Your wife has a big anger issue...
Her background has also affected her so much...

I understand your plight, and it's a tough one on you especially being an intermittent husband.

Find a time to call her and speak calmly to her to see reasons with you. Ask her what the problems is and also whether you have done anything bad to her. Not that she will be able to point out anything but still ask her...
Also ask her if she is happy with the way things are?

Again, do you help out with work around the house?
Have you done anything to her while you both were courting, that she is still yet to forgive and let go of?
How old is your baby? Maybe the stress of caring and catering for the baby is getting to her being a first timer...

Is she a good christian/ a believer or a good muslim?

Lastly, how old is she? Maybe she is still young to realise some things... Just maybe...
All these questions or points I have mentioned above are worth considering.

Also keep praying for her..
For the anger issue and verbal insults, please highly restrain yourself. Never lay your hands upon her. They have that special gift of insulting one, debasing your ego and saying terrible things which may want to push you to act but please never lay your hands on her except in self-defence.

If all these doesn't seem to work, at the last resort you may need to seek from reasonable elders from her family (not yours otherwise she will feel like you have exposed her and may not get over it in a long time)

Let her work on her anger issues...

May God help you and your home...

Life of a man is already hard by default no matter how rich or wealthy you are.

But on a serious note, most you guys out there are trying. why would my wife denied me sex, ogbeni why.. aunty the following morning you are going back to where ever I picked you from oo.

CuriousMind2022:


Pocohantas, you're a very popular moniker here, so I know you very well. And I will take my time to respond to you. This is also my alternate moniker, which I created last year while my marriage was on the verge of collapsing.

You read my thread and I don't blame you for making the assumptions that you made.

March 22, 2022, is a day I will never forget in my life. On that fateful day, my wife and I had a fight and she pulled five kitchen knives on me, that she will kill me, kill herself and then call our parents to come take our baby. Unknowingly, to me, my wife whom I married had become filled with so much resentment for me. She literarily saw me as a filthy person, because of my bad habits then. I was consumed in lust and masturbation, I wake up in the mornings then and the first thing I do is to start surfing Instagram admiring all manner of women with big butts. Slowly, I became obsessed with soft porn (At the time I told myself I wasn't doing pornography because I don't watch pornstars have sex).
Thankfully, after I shared my ordeal here last year, I got to know that I was actually doing soft porn.

After the fight last year, I left my house to go live with my elder brother. I actually stayed there for about 3 weeks, before the issue was resolved and I returned back home. It took interventions from 2 of our pastors and my elder brother and his wife to resolve the issue. My wife is a sensitive person, and I didn't know she had hacked my phone and was seeing everything I was doing on the internet. She literarily knew the names of the handles, I loved visiting. This caused her to hate me so much! She didn't see the other good things I was doing. Well, I didn't really blame her for that.

After that terrible incident, I blamed myself for everything that happened. I still remember, how I wept in my elder brother's...I kept on calling my name and telling myself that see how I had allowed lust and pervasion to ruin my home. I was broken, and I cried to God to help me overcome those bad habits and restore my home. Thankfully, God help me. The first thing I had to do was to come out clean! I confessed to my pastors and my elder brother the real problem in my home.

As a Christian, I have come to know that the only way to be free from such secret and destructive sin as pornography and masturbation is by coming out publicly.

Aside from coming out publicly, I took some drastic steps. I deleted all my social media accounts (Instagram, Facebook, and even WhatsApp). I also did away with using and having a smartphone, I used torchlight for a very long time just to avoid stumbling on my triggers on the internet. Just to add, that it was also quite easy for me to overcome those bad habits of mine because I was not really an addict as my wife thought. I started masturbating when I was already a full-grown man, I loved looking at beautiful women and that was actually the part that I struggled with. But thankfully, God helped me and even now I can boldly share my story anywhere I was once trapped in the web of soft pornography, but God helped me to overcome it.

