it is, I think until you ask yourself: what do I want in a potential wife or husband? You are still floating like a balloon and not headed for any specific direction if you have not answered this question.

After you have answered that, you would then need to ask: Have I met anybody with this attributes?

Then ask: are they available (not married or engaged)?

Then ask: Am I able and willing to settle down immediately?

If you answered yes to the last question, you can now approach the person by proxy or directly in a civil and courteous manner. In terms of dressing, I don't think any sister no matter how religious will disqualify a suitor just because he wore shirt and trousers. Proper dressing is relative but at least it should fit the circumstance you find yourself; be formal when you ought to be formal and be casual when it is not repugnant to be that way (Nobody should blame you for wearing football shorts- with your navel to knees covered when playing the game or wearing slacks when doing some work that requires such).

It should be noted that a man may be responsible and want to settle down but he does not have economic power to take care of himself yet not to talk of a wife. Would you advise the guy to focus on other things or start seeking someone tentatively? Perhaps, he might find somebody who is not quite ready too but will be there for him at such a time that he would have overcome some of his economic challenges?

Personally, I think the latter is not a bad idea provided that he lets her know from the onset (Look, I like you but I am broke at the moment. I am hardworking and responsible, pray for God to bless me and you will not regret it- Insha Allah!)

hmmn, good job there.

Thank you Ma'am

I was hoping for more responses sha.   anyways, ds is mine-

deols:

Seems we know what many people want in their spouses,

Now ladies, if u find a guy with the Qualities you want, would you ask him out?? if not, why wouldnt you
                                 
and

Guys, to what extent would you go to make that lady yours?? and how best do you think that should be done

if asked about two yrs ago, i'd av sed yes, but really I wldnt av done it. It was just a time when I blvd life shldnt be so difficult.

But now, Its a NO No. because d ffg may happen

Guy: knows d girl likes him already and instead of all the accolades that every woman enjoys during d chase nd just after d marriage, he treats her like, I 'own' u already.

Family, friends, in-laws--these pple must not know she askd hm out o. d day dey av a fight, d first thn they remind her of is how desperate she was dat she had to 'ask him out.

girl(herself): anytime guy does somethn she doesnt like, even if he wld av done same to anyone, she believes its not his fault. . .if oly she had not asked him out'

deols:

I was hoping for more responses sha.   anyways, ds is mine-

if asked about two yrs ago, i'd av sed yes, but really I wldnt av done it. It was just a time when I blvd life shldnt be so difficult.

But now, Its a NO No. because d ffg may happen

Guy: knows d girl likes him already and instead of all the accolades that every woman enjoys during d chase nd just after d marriage, he treats her like, I 'own' u already.

Family, friends, in-laws--these pple must not know she askd hm out o. d day dey av a fight, d first thn they remind her of is how desperate she was dat she had to 'ask him out.

girl(herself): anytime guy does somethn she doesnt like, even if he wld av done same to anyone, she believes its not his fault. . .if oly she had not asked him out'

                       

Your senses of perception and insight are deep. You are quite correct. A classic case of using your head instead of your heart.

where are all the other muslima apart from adeola and mukinat?

Wow! Where have I been?

@deols, you always come up with interesting threads. I've really enjoyed reading through.

Zayhal waiting for your specification of your dream man.

FYI shes taken already

toba:

FYI shes taken already

Ye seem to be well-informed on the status of the Muslimah around here.

toba:

where are all the other muslima apart from adeola and mukinat?

u'r not alone in ds .hope ur aim is pure sha

zayhal:

Wow! Where have I been?

@deols, you always come up with interesting threads. I've really enjoyed reading through.

thnk u thnk uu.love u love u!

am always interested in d social life of Muslims. .In d future,I'll really like to invest in dat. .look out for me

toba:

FYI shes taken already

Are you sure?

toba:

FYI shes taken already

yh she is. I hope she can share with us from her fountain of wisdom.

olawalebab:

Are you sure?

she's a grandma mind yu.