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tbaba1234$:
Bowing is Haram guys. don't get it twisted... The prophet forbade it...

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

With regard to bowing when greeting someone, it is forbidden as is narrated in al-Tirmidhi from the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him); they asked him about a man who meets his brother, can he bow to him? He said: “No.” And it is not permissible to bow or prostrate to anyone except Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, even though that may have been a form of greeting in other religions, as in the story of Yoosuf – “…and they fell down before him prostrate. And he said: ‘O my father! This is the interpretation of my dream aforetime!’” [Yoosuf 12:100]. But in our religion it is not acceptable to bow or prostrate to anyone except Allah; in fact it is also forbidden to stand as the non-Arabs stand before one another, so how about bowing and prostrating? Similarly, a partial bow is also included in this prohibition.

End quote from Majmoo‘ al-Fataawa, 1/377

And he said:

With regard to lowering the head when meeting prominent figures such as shaykhs and so on, or kissing the ground and so on, these are things concerning which there is no difference of opinion among the imams that they are forbidden. In fact merely inclining the back to anyone other than Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, is forbidden. In al-Musnad and elsewhere it is narrated that when Mu‘aadh ibn Jabal came back from Syria, he prostrated to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), who said: “What is this, O Mu‘aadh?” He said: O Messenger of Allah, I saw them in Syria prostrating to their bishops and patriarchs, and they narrated that from their Prophets. He said: “They are lying, O Mu‘aadh; if I were to instruct anyone to prostrate to anyone else, I would have instructed a woman to prostrate to her husband because of the greatness of his rights over her. O Mu‘aadh, do you think that if you were to pass my grave you would prostrate?” He said: No. He said: “Do not do that,” or words to that effect.

http://islamqa.com/en/ref/164865/bow

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this is _Wizeboy

Wizeboy:

In the book ‘Al Adab Al Kubra’ (Elevated Manners), Abu Al-Ma`ali said that bowing as a form of showing mutual respect is permissible. Other people draw analogy between it and the Angels' bowing before Adam, peace be upon him. Also when Ibn `Umar went to the Levant, the People of the Book there bowed to him as a matter of respect, and he did not forbid them from doing so. Instead he said that it was a form of dignifying Muslims.

“Permissibility here means that it is not prohibited. But this does not negate its being blameworthy”, states As-Safarini in his book ‘Ghiza’ul-Albab’ (Cultivation of the Mind), vo.1:286.

From the above mentioned Hadith we understand that bowing to greet someone is somewhat detestable, that we can say it is blameworthy, because it is unfit for a Muslim who truly believes in Allah and abides by His teachings.

However, this Hukm (ruling) depends on the intention of the person himself. For example, if the bows are made just to show gratefulness to a person who deserves them, then there is nothing wrong in this. But there shouldn't be any exaggeration. Bowing is also a method of showing courtesy to kings and sultans. All in all, when an actor takes his bow, he does not usually intend anything else than acknowledging applause and admiration accorded him by the audience. This makes the ruling somehow light for him.”

http://www.onislam.net/english/ask-the-scholar/morals-and-manners/customs-and-traditions/175485.html?Traditions=

tbaba_1234:

I gave you two hadith of the prophet that forbade bowing... You give me a hadith of ibn Umar (Is that the son of Umar ibn khattab)...

Which of the two is stronger?

maclatunji:

I just knew you were going to say this.

You need to first of all, try to be more closer to the parent. Greet them more often, relate with them and let them see you as a good people they can relate with. After this, you can now start giving them some observation/opinion on how the problem can be fixed (you should not do this at the time when they are angry with their children but rather when you see them happy and also have time for discussion). I believe with the level of maturity and high-knowledge you show on this thread, you can really talk to them without misinterpreting it.

The parents older than you should not be an obstacle for your advice but try to comport yourself with the way and manner which they will also appreciate without blaming them on the way and manner their children were brought up. Despite the fact that I am still a small guy, I have try to resolved a family problem before, which surprisingly work out. So, if I can do it with my little knowledge, I believe you (USTAZ) can surely do it.

olawalebabs: is Tbaba 1234 the same as Tbaba1234$?

Mustay: How many of you are martial artists here? Well, I'd not wanna digress the thread from its sole purpose but this is one reason why iLike schools of thoughts. Some of the issues we have today is interpretation of cetain practices and how some schools try to equate it with bid'ah or haraam or whatever. Anyway, culture is the way of life of some people. Your intentions are best known.

Peace

Mustay: How many of you are martial artists here? Well, I'd not wanna digress the thread from its sole purpose but this is one reason why iLike schools of thoughts. Some of the issues we have today is interpretation of cetain practices and how some schools try to equate it with bid'ah or haraam or whatever. Anyway, culture is the way of life of some people. Your intentions are best known.

Peace

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tbaba1234: Three Issues, I don't know if they have been addressed already...

i. Traditional practices in Marriages ,

I am not a yoruba person but i do see myself possibly getting married to one. During their traditional weddings, I see the men have to lie down flat with their heads on the ground...

Personally, I can not put my head on the floor for any man because that is only reserved for Allah... It is Islamically wrong as well.. Ca one get out of this kind of tradition without being seen as rude or disrespectful.

usermane: Well my turn. Am a tall guy 20yrs, and still an undergraduate.
Being a shy loner evr since, i want a girl who is beautiful,confident and smart that can relate with me or understand that am not so mean/snobbish as people take me for and i respect ladies a lot. A girl that is kind,gentle,cool tempered,generous,humble and caring with fine sense of humour. She has to be religious minded not religion obscessed,age difference +/- 2 and she should be able to cope with my shyness,though am not extremely shy.
I dont focus much on beauty, just an average look of 6/10 is ok by me and a good height. These are just some of the qualities i pray to find in my future wife and work hard to imbibe in my character cos i believe whatevr quality u desire in a spouse, u should strive to achieve it too. For instance if u want an understanding spouse then u have to be understanding 2 as an understanding spouse cant cope with a non understanding one, u cant expect a generous\listening\comforting spouse when u r self centered/non listening/non comforting. I believe in emotional love very much and sex and children should be secondary reasons for marriage. I want someone with strong moral belief,relatable and down to earth