JennyJossie:
Your advice pls at 29 to 30 some one is ready to marry you and also promise to train you in school, but you are not sure. And one of your relative said he will train you in school, and you are sure about it but on the conditions that you must let go of marriage issues. Which one will you go for

Tricky question

You have to consider ASUU strike if you consider education first, they can make 4 years course to be 6 years.
And at age 30, if you have to think about menopause.

So my advice is, if the guy seems supportive and ready, you can do the two. I have course mates that are married then. Tell that relative that you are no longer getting younger and you are a woman.

Education
Education
More education

Go and marry!!

madridguy:
Jenny, since you have the 99% assurance from your relative, please forget marriage for now and go to school.

As for your potential husband, let him look for someone else so you can concentrate on your studies.

School can wait.

Biological clock cannot.

A word is enough for the truly wise.

Marry first. But discuss your progression extensively with your to-be partner, and in the presence of your family.
When God willing you're done having kids, or while it is convenient for you, start education- Could even be Open University.
Either way, be sure to not make desperate moves.
Discuss EXHAUSTIVELY with your family, and your spouse to be.

Nothing like biological clock again with the latest success in the health sectors.

Majority of broken home today na financial wahala dey tear it.

bluefilm:


School can wait.

Biological clock cannot.

A word is enough for the truly wise.

Omakraid:

What if after dropping the marriage plans, the relative also dropped school plans 🤷. Will your relation be there for all your school needs?

Is marriage symbolical to school? Or is it trophy?

Never go into anything with uncertainty

JennyJossie:
Your advice pls at 29 to 30 some one is ready to marry you and also promise to train you in school, but you are not sure. And one of your relative said he will train you in school, and you are sure about it but on the conditions that you must let go of marriage issues. Which one will you go for

your potential husband can enter into a prenuptial legal agreement that allows to school funded by your relative or partly by him.

Foodqueen:
Marriage can fail u, education won't. That's all I have to say.

are you sure education doesnt fail

Omakraid:

What if after dropping the marriage plans, the relative also dropped school plans 🤷. Will your relation be there for all your school needs? By the time you gain admission at 29, you'll graduate at 33/34 and now start looking for how to settle down.

The person that wants to marry you and also train you in school, how financially buoyant is he?

Is that what you're thinking for yourself and suggesting to her?

Before you go to school make sure you have a business that will keep your engine running in school even if you have a relative that wants to pay.
Gentle reminder
PEOPLE CHANGE

What if your relative goes bankrupt and can't afford then you drop out or you get the government loan and if you can't pay after graduation you go to jail.

If you choose to marry
The best!
But make sure you still a business or something
that fetches you money

JennyJossie:
Your advice pls at 29 to 30 some one is ready to marry you and also promise to train you in school, but you are not sure. And one of your relative said he will train you in school, and you are sure about it but on the conditions that you must let go of marriage issues. Which one will you go for

Samantha124:
I'll let go of the marriage idea and focus on school... If the guy is serious, he'll wait until I'm done with school and we'll get married.

He will wait 4 years because he is serious for a girl who is already 30

Make all of us just dey play jare

madridguy:
Nothing like biological clock again with the latest success in the health sectors.

Majority of broken home today na financial wahala dey tear it.

Please don't make me laugh

Nazgul:

The man is just worried that if you get married while in school, childbirth and other family issues might hinder you from concentrating on your studies, so to him it's going to be like a waste of his precious money. Cos what's the point of spending money to sponsor someone who might end up having 2 or more extra years? What kind of result would you come out with at the end of the day?

If you really want to get married and still go to school, you can meet him and iron out things with him. Promise him that you'll maintain a CGPA of not less than 3.5 per academic session. That if you fall below that, he can withdraw he's sponsorship. If he sees your determination, he'll go ahead and sponsor you.

I am more interested in knowing what happened that you are thinking of starting school at 29? I know our circumstances are all different, but if you really value education that much, why haven't you pursued it for the last 29years? And where is that your relative all those times ?

Nobody here will be able to give you the right answer, we don't know your personal circumstances, your motivation or even your suitor and relative's motivation.

Sit down, had a deep reflection on what you want for yourself and what you consider the most important to you and go with it.

