I've been married to my wife for the past 7 years. Apart from paternity fraud which i'm suspecting, though test is already on the way. She disrespects me alot. I'm so fed up with this marriage and I need your inputs in how to go ahead with the whole thing. Whenever you see her happy or being respectful, then it's either I just bought something for her or I've done something for her. The other day my younger brother came around and instead of her to cook so we could eat, she refused and I had no option than to enter the kitchen myself and do the cooking myself, yet she could not even come to the kitchen and take over the cooking, when I finished she was the first to and fetch the food to eat. Whatever you buy for her infact even if you buy and aircraft for her, give her just 1 hour, she'll forget that you've ever bought anything for her. Please guys I'm fed up with the marriage, I'm no longer happy.

Hmm, So you've endured such marriage for seven years, she knows your Achilles heel

Paternity fraud is a serious issue man, I'm sure you know what to do.

God1000:
Hmm, So you've endured such marriage for seven years.

Paternity fraud is a serious issue man, I'm sure you know what to do.

honestly my brother.... it's been like charm, but right now the only thing in my mind is to end it all.

Meektunz:
honestly my brother.... it's been like charm, but right now the only thing in my mind is to end it all.

you better quit if you don't want to die young

And u need our inputs to settle down with what does not work for u abi

headbasher96:
And u need our inputs to settle down with what does not work for u abi

I just want to know how to harden my heart and do it cos her family have been very people, I've tried talking to them severally about her but she seems not to be able to solve anything. Besides right now all that matters to me is ending this marriage.

Meektunz:
I've been married to my wife for the past 7 years. Apart from paternity fraud which i'm suspecting, though test is already on the way. She disrespects me alot. I'm so fed up with this marriage and I need your inputs in how to go ahead with the whole thing. Whenever you see her happy or being respectful, then it's either I just bought something for her or I've done something for her. The other day my younger brother came around and instead of her to cook so we could eat, she refused and I had no option than to enter the kitchen myself and do the cooking myself, yet she could not even come to the kitchen and take over the cooking, when I finished she was the first to and fetch the food to eat. Whatever you buy for her infact even if you buy and aircraft for her, give her just 1 hour, she'll forget that you've ever bought anything for her. Please guys I'm fed up with the marriage, I'm no longer happy.

Didn't you notice this before you got married to her? Carry your cross.

Meektunz:
I just want to know how to harden my heart and do it cos her family have been very people, I've tried talking to them severally about her but she seems not to be able to solve anything. Besides right now all that matters to me is ending this marriage.

well call the parties involved and say your mind or premature death is your potion bro

Obvious signs of disrespect is a killer to the man. He'll always wouldnt know how or what to tell the woman at some point especially in the presence of visitors. Check what she displayed when your brother was around. I'll advice you take that paternity test very serious to ascertain if those kids are yours. That'll give you a headway of your next step to stay or call it quit. A disrespectful woman pushes the man to take actions thats liable of putting him away for a long time. So you need to be weary of her actions and try not allow that cross to physical domestic violence. Though she's violating you already.

marostan:
Obvious signs of disrespect is a killer to the man. He'll always wouldnt know how or what to tell the woman at some point especially in the presence of visitors. Check what she displayed when your brother was around. I'll advice you take that paternity test very serious to ascertain if those kids are yours. That'll give you a headway of your next step to stay or call it quit. A disrespectful woman pushes the man to take actions thats liable of putting him away for a long time. So you need to be weary of her actions and try not allow that cross to physical domestic violence. Though she's violating you already.

Bro, you perfectly know the situation, you've nailed it... That's exactly the real thing. Honestly i can't wait to end it all and have my peace once again. Bro I salute your experience.

If I were you, I will just carry my brother to a close eatery and have our meal...

You disgrace yourself in the presence of your brother I swear...

You don buy job

Meektunz:
Bro, you perfectly know the situation, you've nailed it... That's exactly the real thing. Honestly i can't wait to end it all and have my peace once again. Bro I salute your experience.

Yeah! Such an ugly experience. Smh! All you need at the moment is tolerance. At some point, she'll be doing all those to make you react or take actions probably by shouting or raising your hands on her. Bro, candid advice. NEVER EVER ALLOW ANGER TAKE THE BETTER SIDE OF YOU. Always endeavour to neglect her. She's on a mission to destroy. Continue neglecting her actions while you're going ahead with the paternity test. That'll give more leverage to call it. Assuming the test comes out in favour of you, still do away with her. You need to be alive to see those kids grow. Once again, physical domestic violence is never and can never be a solution. Always reject that thought because ofcourse it comes to your mind. Alway reject that devil. The table always turns against the man.

