OkayDaddy:


You're not tolerant, you're simply a big fool.

You are a graduate of a Federal University and they are slapping and spitting on your head. Well, since you can't use your head to think, maybe it is only good for slapping.

Go to the nearest barracks, ask of their military police unit and go report. Tell them the man you work for has been maltreating you and you suspect he's a cultist. That you don't want to involve the police because they don't handle cult matters well.

What they will do to that guy, he won't die but he will be looking at death in front of him like this.

Tryagain77:

Be easy with your name calling please. Thanks for the advice though.

OkayDaddy:


I don't have to sooonfeed you or sound nice, I told you the truth. You are being foolish.
Sometimes, people need to be spoken harshly to so their brains can wake up.

Kimiso:
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I cannot tolerate 20percent of what you've faced with the said boss in question we would have fought vigorously

Omo guy you are too cool

Tryagain77:
I saw a post on this forum which looks similar to mine and that inspired me into writing this to share with people how my boss (former) was abusing me.

I graduated from one of the courses in social science in one of the federal universities and have been job hunting to land a good job but to no avail.

Bills were piling up while I was going down economically. Out of hunger, lack and frustration, I settled to work as a barman in a hotel.

A week after resuming that work, the man that the hotel is leased out to started showing me his true colours. Nobody is above mistake in life. Even minor things that could have been settled without raising eyebrows, he would shout at me and abuse me right in front of customers. He would use derogatory words to describe me and say all sort of inhumane things to me, all to show that he's the boss.

Despite all that, I couldn't leave because I had no other job option at hand. For the 9 months I have worked in the place, these are the things I went through.

1. I have been verbally and physically abused by the said man. There is no kind of derogatory and inhumane word that man has not used on me and most times, right in the presence of customers and also when in the presence of the girls he brings to sleep with.

Note: this is how he behaves with all the staff, not only me.

2. He kicked me, slapped me, knocked my head, spat on me, yelled at me. Calling me a fool, an idiot, useless something etc, was no longer anything worrisome to me again because I got used to it.

3. Because of all these abuses, his friends who use to come there took advantage and started abusing me too. One slapped me the other day because I presented a bill he thought I surcharged him, which we later found out I didnt. I don't blame him actually.

4. You would work 2 months plus before you receive 1 month salary. For example, you would receive January salary between 10-15th of March.

5. Salary was N25,000 but I have never received that amount complete. He always look for something accuse me of in order to deduct our so called salary and pay less. There was a month I received N7000 as my salary.

6. Any customer that breaks a glass pays N1000 for it. When he first mentioned this in a meeting, we thought he was joking, but he was being serious. When he started deducting my salary for broken glasses, then I realized he was serious. I have never heard anything of such anywhere before. That a customer who breaks glass should pay N1000 for it.

What happened on the 23rd of May.
23rd of May was his birthday. He invited friends and celebrated. Right in his presence, one of the guests broke a glass. I'm the only one serving both the bar and guests in the room including food. So it was a very busy time for me. Just because I didn't sweep the broken glass immediately because I was busy serving people, as I wanted to pass, he shouted angrily at me, aimed me with the broken glass and broke my head. I was bleeding and I left the place to a pharmacy to treat the wound. Guess what? He was not even remorseful about it at all.

The following day I tendered a resignation letter with immediate effect. Obviously if I don't leave the place, the man may kill me or make me do something I will later regret.

Now pay me off, he's telling me I need to work again at least another one month for him to find a replacement, if I'm serious about receiving my outstanding salary or I should forget about it. Even at that, I know too well that he will pay me anything he likes, claiming glasses were broken, I did this and I did that. Presently he's looking for job seekers but nobody wants to work with such a crude person anymore. Even someone he sacked as usual over two months ago, he's not been able to replace till today.

Now I'm jobless, hungry and penniless.

I need advice on how to go about to collect my money from this man. I don't have strength for any fight with him. I just need my hard earned money but let it not be until another blood is spilled.

Story of a struggling Nigerian.

Tallesty1:
He is not cool, he is dull.

See the tittle of his post sef, My Abusive Boss Finally Broke My Head......... Like he knew it was gonna happen and legit waited for it, only trees do that.

dobaduro:

Honestly the guy foolishness is very amazing. It weak me to the marrow. Even if there is no job outside, there is a level of maltreatment one could take for the sake of 25k you can enter street and get in days. May be there are other things he is gaining there which he don't want to mention. Very foolish human being. Graduates should be ashamed of you

OkayDaddy:


I don't have to sooonfeed you or sound nice, I told you the truth. You are being foolish.
Sometimes, people need to be spoken harshly to so their brains can wake up.

OkayDaddy:


That idiot is not fit to be a graduate. He is too stupid.

Maybe he's seeing small money to steal there, that's why he doesn't want to save his own life.

