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Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by Prolificlife(f): 6:32pm On May 20, 2023
Hi Lively Stones,

I have been married to my husband for five years, I just discovered I my husband’s secret lifestyle which is giving me serious high blood pressure. When we got married, everything was fine…but one thing that was the problem was: my husband is short tempered. If we have any arguments, he goes from zero to hundred very fast. And then, he would take a walk outside to go and smoke a cigarette to cool off.

As a wife, me too, I can be aggressive because I dont like to take nonsense from anyone but I try my best not to nag my husband or argue with him cos he gets annoyed easily but he also apologizes easily too, before I go crazy myself. My husband’s anger is really only for a short time, after that, he is all good and back to his normal self again. Last year, the company where he has worked for nine years got bought over and my husband was among those that were laid off. We never expected that. But my husband got a pay out of about 2.5M which he told me he wanted to invest in.

My husband set up a bristro with the money. The renting of the place and setting up took almost all the money. I even supported him with 350k. But he said its his passion, he wanted to sell shawama, suya, grills,etc…the place was a hit…people were coming to the spot to patronize us. The only concern was the business was a night business so my husband will be out until like 12.30am or 1am everyday. Since the business was just starting, he needed to pay extra attention to it.

After 4 months, husband got more workers to join him. There was this girl called Clara. She seemed very smart so hubby made her supervisor of the business. After a while, hubby started complaining that business was not doing well. He started accusing workers of stealing from him. I felt bad so I told him to let me work there on weekends, let me try and see if I can find out who was stealing from him…hubby said no.

This continued to the point where the business was really beginning to fail. He had to let alot of his workers go cos he could not pay them. I asked him why he did not fire the supervisor since she earns more money than others, so he can save some money, he told me he cant cos she is his best hand in the business. Then I started noticing that hubby got back from his bristro even much later than 1am, sometimes, he will come back 3am….he will say he had to stay longer to see if more customers will come.

And then he will have a smell that is like weed but when I ask him, he will get upset and say he smells like bristro smoke from the grills. Just to avoid quarrel, I left him alone. A few weeks ago, husband came back around 11pm…very early, unlike him. He said he was tired and needed a break. I made him food and we ate together before going to bed. At night, I wanted hubby to make love to me. I started caressing him and he was responding.

The only problem was I noticed his penis was down. No matter what I did, he could not get an erection. I was really disappointed…..hubby has never disappointed me before when it comes to s3x. So he got up and went outside. After like 10mins…he came back inside….clearly, he had smoked something and that something smelt like the same smell I was complaining about. As he was making love to me, it hit me that the smell was actually weed. I realized hubby went to smoke week so he can make love to me.

Well, I was surprised cos my husband never needed any enhancers to make love before but I was happy he wanted to please me to the extent of taking something. But that pleasure I was feeling was stopped when hubby began to jerk to come…he became very rough…holding my neck like he wanted to strangle me…next thing he exclaimed: Clara, Clara, Clara…he finally came as he was calling the name Clara. The awkwardness that followed after was something else.

My husband realized what he did and said sorry…it was a slip of tongue. We both knew what had happened….there was no explanation to hide that. I was upset and told him to confess that he has been f*cking Clara his supervisor. He tried to make light the issue but I was ready for a fight…I told him too explain himself or I will break his head with a bottle…I ran and got a beer bottle….husband ran after me and tried to stop me, I broke the bottle on the floor….I threatened to stab him.

When he saw I was serious, he began to beg and said he will tell me the truth. And he began to talk. Apparently, Clara got my husband hooked on weed and seduced him. They have been f*cking and she has been taking most of the proceeds to the business, that was why his business was failing. He admitted that he got hooked on Clara….and he tried to break it off with her but she threatened to release their sex tape to me….so he could not do anything.

Now, I have become aware, I could not believe what was happening in my marriage. Hubby showed me the s3x tape and I could see that he had rough s3x with Clara…no wonder he tried to do the same with me. I told my husband to call her bluff….let her do her worst but he must fire her instantly. Hubby fired her eventually and she could not do anything cos I was already aware. The only thing that happened was that…few days later, the shop was attacked and all our equipment was stolen.

My husband is suspecting Clara is behind it. Cos the girl is a street girl…she may have organized boys to rob us. But we dont have any evidence plus, if we try to report to police, it will become public knowledge that my husband smokes weed and slept with his employee…He is too embarrassed for that. Husband said we should leave it alone. Now, my husband is home without a job or money. All he does is just smoke weed and say its not bad…that its medicinal herb but I see how stoned he gets, he is useless to himself and to the family.

