chaircover:

I wouldn’t call it foresight per say, I will call it common sense and the weight of current circumstances.

We all have brains and we all know deep down inside of us the prospects of whoever we are going out with. Whether we are open minded enough to look further down the line and want to wait & encourage the man till he reaches his goal is another thing.

JamesDoe:

Patience Jonathan has foresight. She saw a man with no shoes,

N101:

See the bolded bit by Sisi Kill.


Usually women, sometimes men.  When you see the potential in someone, that person may also have a dream but be very bad not only articulating it but organising themselves to bring it to reality.   

Someone wants to do x, there are people around them who would test the feasibility of it - do research, come up with ideas, help the person to clearly define what they want, cheer them on when they want to give up.  But you don't just help anyone who has a dream, you have to know if the person is serious or not because people love to do a good talk but not good when it comes to actions. 

You don't have to be in a relationship to help someone out.  It can be someone of the same gender or of a different gender.  The important thing is that you are the catalyst to helping someone achieve their goal.  There are still women who will do that specifically with the men they are in a relationship with, but most seem to want a ready-made somebody without sharing or struggling together.

maclatunji:

Guys, I know we too (men) can identify potential in any individual male or female. I want to emphasize and discuss if a woman will look at a dirt poor but smart and hardworking guy and say: you know what I am going to give this guy a chance in my life and I know he will be great someday. If you have real-life stories, kindly share!

OLASODE2K:

Scientifically, ladies are naturally gifted with the great power of intuition much than men. Surely, women are too sentimental however these sentiments usually lead to able to accurately tell u about the future.

JamesDoe:

Patience Jonathan has foresight. She saw a man with no shoes,

El Guapo:

@Op, Lot of them are and such are the Ones that make Good Wives!  

OLASODE2K:

Scientifically, ladies are naturally gifted with the great power of intuition much than men. Surely, women are too sentimental however these sentiments usually lead to able to accurately tell u about the future.

Pls don't put words in my mouth. . .err. . .finger. I did not say it is objectionable not to have plenty of money, what I am saying is that in my experience it is the guys who don't have it, who make a big to do about everything. A girl could just ask for a pencil but because they can't afford it, they term the girl a gold digger and convince themselves all she wants from them is money.

[b]They start to see gold diggery traits [/b]in everything she does and says, an innocuous comment about liking a brand name shoe or bag is taken as something else. Even just mentioning money in a general conversation becomes an offense because the lack of money has become a sensitive issue for the guy.

More often than not, women are not gold diggers. . .Men just choose to see them as gold diggers.

jennykadry:

@ Coogar
HABA NAAA. IT is not some women's fault that only the rich men come their way

Seriously sha, why would a woman marry a jobless broke azzed dude?

coogar:

i agree with you.

it should be an offence for any woman to marry a jobless broke azzed dude.

jennykadry:

Now we are talking. So are women that look for men that are financially okay, still gold diggers?

coogar:

never! how can they be gold-diggers? who wan suffer?

would i advise my female siblings to marry okada men? after all the money my parents squandered on their education? hell no!
people should marry from their class. if anyone decides to go lower, that's his/her own headache. if any girl decides to go higher than her class, kudos to her. as long as the man values her, who are we to complain?

jennykadry:

Can I marry you?

jennykadry:

^^You no reach

coogar:

if you don't mind. . . . .

- i stay in a hut in awka east local government
- i am a subsistence farmer
- the rain has been horrible this year so the returns/harvests are going to be low.
- i have no fat whips, i only have 3 overweight donkeys and one local dog.
- i inherited a tiny bicycle from my grandfather i take to the market every tuesday
- i am single and no baby momma drama.

coogar:

never! how can they be gold-diggers? who wan suffer?

would i advise my female siblings to marry okada men? after all the money my parents squandered on their education? hell no!
people should marry from their class. if anyone decides to go lower, that's his/her own headache. if any girl decides to go higher than her class, kudos to her. as long as the man values her, who are we to complain?

sevule:

@coogar marry from your class ?
Your comments throughout this thread are the rantings of a myopic bigot. So we should all marry based on class? Next thing you would be advocating is that we should marry from our villages. Dude try and travel out(even if na only Benin republic) and broaden your very limited mind. In case you didnt get the circular, marriage based on class is so stone ages