Sucre6:


Lols, wait until the man use gun shoot u before u go react, someone dehumanized you u still dey look for excuse for am, so him dehumanizing the op is constitutional abi, ?

Abeg no quote me sounding defeated

dobaduro:

Honestly the guy foolishness is very amazing. It weak me to the marrow. Even if there is no job outside, there is a level of maltreatment one could take for the sake of 25k you can enter street and get in days. May be there are other things he is gaining there which he don't want to mention. Very foolish human being. Graduates should be ashamed of you

ravensckar:
Bros, don't waste your time on those weaklings. They are the reason why abusive people are becoming rampant in our society. See ehn, being a big man or rich man doesn't give anyone the right to abuse or physically injure his staff. I've said it countless times and I'm reiterating it, all my life no employer has ever abused me. E never happen before and e no go ever happen. My people in Ajegunle used to say; 'Na from clap dance take dey start'.

The very moment you allow your abusive boss yell at you, then the next thing will be to call you names. Then, he'll go to the next level of slapping you. If you still continue to tolerate it, na torture remain. God punish devil. I once worked for a woman who has the habit of shouting on her staff. The day she tried me, I shouted at her back in the presence of other staff and I told her to 'go fvck herself'. I got fired afterwards but it felt good.


Another boss I worked for (who was a cocaine sniffer) has the habit of slapping his staff. When we had an altercration and he attempted it, I told him that I'll beat him to pulp and I won't spend a day in police cell. And I swear to God, I meant it. Baba just calm down sey make dem pay me off.

During interviews when they ask me why did I leave this place, I make it a point of duty to mention what actually happened and to tell my would-be employers that I won't condone abuse in any form. If you like hire me, if you like don't hire me but I'll never give you the power to abuse me.


The summary of my point is that abusers will never turn a new leaf if we continue to tolerate and make excuses for them. Yes, the government has a role to play by enacting strict laws against domestic or workplace abuse. Our institutions too have a role to play in order to curb this menace but the sufferers have the major role to play by not tolerating abuses from their boss.

#My_Take

ravensckar:
Bros, don't waste your time on those weaklings. They are the reason why abusive people are becoming rampant in our society. See ehn, being a big man or rich man doesn't give anyone the right to abuse or physically injure his staff. I've said it countless times and I'm reiterating it, all my life no employer has ever abused me. E never happen before and e no go ever happen. My people in Ajegunle used to say; 'Na from clap dance take dey start'.

The very moment you allow your abusive boss yell at you, then the next thing will be to call you names. Then, he'll go to the next level of slapping you. If you still continue to tolerate it, na torture remain. God punish devil. I once worked for a woman who has the habit of shouting on her staff. The day she tried me, I shouted at her back in the presence of other staff and I told her to 'go fvck herself'. I got fired afterwards but it felt good.


Another boss I worked for (who was a cocaine sniffer) has the habit of slapping his staff. When we had an altercration and he attempted it, I told him that I'll beat him to pulp and I won't spend a day in police cell. And I swear to God, I meant it. Baba just calm down sey make dem pay me off.

During interviews when they ask me why did I leave this place, I make it a point of duty to mention what actually happened and to tell my would-be employers that I won't condone abuse in any form. If you like hire me, if you like don't hire me but I'll never give you the power to abuse me.


The summary of my point is that abusers will never turn a new leaf if we continue to tolerate and make excuses for them. Yes, the government has a role to play by enacting strict laws against domestic or workplace abuse. Our institutions too have a role to play in order to curb this menace but the sufferers have the major role to play by not tolerating abuses from their boss.

#My_Take

OkayDaddy:


That idiot is not fit to be a graduate. He is too stupid.

Maybe he's seeing small money to steal there, that's why he doesn't want to save his own life.

Draggun:
What did I just read? Wtf. Bros I cannot endure 1% of what you endured walahi. As e dey hot, I go change am for you sharp sharp. In 2017, I worked at a supermarket and on my first day at work, the woman accused me of being sluggish and started calling me unprintable names because I was lean asf then.

Omo I open mouth tell her say ogun kill you there for saying rubbish. Shouted back at her and left never to come back. I no dey take rubbish abeg. If you respect me I go respect you. If you do anyhow, you go see anyhow. If you give me 1 gbas, I go give you many gbas gbos.

Fab21:



Lol...

Una dey para! 😀😀

I left a work when my 'Team Lead' was telling me I'm too sluggish and not too smart.
Every of his word at me was to damage my self esteem.
Sometimes he'll call me start comparing me with others.
All kinds of little abusive words.

I didn't get my self throughout my stay in that place.
I get home and cried to God.
Anytime I see him heart starts beating faster as if he's god.

I later resigned..
Though it's not been easy but my mental health is more important.