Ahh my guy don go marry Mhiz baddie.

In my place, it’s a taboo for a man to enter the kitchen and cook, and the woman is around doing nothing. That “I can’t cook” alone self I don serve you hot eba break fast/divorce (cus I can joke with anything but not my stomach).

As someone said, you disgraced yourself big time in front of your younger brother. As she talk say she no go cook, you tell your bro “junior ready make we go chop for outside “. When hunger show Am something, she go rethink ( she might not sha, cus she go send ppl make dem help her wit urgent 2k).

Infact my bro na you cause everything, I dy vex when I dy read all this kind story. Wait for the test, if e get kayleg, discharge her once.

Meektunz:
Please guys I'm fed up with the marriage, I'm no longer happy.

So for the past 7 years you've been leaving like this? Or did it just recently start. If it recently started just talk to her ask her what are you doing wrong by her and fix your marriage. If you see no changes after months then divorce her, you need peace and a healthy Mind.

marlow1962:
Ahh my guy don go marry Mhiz baddie.

In my place, it’s a taboo for a man to enter the kitchen and cook, and the woman is around doing nothing. That “I can’t cook” alone self I don serve you hot eba break fast/divorce (cus I can joke with anything but not my stomach).

As someone said, you disgraced yourself big time in front of your younger brother. As she talk say she no go cook, you tell your bro “junior ready make we go chop for outside “. When hunger show Am something, she go rethink ( she might not sha, cus she go send ppl make dem help her wit urgent 2k).

Infact my bro na you cause everything, I dy vex when I dy read all this kind story. Wait for the test, if e get kayleg, discharge her once.

I agree that I contributed to it, the only thing I need right now is a divorce but I don't even know where to start from.

falcon01:

So for the past 7 years you've been leaving like this? Or did it just recently start. If it recently started just talk to her ask her what are you doing wrong by her and fix your marriage. If you see no changes after months then divorce her, you need peace and a healthy Mind.

My brother, I've spoken to her siblings severally to talk to her and I've also spoken to her few times but there's no improvement.

Lonestar124:
If I were you, I will just carry my brother to a close eatery and have our meal...

You disgrace yourself in the presence of your brother I swear...

What are you talking about? You can never imagine or ascertain what that dude is passing through. Damn you! How could you say he disgraced himself? Do you if he did the cooking to cover up for the wife and save his face as well? Have you been in a relationship where you're tongue tied, hands and legs tied? Not that you're a weak or clueless of solution(s), but rather you want peace to reign and everyone happy even if you've to fake it. If not for any reason, those kids they've. Bro, have slept in a house with one eye closed? Have you been in a house you're scared of your partner? Have you been scared to eat food served by your partner. Bro, pray never to be in such suituation because if it's you, you ain't doin no sh!t.
Domestic Violence, something i can never wish for even for the worst of my enermies.

marostan:


Yeah! Such an ugly experience. Smh! All you need at the moment is tolerance. At some point, she'll be doing all those to make you react or take actions probably by shouting or raising your hands on her. Bro, candid advice. NEVER EVER ALLOW ANGER TAKE THE BETTER SIDE OF YOU. Always endeavour to neglect her. She's on a mission to destroy. Continue neglecting her actions while you're going ahead with the paternity test. That'll give more leverage to call it. Assuming the test comes out in favour of you, still do away with her. You need to be alive to see those kids grow. Once again, physical domestic violence is never and can never be a solution. Always reject that thought because ofcourse it comes to your mind. Alway reject that devil. The table always turns against the man.

I've always known that she's on course to destroy me. Honestly I've been ignoring her very very much and like you said, she has done everything possible to push me to the wall... Since that day i've never ask her to cook again, once in hungry I walk to the kitchen to cook.

Meektunz:
I agree that I contributed to it, the only thing I need right now is a divorce but I don't even know where to start from.

Get a lawyer

marostan:


What are you talking about? You can never imagine or ascertain what that dude is passing through. Damn you! How could you say he disgraced himself? Do you if he did the cooking to cover up for the wife and save his face as well? Have you been in a relationship where you're tongue tied, hands and legs tied? Not that you're a weak or clueless of solution(s), but rather you want peace to reign and everyone happy even if you've to fake it. If not for any reason, those kids they've. Bro, have slept in a house with one eye closed? Have you been in a house you're scared of your partner? Have you been scared to eat food served by your partner. Bro, pray never to be in such suituation because if it's you, you ain't doin no sh!t.
Domestic Violence, something i can never wish for even for the worst of my enermies.

