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The foundation of everything matters. During premarital enquiry or counseling (of which most faulty marriages never did), you should have been able to learn things about your compatibility. A premarital counselor doesn't necessarily need to be 100% your pastor, else, he might be counseling you based on his own church doctrine, which might be out of normal societal moral standard.
If you do a very good counseling before saying "I do" , you'll know all you need to know about toleration yourselves before marriage.

Boomark:
Many women today are the cause of the problems in their families because they have insisted on attending a church different from their husband's church. This has led to divorce/separation between husbands and wives.

What women don't know is that they are on their own before God. God hates such act of disobedience. As long as your husband didn't say you should not worship God. I will point out why it is wrong with bible verses.

1. True worshippers of God worship him in spirit and truth. These are the people that God is looking for. Not those that destroy what God has joined together because they are looking for God on a mountain, in a temple, or church. God is a spirit and is everywhere, even in your room. Jesus told us what God wants from those seeking Him in John 4:20-24.
Matthew 6:6.

God hates divorce/separation as seen in Malachi 2: 16, Matthew 19:3-9, Mark 10:2-12. Divorce is the word used for separation between husband and wife. If you are a pastor, prophet, prophetess, or a wife that breaks home because of ministry, church or mountain prayers, you have a case to answer before God on the judgement day. The warning... Matthew 19:5-8, Ephesians 5:31-33.

2. Obedience to the will of God is better than any sacrifice you think you are making for God in disobedience to your head/husband. Saul was rejected by God as king because he thought that offering fat rams to God in a temple(worship) is better than the instruction God gave. 1 Samuel 15:3, 20-23.

3. Any pastor, prophet, or prophetess who knew but kept encouraging you to keep attending his church or ministry which is causing problem between you and your husband is practising lawlessness. Matthew 7:21-23. These things are not a guarantee of being right with God. Overzealousness is nothing. The will of God is above everything.

Even though they prophecy in his name, cast out demons in his name, and perform many signs and wonders in his name, they will be rejected by God on the last day. Same with the overzealous disobedient wife. Do not be deceived.

4. If your husband has this issue against you and you think by being too zealous for God that he will accept you, you are wrong and on your own. You cannot appear before God with sin as a disobedient wife who is striving with her husband and expect God to accept your work, gift, or sacrifice in the church or ministry you attend. Before God will accept you anywhere, you must go and make peace with your husband first. See it here in Matthew 5:23-24.

5. They tell you there is no husband in heaven but they won't tell you there is no church in heaven. They won't tell you that you must give account of what you did with your husband on earth before they allow you pass through the gate of heaven. If not, you are going nowhere. God only desire those that will worship him in spirit and truth wherever they are.

Know this, that if you move from one church to another, it will not be used against you on the judgment day. But when you move from one husband to another, or abandon the one that married you, you have a case to answer. God hates divorce, Malachi 2:16. So if your desire to worship with a particular pastor, church, or ministry is making you to do what God hates, then you will have yourself to blame on the day of judgement.

6. This is what it means to love God, that you keep his commandments and yet his commandments are not burdensome. His will that you seek to do is not a burden that can cause problem and separation between husband and wife, Deuteronomy 30:11-14, 1 John 5:3. What he desire from us is simple, see also Micah 6:7-8.

The purest and undefiled form of religion/worship before God is to help the orphans, widows, and to stay away from worldly things, James 1:27.

7. Let no man judge you because of keeping the Sabbath day for it ts not a requirement for going to heaven, Col 2:16-17.

Submit to your husband and have deep respect for him, Ephesians 5:22-24, 1 Peter 3:1-2, 5-6.

If you are a pastor, prophet, or prophetess, and you have a member who is having such issue with her husband, it is better to do the needful accordingly to what is written in Matthew 5:23-24. Let them go make peace first with husbands and come clean before God for worship.

Even if it means they won't come back, at least you are not guilty of causing division and breaking what God has joined together.

Just because it’s a church doesn’t mean God approve of it.
Almost every individual church’s teachings and doctrine is different from each other. This is a problem as the Bible only teaches one thing.
Many churches in a subtly or more conspicuous way deviates from Bible teachings and practices. One would be divorcing himself from God if one attends such churches

Bribri:
You see this topic made me had a rethink for the no 1 on my list. An apostlic church bred suddenly turn cele and was hell bent on no withdrawal. Baba gently begin take steps backward. I don't want confused kids with different notion in faith. Thanks for bringing this up.

So what ais it that made a person who was brought up in an apostolic church to be a cel church member?

apstpaulg:
The foundation of everything matters. During premarital enquiry or counseling (of which most faulty marriages never did), you should have been able to learn things about your compatibility. A premarital counselor doesn't necessarily need to be 100% your pastor, else, he might be counseling you based on his own church doctrine, which might be out of normal societal moral standard.
If you do a very good counseling before saying "I do" , you'll know all you need to know about toleration yourselves before marriage.

You are dodging the problem

Many men don't go to church at all and they don't care which church the wife attend.

If you married someone as a man from another church,faith,sect then you as a man is the key problem here.
And I don't see the reason for you as a man now turning your house into a war zone

juman:
Many men don't go to church at all.

And this is a problem on its own when they end up marrying church going,bible believing ,tongue speaking women

According to her she had a premonition and random strangers telling her to join.

baralatie:

So what ais it that made a person who was brought up in an apostolic church to be a cel church member?

Apostle Paul himself has written on this issue and it was straight forward.
It was not a do or die


If the unbelieving oarther depart no problem
If the unbelieving partner stay better


The grace of the believing partner covers the other


But the real issue is when Apostle Paul teachings on Marriage and responsibilities.
If you do not understand it.then you will be in shock and difficult corners trying to manoveu

Billionaire2:
the way it is now, it’s like everyone is going to the other region’s hell

Bribri:
According to her she had a premonition and random strangers telling her to join.