I watch my husband everyday becoming a shadow of himself. He seems to have lost purpose in life…he does not want to do anything…I go to work and come back to see him playing video games. He is always stoned on this Indian hemp. The only thing he wants to do is f*ck me like a beast…I am getting tired and angry. I did not know I married a crack head….smoking cigarrete I can handle but weed, no…I cant.

When I try to talk to him, he gets upset and walks out of the house for hours…of course, to smoke and get high again. Family members have tried to intervene but he seems to have really lost the zeal to come back to his former self and be a responsible man….he does not want to look for a job or do anything…he said he wants to go into cryptocurrency or forest but he does not even have any money to do that and he does not even know how that business’ works….

Truly, I don’t know if he will every recover from the loss of his business and money….I don’t want to raise my children in this kind of environment. I am tired of talking to him to encourage him to do better….he now quarrels with me everyday. I fear I cant take this anymore. Please advise me.

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Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by iammo(m): 6:36pm On May 20, 2023
Depression from failed business , trying to cope with weed

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Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by hadjipapiey(m): 6:42pm On May 20, 2023
Fracas and Crackers everywhere
Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by Nobody: 7:52pm On May 20, 2023
Smoking weed has nothing to do with his current state. He's just jobless and idle. And point of correction weed isn't crack. Weed is natural herbs while crack is a freebase cocaine which is much more dangerous, addictive and will render the user useless.

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Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by Kutunban: 7:54pm On May 20, 2023
Interesting
Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by YouandiAllofus: 8:52pm On May 20, 2023
Although there is no perfect marriage out there, but if i were a woman: idleness, malice, abuse, violence, drugs, gambling, smoking, drinking are no dos or cancel because once they become addictions, these habits forms a sense of knowing that can't be unknown. They can only take divine intervention to heal. But if you think there is sign of redemption, the first place to start will be him getting a decent job.
Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by Dogalmighty17: 9:04pm On May 20, 2023
Your husband really needs a job. This thing can be a very touchy issue for most men. Losing a job or a business collapsing can be very traumatic. Imagine all that in the present Buhari economic disaster.

Some of us have been through worse. I smoke, i drink but i still provide for every damn thing in my home. Even down to toothpick. My wife has her business but I've never one day asked what she does with her money.


The day woman give you her money, eternal see finish don start be that. The husband is a fool. Only an idiot sleeps with his staff.

All things considered, the story appears quite made up though. I'll give the writer B for effort.

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Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by socialmediaman: 9:16pm On May 20, 2023
Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by ahnie: 9:24pm On May 20, 2023
Touching story!
Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by Saynoomore: 9:51pm On May 20, 2023
Na lie! Fake made-up fable!

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Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by frozen70(f): 10:48pm On May 20, 2023
The only thing I can say is that he brought all these to himself

I don't even know how safe she is with him

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Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by IkeIgboNiile(m): 3:20am On May 21, 2023
Madam, weed is not crack. If your husband ever gets hooked on crack, just pack your load and go home.

Smoking weed helps calm a lot of people but i think what you and your husband need is to have an honest heart to heart conversation.

He has put up walls and doesn't want people to see him as a failure so you need to break down those walls and get him to talk to you.

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Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by dodoatirice: 6:00am On May 21, 2023
Clara don use hundred naira weed collect millions from your husband.

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Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by ogbenimax007: 6:50am On May 21, 2023
Dogalmighty17:
Your husband really needs a job. This thing can be a very touchy issue for most men. Losing a job or a business collapsing can be very traumatic. Imagine all that in the present Buhari economic disaster.

Some of us have been through worse. I smoke, i drink but i still provide for every damn thing in my home. Even down to toothpick. My wife has her business but I've never one day asked what she does with her money.


The day woman give you her money, eternal see finish don start be that. The husband is a fool. Only an idiot sleeps with his staff.

All things considered, the story appears quite made up though. I'll give the writer B for effort.
i respect you bro... Smoking and drinking can not make us useless if you knw what you are doing......
Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by Prolificlife(f): 8:41pm On May 21, 2023
Am very sure you're not married!
Saynoomore:
Na lie! Fake made-up fable!
Re: Help-i Am Loosing My Mind Because My Husband Has Became A Crackhead by Saynoomore: 9:02pm On May 21, 2023
Prolificlife:
Am very sure you're not married!

I'm also very sure you looking for a husband

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