I really didn't owe you this explanation, but I saw the need to clear you on this that what you read in my thread last year, is an old me.

As I stated in my original post in this thread, I still believe my wife's background is what is chiefly affecting her. And she is not the type that listens to advice, if not she probably would have improved. I still remember the battles we had to fight both physically and spiritually before we could get married. Her family practically did not want her to get married.

I really love your honesty, no matter how much they want to make u feel bad...
You wife is a very insensitive person...she's probably still judging u by Ur past even after taken care of that past....
..
Guy.... I think u should follow the advice of people telling to give her back to back
.
For a month don't ask for sex
Don't ask for food
Don't talk unnecessarily
Just give her the minimum enough for her upkeep.
When she calls, say okay, okay, alright...not jokes..
Don't sleep in same room
.
In fact start fasting and praying and improve your spiritual life for one month and ignore her nasty habit...
U will feel better .. and she will come back to her senses...and if doesn't ...tell her to start preparing for divorce

Kobojunkie:
All I read is you equate love with sex and your wife denying you sex means she has no love for you. And you somehow think the blame should all be on her as far as all the problems you perceive in your marriage, no be so? **yawn***

This woman sef!😕😕

CuriousMind2022:
It's a known fact that most Nigerian girls marry who they consider ready for marriage and not necessarily who they love. I am exactly in that dilemma and the question I am asking myself is whether I should continue in this loveless marriage or slowly drift and walk away.

My marriage is barely 2 years and a few months, but it has been a rough journey for me. Things I never envisaged I would experience in my marriage, I have suffered, from utmost disrespect to verbal abuse.

I came to the conclusion that she doesn't love or care about me based on what happened yesterday. I was recently transferred from my base to a new location and because of that, I would only be able to visit weekends or twice a month. Prior to that, we barely had sex once a week.

We had already had sex the normal once we usually had it (Saturday morning), but I wanted more because I will only be coming back after two weeks. I initiated a move on Sunday morning, she declined because she was thinking of preparing food for our baby before we leave for church. We went to church and came back, and as usual, my wife was in her undies (just panties and bra) in the sitting room (This was what she wore throughout that Sunday).

I watched her walk around the house in that and that even turned me on the more. I am a practicing Christian, and I try not to look after other women lustfully, but common this is my wife, even God sanctions that. After being turned on throughout the day, I went to my wife in the night, (note she slept in the sitting room with our baby leaving me alone in the room) to enjoy my conjugal rights with her, but she gave me excuses that she is upset and not in the mood.

I left and went back, seriously konjified, I managed to sleep. The next morning, I woke up with my urges and went to the sitting room to have my morning devotion, but I could barely concentrate because I was still very Hot. I explained to her that so really wants me to go to my new station like this knowing fully well I will not be coming back until 2 weeks time. This woman did not care!

I took my bath, prepared myself, and set out for my office. I was not happy with her but I kept my cool and left for work. She had demanded that I dropped some money for her before leaving and despite the fact that I was not happy with her, I dropped the money in a conspicuous place where I know she will see it before leaving. This was my own way of saying I am not happy with what you did, but I still cared.

I try to do things I usually do for my wife even when I am angry with her. This is my own way of saying I may be angry with you, but I still cared about you and I am open to a resolution. On the other hand, my wife doesn't care what happens to me when she is upset. She immediately stops cooking for me ad any other thing she does for me when she is upset. It is obvious to me now that to my wife I don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. She is only caring and concerned, when she is not angry (when we are good and we don't have any issues). I believe that when you love somebody, you treat them right and show genuine love and care for them even when you're upset with them. This is what I have constantly shown to my wife in our 2+ years of marriage.

Back to my story of what happened weekend/Monday. My wife never bothered to call me to check if I arrived safely since I left the house yesterday. I even called her once (primarily to check on my daughter), but she didn't pick up and she didn't call back, and up till now, we have not spoken.