God bless you brotherly, I've been tongue, hands and legs tied just for peace to reign but people think I'm weak but no i'm not. Do you know that there was a day i told her I'm tired of the marriage and she asked me "were we married before" that she has been outta the marriage long ago.

Meektunz:
I agree that I contributed to it, the only thing I need right now is a divorce but I don't even know where to start from.

Make she travel go her mama house chill fr sometimes first, along the chilling line, mail the divorce copy and her remaining luggage.
If she won’t travel, the you do the travel and forget anything we’re concern her.

Tell her you’re tired of all these bs she’s doing, say you dy go for divorce, and remember no going back.

The test results will determine your next move.

Meektunz:
I've always known that she's on course to destroy me. Honestly I've been ignoring her very very much and like you said, she has done everything possible to push me to the wall... Since that day i've never ask her to cook again, once in hungry I walk to the kitchen to cook .

And she's okay with this? Omor where una dey meet these women come even gather mind turn them wives sef

marostan:


What are you talking about? You can never imagine or ascertain what that dude is passing through. Damn you! How could you say he disgraced himself? Do you if he did the cooking to cover up for the wife and save his face as well? Have you been in a relationship where you're tongue tied, hands and legs tied? Not that you're a weak or clueless of solution(s), but rather you want peace to reign and everyone happy even if you've to fake it. If not for any reason, those kids they've. Bro, have slept in a house with one eye closed? Have you been in a house you're scared of your partner? Have you been scared to eat food served by your partner. Bro, pray never to be in such suituation because if it's you, you ain't doin no sh!t.
Domestic Violence, something i can never wish for even for the worst of my enermies.

The guy is right


The OP messed up by giving that bitčh too much leverage in that house

If OP had clipped her wings the very first day they started dating all these rubbish wouldn't have happened




All these stories of men allowing their wife to have a say in thier house is the problem of all this domestice violence shit



Put a woman in her place and she will never have the boldness and effontry to disgrace you infront of her inlaws

Meektunz:
I've been married to my wife for the past 7 years. Apart from paternity fraud which i'm suspecting, though test is already on the way. She disrespects me alot. I'm so fed up with this marriage and I need your inputs in how to go ahead with the whole thing. Whenever you see her happy or being respectful, then it's either I just bought something for her or I've done something for her. The other day my younger brother came around and instead of her to cook so we could eat, she refused and I had no option than to enter the kitchen myself and do the cooking myself, yet she could not even come to the kitchen and take over the cooking, when I finished she was the first to and fetch the food to eat. Whatever you buy for her infact even if you buy and aircraft for her, give her just 1 hour, she'll forget that you've ever bought anything for her. Please guys I'm fed up with the marriage, I'm no longer happy.

You will die young if you continue with this marriage, quite before it's too late

You saw all this signs when you were dating her yet you ignored it because of preety face, naysh and breasts, now you're complaining. Biko enjoy your marriage.

I see you having another child with her.

This I have seen

Meektunz:
God bless you brotherly, I've been tongue, hands and legs tied just for peace to reign but people think I'm weak but no i'm not. Do you know that there was a day i told her I'm tired of the marriage and she asked me "were we married before" that she has been outta the marriage long ago.

Wow!! this a callus statement to make. But bro didn't you see some of these signs while dating her?

AsomArchitectNG:


Wow!! this a callus statement to make. But bro didn't you see some of these signs while dating her?

With all sense of honesty no sign at all....

Meektunz:
My brother, I've spoken to her siblings severally to talk to her and I've also spoken to her few times but there's no improvement.

wait for the DNA test then divorce her. She's clearly up to no good, if they kids are yours keep them, if they are hers then divorce her and send them with her. Your peace of kind should be your priority

i thought this is the character of every women

Meektunz:
With all sense of honesty no sign at all....

I sympathize with you honestly. The worst thing that can happen to a man is been disrespected by his own wife of which no man can tolerate. I'll advise you call it quit if you can't carry the burdens no more. Na who dey alive dey do marriage

Meektunz:
God bless you brotherly, I've been tongue, hands and legs tied just for peace to reign but people think I'm weak but no i'm not. Do you know that there was a day i told her I'm tired of the marriage and she asked me "were we married before" that she has been outta the marriage long ago.

That's a wild statement for someone who's been married for seven years to make. I think the scales just fell from your eyes.

If it can't be salvaged then there's only one thing to do. Find out if the kids are yours and then you'll know what to do with your lawyer from there. What a mess. Sorry.