What's the purpose of education in Nigeria, if not for the b.sc or b.tech results/
certificates. Certificates that are now being bought with money. Results that students bribe their way through their lecturers to get either in cash or in kind. Certificates that still doesn't guarantee automatic Job employment. People just go to school to obtain the certificate.

JennyJossie:
Your advice pls at 29 to 30 some one is ready to marry you and also promise to train you in school, but you are not sure. And one of your relative said he will train you in school, and you are sure about it but on the conditions that you must let go of marriage issues. Which one will you go for

Whichever way, school first. Who wants to marry a nonentity or a liability?

Kemadealadire:
Both can be done together.

Did you do the same?

Being married gives one a leaverage and opportunity in so many ways

No dey dey do slayer be it man or woman
Menupus is 40 now for women with some 35 yrs

Join the two both marriage and school.
But dont go to a fa distance school

Loadedtheory:


Is marriage symbolical to school? Or is it trophy?

Why marriage before education. Settle the basic education required tp support the home, before marriage.

Why should you but a car, before learning to drive?

Adewale1603:
What's the purpose of education in Nigeria, if not for the b.sc or b.tech results/
certificates. Certificates that are now being bought with money. Results that students bribe their way through their lecturers to get either in cash or in kind. Certificates that still doesn't guarantee automatic Job employment. People just go to school to obtain the certificate.

So it is marriage that guarantees all you’ve said, right?

Education is the answer so that you will learn what marriage is all about at the age of 33/35

Let ur Relative train you.
Get Educated first.
That one u are sure.

An Educated Woman is a NEVER a liability.

Marriage will come later. Even you will be of a more value after school.

JennyJossie:
Your advice pls at 29 to 30 some one is ready to marry you and also promise to train you in school, but you are not sure. And one of your relative said he will train you in school, and you are sure about it but on the conditions that you must let go of marriage issues. Which one will you go for

Since your relative is sure to train you in school, goto school and tell your fiancé if he truly wants you, then he should wait for you and that's if you truly worth waiting for...

luckyz4rea:


So it is marriage that guarantees all you’ve said, right?

not marriage. But we do put priority too much on school/ certificate. As if they're not other things in life one can venture into, like vocational trade, skills, handwork, business e.t.c

By what I’ve read so far in this thread, there are many inexperienced possibly under 20 slay queen wannabes who possibly look up to feminists and women who have divorced 5 times due to their inability to maintain a home as idols.

A woman of your age WILL NOT advise you to prioritize education more than building a home… A university education these days is a waste of time, learning a skill is what pays, which you can do in your husband’s house.

At this age suitors will naturally be on a decline meanwhile NUC is accrediting new universities everyday.

Use your head

JennyJossie:
Your advice pls at 29 to 30 some one is ready to marry you and also promise to train you in school, but you are not sure. And one of your relative said he will train you in school, and you are sure about it but on the conditions that you must let go of marriage issues. Which one will you go for

JennyJossie:
Your advice pls at 29 to 30 some one is ready to marry you and also promise to train you in school, but you are not sure. And one of your relative said he will train you in school, and you are sure about it but on the conditions that you must let go of marriage issues. Which one will you go for

Choose marriage first after your full kyc and d cipher you and your guy are compatible.

ThatCEO:


He will wait 4 years because he is serious for a girl who is already 30

Make all of us just dey play jare

True though but I don't understand why the relative will withdraw the sponsorship if she's willing to study while being married...

It would have been better if she marry and goto school at the same time...

JennyJossie:
Your advice pls at 29 to 30 some one is ready to marry you and also promise to train you in school, but you are not sure. And one of your relative said he will train you in school, and you are sure about it but on the conditions that you must let go of marriage issues. Which one will you go for

I quitted marriage for school and I’m filled with God’s joy rather than regrets. If you have what it takes to go to school please do. Go after enlightenment. When you are enlightened, you’ll be better informed about life, you’ll be better positioned for marital decisions with God helping!

JennyJossie:
Your advice pls at 29 to 30 some one is ready to marry you and also promise to train you in school, but you are not sure. And one of your relative said he will train you in school, and you are sure about it but on the conditions that you must let go of marriage issues. Which one will you go for

School.
Come into a marriage as an asset, not a liability.