She obviously does not care whether I arrived safely in my station or not. In this country of insecurities, a family member of yours will travel and you do not care whether he/she arrived safely, that is the height for me, and in the actual sense, I should be the one upset here because she left me high and dry, despite knowing fully well I am very Hot.

I am a family-oriented person, I have always dreamt of having a peaceful, loving, and Godly home but unfortunately, the reverse is the case for my wife. I began to understand why family background is very important in a person's life, after getting married. My wife is from a family where they place little or no value on marriage. Her mother had children with 2 men, and my wife is obviously working very hard to follow that same path. She shows little or no enthusiasm in making our marriage work. I am always the one to initiate moves to resolve issues when we quarrel, whether I am right or wrong, I do not care, my focus is just on making my marriage work and my home peaceful.

This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.

I needed to let my thoughts out and thanks to Nairaland, I have done so.

hmm you know what to do and still asking for our advice

Just tell her to pack out from ur house
Make she go her mama house
If she get sense
She will come and be apologizing
If don't have sense
Leave her

CuriousMind2022:

This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.

Let her go for family planning.. don't have another child with that woman untill you're very sure your marriage will last. Separation affect children more than you can think.

RenegadeX:


Op ignore this simpish advice okay. Don’t have any heart to heart talk with any mofo . See I have dealt with women and I know them like the back of my palm. I repeat don’t have any heart to heart talk. Start giving her woto woto. An eye for eye. Sometimes this bitches do not respect you when you act Christlike or behave as a Godly man. They want to see crazy and you should enjoy showing crazy.

You need to harden your heart to a point were if a bitch threatens to leave you. You open the door and kick her ass out for making that threat. Kick her so had that she falls and scrapes her knee on the floor.

That money you are giving her stop giving her shishi. Don’t help her do anything. When you come home buy fast food and eat in her presence. Do your laundry yourself and make sure you go out and hangout with friends and post pictures of yourself having fun and arrange one of your guys girl to hold you in a romantic way.

When you come back don’t respond to her questions or naggings. Don’t make any advance sexually behave like she does not exist.

Either of two ;Dthings will happen. Either she will come to her senses or she too will not mind you. If she doesn’t mind you then I’m afraid someone is giving her back to back the way she wants it. She wants to tow her mothers lifestyle.

I repeat drop that gentleman that you are forming they don’t respect it. This bitches are like children once you don’t call their bluff they triple down on their bad behavior.

If she tries to abuse you verbally give am better slap for her left eye

You will be surprised how that once a week will change to thrice a week

I am just like you Mr op a very good man that don’t like cheating but if you take my calmness for weakness and want to be disrespectful. You go collect woto woto. Ready to go your papa house or that useless dick that she wants to cheat on me with. Let her go and have it fully. I no send your papa

Great

Get a side chick, give her a dose of her own medicine. Is she loves you, she will ight for your attention, if she doesn't, then the marriage is as good as dead

CuriousMind2022:

I needed to let my thoughts out and thanks to Nairaland, I have done so.

Kobojunkie:
All I read is you equate love with sex and your wife denying you sex means she has no love for you. And you somehow think the blame should all be on her as far as all the problems you perceive in your marriage, no be so? **yawn***

It's like you lack comprehension or you didn't read and understand what the OP wrote, you just want to be the first to comment.

Read to understand, don't just read to comment.

Peace.

CuriousMind2022:
It's a known fact that most Nigerian girls marry who they consider ready for marriage and not necessarily who they love. I am exactly in that dilemma and the question I am asking myself is whether I should continue in this loveless marriage or slowly drift and walk away.

My marriage is barely 2 years and a few months, but it has been a rough journey for me. Things I never envisaged I would experience in my marriage, I have suffered, from utmost disrespect to verbal abuse.

I came to the conclusion that she doesn't love or care about me based on what happened yesterday. I was recently transferred from my base to a new location and because of that, I would only be able to visit weekends or twice a month. Prior to that, we barely had sex once a week.

