i moved out becuase I felt my mum needed the space. i have three younger siblings. She wasn't happy at first but she soon got used to it. . . I would have stayed home if I was leaving with Grandma though because she had the space etc. but she lives far away. . .

@Poster I feel you, it would have been a yay for me but circumstances didn't allow, i had to raise a child so i needed all the money i could get and the care of a family home, if not i would have left home years ago. Am trying to work on that now.

I think if its something you want and you can do, then you can, but remember to make your parents understand, its always good to be at peace with them. They are parents and want the best for us always, so they would fuss about issues anyway.

It is natural for every parent to want to protect their child for as long as possible. Looking at it from ur parents point of view, i can understand their concerns and the desire to want to constantly monitor you. This type of upbringing is quite peculiar to most cultures.
But the reality is that if you feel it is time to be on your own and can cope independently with the outside world, then u have to convince ur parents and make them see reasons why u must be allowed to start living ur own life.
If they resist, i suggest u persuade them by striking a compromise. Promise them u will visit often and will constantly keep in touch with them.
The truth is that no matter how old u are, u will always remain a child in the eyes of ur parents. Parents just have that instinct to be protective, especially in today's society. But to allow them to deprive u of ur independence is like putting ur entire future in their hands. Which is not adviceable. You have to explore and see the world for urself, have ur own experiences and enjoy life.
Just engage them in conversation and try to convince them. Also getting a flat mate is a welcome idea. Find someone that they can trust and who is dependable.
Goodluck

@POSTER!
U said u will be graduating soon, meaning u r yet to serve,I would advice u go back home.Life after graduation for girls is different from before graduation.Some space will be given to u by ur parents and u still have a thing or two to learn before u finally move out for service or marriage.

i wonder y u want 2 stay away frm ur parents and i dont think u hav a good reason do u, i think staying wiv ur parents is d best,

@OP,
Do you have a job amongst other things if not hanlele back to your Papa house.
NYSC and after is when you can move out and start asserting your independence.

@OP
post your pic b4 i pass my comment

@POSTER. pls get a job b4 you can start to do that, and moreso, do you have any ulterior motive of doing that? Your parents will neva mislead you, they want the best for you at all cost, before ur independent my dear, get the require training so that you will not rush back to them in d furure, wish you well in ur journey of life, Cheers

Do you have a job? Who is going to pay the rent? These are issues you need to resolve first!

Hmmm I can see the reason why u want to move out is to have unlimited access to ur bfs cus ur parents dey spoil show 4 u

staying single in Nigeria affords the opportunity for a lady to be promiscuous. And our society does not allow it or recognized

avosoft:

staying single in Nigeria affords the opportunity for a lady to be promiscuous. And our society does not allow it or recognized

Avosoft na wao for you oooo .

I beg to differ, living on your own may afford you lots of opportunities to be promiscuous or mis-behave in other ways but a person chooses how he or she will live on their own. A female friend lived alone for a long time and she lived by strict personal rules e.g

1. Male visitors do not sleep over except her blood relations
2. Her place wasn't open to visitors at 8.00pm which she made known to both male & female friends, a few of us thought she was joking and made the mistake of storming her place at about pass 8.00pm. She ignored us for some time and then finally came out to read us the riot act and march us off her door step
3. If you were at her at place before 8.00pm by 7.30pm at most you would be out etc etc

It wasn't funny but we quickly learnt to respect her rules and abide by them, she did all of that because she desired and was determined to live a disciplined life away from home. My respect for her skyrocketed to cloud 9.

Please dont move out of your parents place yet. make sure you have already gone for service and have something doing i mean a job before you move out. The real world is different from being in school. mind you when you were in school daddy and mummy paid the bills, moving out to rent a place means u on ur own. Lets be frank here am a lady i do work and still stay with my parents they definately interfers but its all for your good. They mean well for you.

Stuff and nonsense, get a job,convice them then rent a place.an adult shld live on their own.

Get a job first then work like for a year before moving to your own place, during NYSC though you would have a place of your own though with some flat mates.

Get a place. If you need any help, I am there for you.

nay stay there forever ,

So that she can ply her trade without any disturbance. hope you know what i mean.

Poster, to be candid with u, threr is nothing wrong in living independently because of the benefit to do alot of things on your own and shapening your life better; and of course simulating all the training your parents have induced into you, especially your mum. However, some factors might negate such a decision, of which you have to consider thoroughly before implementing.

1. Economic imbalance: how do you want to cope (as some peeps have articulated) financially? how do you intend renting the apartment? even if your parents or anyone rents it for you, what about the overheads and other spendings?

2. Security: you need to understand that Nigeria as a whole is not safe. especially for a lady who now decides to live alone. worse will be, if you are located in a violent-prone area; worst of it is if you are a lady that is enchanting and you sub-consciously call for attention. my dear, eyes go dey on top u o. fact!


put all this into consideration before makingany decision. no one would decide for you. just consider the premises highlighted by everyone. good luck!

Yes its ok for a single lady to stay on her own then the question; my place or your place will be deal closer

I never understood the big deal on why women must stay in their father's house untill marriage. Anyway sha, I lived in the states and I just graduated. so I am back home, but my mother is already trying to move me out. She is even looking for apartment for me self. The only obstacle is that I am yet to get a permanent full time job. After this, I am gone. I think you should try to reason with your parents and try to understand where their fears are coming. You should show that you are capable of living on your own by having a job that can provide food, shelter and security.

im enjoin dis class.

What if you have a job outside home you want go, because you want to leave with your parents? I feel all of this is self discipline and self-control.

when i got back 2yrs ago,my mum wont hear of me living alone,i was able to convince here and got a place. this is what i did to put her mind at rest.

call her twice daily,when i wake up and when i get home from work
when am going out all night i tell her
when i have a new friend i let her know
where ever am going,i tell her the name of the place(even if she doesnt know the place)

this is to put her mind at rest,may sure whereever you get an apartment security is important,roommates are not advisable be careful.

good luck

How much respect do you think a guy has for you when he comes visit you under your parents roof as against in your self contained room?

How long do you think he can continue to visit without committing himself to a serious future if you are under some parenthood or family as agaisnt living alone.

As much as you can avoid it, a single lady is better off living with a family than alone.