If she as an apostolic started having premonitions from cele.does it not show the weakness of the faith they both have towards/ in their own apostolic movement.
This may be due to the mounting problems they are facing though
So the problem is clear.the two were growing under the apostolic faith but were growing apart

Romanoff:
Which obedience?

When many have derailed from God's plans for marriage.

The same husband who fornicated his way to marriage and slept with many women along the line?

Or the same wife who probably slept her way through marriage with a long mileage to add?

Marriage is honorable if it's entered rightly and the way God intended it to be. A marriage you didn't enter with God's standards according to His word, you're now quoting scriptures to suit your narrative.

Amos 3:3 says can two work together unless they agree? If you don't have a solid foundation that you both agree on before getting married, na these kind issues una go dey deal with in marriage.

Pastor doesn't even need to preach it, cause for a woman who doesn't have the right Christian foundation, pastor fit preach tire, she still no go change. You know how many pastors preach say fornication is a sin? She change, even you change? Shebi una continue till una marry?

But somehow you want the woman to obey you cause the bible says so.

🤣
I no dey reply anybody mention.

You dey para o!
Well
It is God that will help homes who are battling with this issue

My problem is not attending the same church.
My question ❓ is why do we have different Churches?.

baralatie:

And this is a problem on its own when they end up marrying church going,bible believing ,tongue speaking women

The wife on her own on which church to attend.
The husband not interested in the discussion.

tricosite:
My problem is not attending the same church.
My question ❓ is why do we have different Churches?.

Because different churches offer different levels of faith but all generally are rooted in Christ Jesus'(except for few)

juman:


The wife on her own on which church to attend.
The husband not interested in the discussion.

But the two agree to be knacking together when this issue persists and unresolved.
Is that not problem

Reminds me of a church guy dating a Muslim hijab woman(not girl o,woman).
I don't blame/judge him o.it is not everyday you jam a a light skinned hausa woman who comes with everything perfect.but her story is touching sha

I beg to differ on no 7.Keeping the Sabbath is a condition for making heaven

papertrail:
I beg to differ on no 7.Keeping the Sabbath is a condition for making heaven

Are you 7 day Adventist

Why should going to different churches be a problem? The earlier we know God by ourselves, the easier our lives become.

baralatie:

But the two agree to be knacking together when this issue persists and unresolved.
Is that not problem

There is no problem at all.
Probably in all religions women are more religious than men particularly in third world countries where they believe they need God to get things done.
Many cases women pray while men don't interested in prayer.

Before asking the Woman to Obey the Man, is the Man obeying God? Before asking His Woman to submit to Him, has the Man submitted to God?

If He has submitted to God, then He will focus on the major of loving and cherishing His Wife as Christ loved the Church, by giving up himself and sacrificing for her. Rather than majoring in the minor of whether she comes to His church or not.

As long as they are both going to Bible believing churches, they can come back home to fellowship and share what they learnt from
Their various churches, and there will be peace in the home.

juman:


There is no problem at all.
Probably in all religions women are more religious than men particularly in third world countries where they believe they need God to get things done.
Many cases women pray while men don't interested in prayer.

There is a gospel song in Yoruba women
Ojo ajinde
Ojo ajinde o
Awon obirin nlo sodo Jesus
Awon okinrin nlo sapa mo!


Now going by that song.hiw is that not a problem when they marry.the okunrin is running from church while the wife is running to church!
Is there not conflict of interests

baralatie:

But the two agree to be knacking together when this issue persists and unresolved.
Is that not problem

if the man doesn't see her attending another church as a huge problem, we can not force it to become a problem.

I believe this thread is talking only about when a husband objects to it and the wife still insists on attending a different church.

If the man is not bothered, let us not force him to bother with our own mentality.

For crying out loud people marry even accross religions in peace.
It's self righteousness lack of due diligence and lack of wisdom that makes marriage within same faith but different churches a huge problem.
The key thing is to
Agree from beginning on what's acceptable and what is not and then decide whether to carry on or to cancel.

Problem plenty for this world abeg.
Bigger fish to fry.

baralatie:

There is a gospel song in Yoruba women
Ojo ajinde
Ojo ajinde o
Awon obirin nlo sodo Jesus
Awon okinrin nlo sapa mo!


Now going by that song.hiw is that not a problem when they marry.the okunrin is running from church while the wife is running to church!
Is there not conflict of interests

Abegi religion nah largely scam.
In working system you go to government office to seek for assistance, you don't pray to god.

Churches vs churches

spine:


if the man doesn't see her attending another church as a huge problem, we can not force it to become a problem.

I believe this thread is talking only about when a husband objects to it and the wife still insists on attending a different church.

If the man is not bothered, let us not force him to bother with our own mentality.

For crying out loud people marry even accross religions in peace.
It's self righteousness lack of responsibility and lack of wisdom that makes marriage within same faith but different churches a huge problem.
The key thing is to
Agree from beginning on what's acceptable and what is not and then decide whether nto carry on or cancel.

Problem plenty for this world abeg.

Simple shey
But see epistle of op

juman:


Abegi religion nah largely scam.
In working system you go to government office to seek for assistance, you don't pray to god.

In a working system
So what about Nigerian and African system!
You see why women pray

If only most of our wifes and young ladies could watch and listen to to

16 April 2023 Sunday Service message


By Prohpet Amos Child of God of Jesus Christ Temple Ministry


Believe me many marriages and homes will be saved.

I encourage everyone to listen to these man of God teachings once.

Then come back and tell your thought.

May God have mercy on Us.