We had already had sex the normal once we usually had it (Saturday morning), but I wanted more because I will only be coming back after two weeks. I initiated a move on Sunday morning, she declined because she was thinking of preparing food for our baby before we leave for church. We went to church and came back, and as usual, my wife was in her undies (just panties and bra) in the sitting room (This was what she wore throughout that Sunday).

I watched her walk around the house in that and that even turned me on the more. I am a practicing Christian, and I try not to look after other women lustfully, but common this is my wife, even God sanctions that. After being turned on throughout the day, I went to my wife in the night, (note she slept in the sitting room with our baby leaving me alone in the room) to enjoy my conjugal rights with her, but she gave me excuses that she is upset and not in the mood.

I left and went back, seriously konjified, I managed to sleep. The next morning, I woke up with my urges and went to the sitting room to have my morning devotion, but I could barely concentrate because I was still very Hot. I explained to her that so really wants me to go to my new station like this knowing fully well I will not be coming back until 2 weeks time. This woman did not care!

I took my bath, prepared myself, and set out for my office. I was not happy with her but I kept my cool and left for work. She had demanded that I dropped some money for her before leaving and despite the fact that I was not happy with her, I dropped the money in a conspicuous place where I know she will see it before leaving. This was my own way of saying I am not happy with what you did, but I still cared.

I try to do things I usually do for my wife even when I am angry with her. This is my own way of saying I may be angry with you, but I still cared about you and I am open to a resolution. On the other hand, my wife doesn't care what happens to me when she is upset. She immediately stops cooking for me ad any other thing she does for me when she is upset. It is obvious to me now that to my wife I don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. She is only caring and concerned, when she is not angry (when we are good and we don't have any issues). I believe that when you love somebody, you treat them right and show genuine love and care for them even when you're upset with them. This is what I have constantly shown to my wife in our 2+ years of marriage.

Back to my story of what happened weekend/Monday. My wife never bothered to call me to check if I arrived safely since I left the house yesterday. I even called her once (primarily to check on my daughter), but she didn't pick up and she didn't call back, and up till now, we have not spoken.

She obviously does not care whether I arrived safely in my station or not. In this country of insecurities, a family member of yours will travel and you do not care whether he/she arrived safely, that is the height for me, and in the actual sense, I should be the one upset here because she left me high and dry, despite knowing fully well I am very Hot.

I am a family-oriented person, I have always dreamt of having a peaceful, loving, and Godly home but unfortunately, the reverse is the case for my wife. I began to understand why family background is very important in a person's life, after getting married. My wife is from a family where they place little or no value on marriage. Her mother had children with 2 men, and my wife is obviously working very hard to follow that same path. She shows little or no enthusiasm in making our marriage work. I am always the one to initiate moves to resolve issues when we quarrel, whether I am right or wrong, I do not care, my focus is just on making my marriage work and my home peaceful.

This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.

I needed to let my thoughts out and thanks to Nairaland, I have done so.

Here is my advice for you.

Women know men love sex and armed with this fact, they will do everything within their power to weaponize sex. Do you think you wife does not know what she was doing when she wore only her undies and was walking around the house She knows perfectly well what she was doing.

Let me teach you something about human beings. Our senses do not function optimally when we are in need to quench our biological thirst. For instance, if you are hungry, you make bad choices when looking for something to eat. If you are thirsty, you make bad choices when looking for something to drink. In the same vain, people tend to be loyal to people who can feed them, or quench their thirst or cure their urge for sex. Your wife is banking on the fact that she can cure your urge for sex and therefore she weaponize's it. The day you are able to feed yourself, or quench your thirst or satisfy your urge without depending on the person/people you formerly depended on is the day you enjoy true freedom.

Don't be scared, your marriage will not end badly. Look for a girl to satisfy your urge or better still, in order to save yourself the stress of having to woo a sidechick, just engage in "pay as you go". When ever you are Hot, get a runs girl and satisfy yourself. Since your wife is denying you one of the most important things in your life, please deny her all the most important things in her life. Reduce the money you give her to 20% of the original amount. Reduce the affection you show her. Smile when handling your phone for no just reason. Go out more in the evenings. Improve on your personal hygiene.

Remember this even if you forget everything I have said above " YOU ARE LIVING OUT YOUR LIFE TIME THE SAME TIME YOUR WIFE IS LIVING OUT HER LIFETIME. DON'T EVER PLACE YOUR HAPPINESS ON ANY WOMAN.

YOUR TRUE LOVE IS YOUR MOTHER BECAUSE EVERYTHING YOUR MOTHER DOES FOR YOU IS FOR YOUR OWN SURVIVAL, AND EVERYTHING YOUR WIFE DOES FOR YOU IS FOR HER OWN SURVIVAL.

The day you are unable to provide whatever you're providing for her is the day the marriage will end. You married a woman who sees marriage as transactional. Deal with it.

IN THIS GAME OF LOVE, WOMAN ARE NATURALLY MORE INTELLIGENT THAN MEN. BUT ONCE YOU TREAT HER THE SAME WAY SHE TREATS YOU, SHE BECOMES SUBMISSIVE.

Find out what your wife loves best and deny her from having it. If your wife is the type that is very happy when you help her out on domestic work, please stop doing it. If she loves money, please stop giving her money. If she loves attention, please stop giving her attention. Whatever she loves, please stop doing it for her. And always have a smilling/happy face.

Treat her exactly as she treats you.

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ChybuzzDD:


[b]Y[b]our usual thread-derailing strategy didn't work here, as no one was ready to engage you.[/b]

That's great.

One day, we'll be able to find out if you're actually a bot or a virus that infected the platform .

@bolded once you stop making sense you lose your value and again he always draw conclusions about any engagement or argument with him.

Kobojunkie:
All I read is you equate love with sex and your wife denying you sex means she has no love for you. And you somehow think the blame should all be on her as far as all the problems you perceive in your marriage, no be so? **yawn***

You're very wrong. He did say that the woman shows no care. He traveled, she could not call to check on him. She could not return missed calls. She doesn't cook when she is angry. What else?

Kobojunkie:
All I read is you equate love with sex and your wife denying you sex means she has no love for you. And you somehow think the blame should all be on her as far as all the problems you perceive in your marriage, no be so? **yawn***

That's not fair. Didn't you see what he said about him travelling and his wife not even caring to know if he's arrived safely?

It's also mean of you to attempt to invalidate his feelings with that yawn.

SmartyPants:
■ That's not fair. Didn't you see what he said about him travelling and his wife not even caring to know if he's arrived safely? It's also mean of you to attempt to invalidate his feelings with that yawn.

I also read his past history and how that had created the current problem between his wife and himself, something OP conveniently forgot to include in his OP as he carefully laid out instead a tale that set his wife up as the evil witch in the whole story.

crowther15:
■ You're very wrong. He did say that the woman shows no care. He traveled, she could not call to check on him. She could not return missed calls. She doesn't cook when she is angry. What else?

Well, OP conveniently left out the details of why his wife treats him the way she does. I read his past history and how that had created the current problem between his wife and himself, something OP conveniently forgot to include in his OP as he carefully laid out instead a tale that set his wife up as the evil witch in the whole story.

being:

klass99, this is a recipe for disaster esp in marriage!! @ OP Take note two wrongs will crash the marriage in no time.. that's d direction 2 wrongs will take you.. esp with someone like her who did not grow up seeing a marriage work.

Some marriages deserve to crash.

Kobojunkie:
All I read is you equate love with sex and your wife denying you sex means she has no love for you. And you somehow think the blame should all be on her as far as all the problems you perceive in your marriage, no be so? **yawn***

Always capping like a psycho

Kobojunkie:
All I read is you equate love with sex and your wife denying you sex means she has no love for you. And you somehow think the blame should all be on her as far as all the problems you perceive in your marriage, no be so? **yawn***

your face no show again your shoe 👞 no shine...shame on you derailing every thread here and there everyone has know your game plan.

Story...

When the time is right, u mumu guys go get sense...

I am yet to be convinced by anyone wetin dey inside this marriage una dey put hands in that is beneficial...

I'm yet to be convinced...

The only thing is that u simps dey always come out and wail like say dem force una...

iInjureHerYansh:
Always capping like a psycho

I thought 💭 am the only one that know this fact

Bro, find out what her love language is and be able to communicate it effectively to her.
"Love language here is simply the way she understands emotional love to be expressed.
It could be words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service etc.

I wonder why people take this marriage thing seriously

MrNipplesLover:
Story...

When the time is right, u mumu guys go get sense...

I am yet to be convinced by anyone wetin dey inside this marriage una dey put hands in that is beneficial...

I'm yet to be convinced...

The only thing is that u simps dey always come out and wail like say dem force una...

The society "persuades" them
When they see others, they will wanna do
hahahahhahahaha

being:

Those are relationships. In marriage, it can be very different. To be sure, constant retaliations like that is a leading cause of marriage breakdowns... OP get her(&u) counselling fast!!!

E no get wetin person wan talk this guy na SIMP

Kobojunkie:
All I read is you equate love with sex and your wife denying you sex means she has no love for you. And you somehow think the blame should all be on her as far as all the problems you perceive in your marriage, no be so? **yawn***

mumu talk as usual

kkins25:
CuriousMind2022, you see, you did not tell us the genesis of the situation. In one way, you'd have manipulated all of us to think your wife is the devil.. You see why people don't listen to men when they are under psychological duress?

Sorry for what you went through with masturbation and soft porn. Addicts often do not consider themselves addicted, so, it wasn't entirely your fault. The flesh easily overpowers the mind. Have you communicated with your wife?

Can u read at all? Did u read and understand this young man?
Because he took pain to explain how everything happened over a year ago which it was already solved and not related to this...yet u can't use Ur head and think...u are asking stupid question if he communicated with his wife, no he communicated to you..like, do u guys read to think?

Sir, a wife who denies you sex and shows you little or no Respect does not Love you. I hope you address her about it and if no changes run for your life before you die

PeterObi4Presid:

Can u read at all? Did u read and understand this young man?
Because he took pain to explain how everything happened over a year ago which it was already solved and not related to this...yet u can't use Ur head and think...u are asking stupid question if he communicated with his wife, no he communicated to you..like, do u guys read to think?

Already solved? You have never been in a serious relationship before, have you?

Kobojunkie:
All I read is you equate love with sex and your wife denying you sex means she has no love for you. And you somehow think the blame should all be on her as far as all the problems you perceive in your marriage, no be so? **yawn***

Where did you leave your brain?

CuriousMind2022:
It's a known fact that most Nigerian girls marry who they consider ready for marriage and not necessarily who they love. I am exactly in that dilemma and the question I am asking myself is whether I should continue in this loveless marriage or slowly drift and walk away.

My marriage is barely 2 years and a few months, but it has been a rough journey for me. Things I never envisaged I would experience in my marriage, I have suffered, from utmost disrespect to verbal abuse.

I came to the conclusion that she doesn't love or care about me based on what happened yesterday. I was recently transferred from my base to a new location and because of that, I would only be able to visit weekends or twice a month. Prior to that, we barely had sex once a week.

We had already had sex the normal once we usually had it (Saturday morning), but I wanted more because I will only be coming back after two weeks. I initiated a move on Sunday morning, she declined because she was thinking of preparing food for our baby before we leave for church. We went to church and came back, and as usual, my wife was in her undies (just panties and bra) in the sitting room (This was what she wore throughout that Sunday).

I watched her walk around the house in that and that even turned me on the more. I am a practicing Christian, and I try not to look after other women lustfully, but common this is my wife, even God sanctions that. After being turned on throughout the day, I went to my wife in the night, (note she slept in the sitting room with our baby leaving me alone in the room) to enjoy my conjugal rights with her, but she gave me excuses that she is upset and not in the mood.

I left and went back, seriously konjified, I managed to sleep. The next morning, I woke up with my urges and went to the sitting room to have my morning devotion, but I could barely concentrate because I was still very Hot. I explained to her that so really wants me to go to my new station like this knowing fully well I will not be coming back until 2 weeks time. This woman did not care!

I took my bath, prepared myself, and set out for my office. I was not happy with her but I kept my cool and left for work. She had demanded that I dropped some money for her before leaving and despite the fact that I was not happy with her, I dropped the money in a conspicuous place where I know she will see it before leaving. This was my own way of saying I am not happy with what you did, but I still cared.

I try to do things I usually do for my wife even when I am angry with her. This is my own way of saying I may be angry with you, but I still cared about you and I am open to a resolution. On the other hand, my wife doesn't care what happens to me when she is upset. She immediately stops cooking for me ad any other thing she does for me when she is upset. It is obvious to me now that to my wife I don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. She is only caring and concerned, when she is not angry (when we are good and we don't have any issues). I believe that when you love somebody, you treat them right and show genuine love and care for them even when you're upset with them. This is what I have constantly shown to my wife in our 2+ years of marriage.

Back to my story of what happened weekend/Monday. My wife never bothered to call me to check if I arrived safely since I left the house yesterday. I even called her once (primarily to check on my daughter), but she didn't pick up and she didn't call back, and up till now, we have not spoken.

She obviously does not care whether I arrived safely in my station or not. In this country of insecurities, a family member of yours will travel and you do not care whether he/she arrived safely, that is the height for me, and in the actual sense, I should be the one upset here because she left me high and dry, despite knowing fully well I am very Hot.

I am a family-oriented person, I have always dreamt of having a peaceful, loving, and Godly home but unfortunately, the reverse is the case for my wife. I began to understand why family background is very important in a person's life, after getting married. My wife is from a family where they place little or no value on marriage. Her mother had children with 2 men, and my wife is obviously working very hard to follow that same path. She shows little or no enthusiasm in making our marriage work. I am always the one to initiate moves to resolve issues when we quarrel, whether I am right or wrong, I do not care, my focus is just on making my marriage work and my home peaceful.

This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.

I needed to let my thoughts out and thanks to Nairaland, I have done so.

Dude you’re in a mess!
Your fears are accurate.
I’m a believer of tit4tat …do me, I do you X2

You should apply this formulae
But I hate to say this because my heart skips beats when I do … is someone else satisfying her when you are away?

Kobojunkie:
Already solved? You have never been in a serious relationship before, have you?

Lol.
I'm sorry for you.
..
I have more than 5 gals ready to give me sex if I told them to come visit me...But I'm no longer interested in those life style. It takes one nowhere.
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It's better to be closer to God than most of these relationships with life sucker and time waster.. it's recently I'm beginning to understand Paul's take about sexual and marriage denial

PeterObi4Presid:
■ Lol. I'm sorry for you. I have more than 5 gals ready to give me sex if I told them to come visit me...But I'm no longer interested in those life style. It takes one nowhere. It's better to be closer to God than most of these relationships with life sucker and time waster.. it's recently I'm beginning to understand Paul's take about sexual and marriage denial

Your response does not connect in anyway as a rebuttal to what I said.

Again,Already solved? You have never been in a serious relationship before, have you?

By the way, very "Christian" of you to mention women waiting to have sex with you when queried about relationship. I can see how much sex is no longer on your mind thanks to your following your sexual purity doctrines.