30 THINGS THAT KILLS LOVE

June Love class 2021


1 - Parasitic Lifestyle. When you depend so much on him in everything you want, then this can make him lose respect for you and reduce or kill the love you both share.


2- Foolish and childish behavior.  Many men and women are matured in body but childish in thought, acts and looks. if one party behaves matured and the other behaves in a disappointing manner, then the love is bound to die.


3- Negative testimonies of Friends and Family can kill or build your love life. What people say about you to your man or woman behind your back can be harmful to your relationship so mind the life you live in secret when you think no one is watching.


4- Uncontrolled closeness to your spouses friends who are of the opposite sex. (e.g. your friend or husband's male friends or brothers or your wife's female friends or sisters)


It is ok to be cool and friendly with your spouse's friends but don't be too close to them.


5- Carelessly exposing your dirty underwear as a lady to your man can irritate him someday. (As a married person, keep them decently from where he can't see them all the time, and as a single, keep them far from where he or she will see them should he visit your family house by surprise someday)


6- Unforgivess: No one is perfect in Relationship. Marriage is the coming together of two imperfect people. So overlooking shortcomes and forgiving one another is a must if love will not die.


7- Lack of Trust: This is a quick Killer of love. once you no longer trust each other then know that your love life is at the edge of destruction.


8- Call hanging, Refusing to pick calls and Never caring to call.


9- Unskillfulness on basic Home Training like cooking, warshing and arranging your man's belongings.


10- Being Unapologetic:


11- Stinginess: when one party can't use his or her money to get a simple gift or item for the other, this can gradually kill your love life when it happens repeatedly. You don't need to wait for valentine or birthday to supprise each other with gifts. as little as 200 Naira, buy suya unannounced for him or her, it builds love.


12- Hatred for the man's family or woman's family.... You can't love a man and don't love his people, or love a woman and don't love her people.

Although, you two are now another family, but still care about the others.


13- Giving in to sex easily as a lady in courtship. When you throw sex on men, they use and dumb you! don't make them feel like it's sex that you can offer in relationship if you want genuine love.


14- Being Unappreciative


15- Prayerlesness: When every other thing fails, prayer can never fail.


COMMUNICATION


16- Lack of body language techniques! Learning to be romantic with your eyes, mouth or other parts of your body with the signs you make with them can nuture your love bond and make your man or woman always miss you!

Know how to communicate with your body to him alone, to the extent that he or she is always wanting to see you because only you can do what you do!

Many ladies do this and after Marriage they kill the whole skills! That will be killing your marriage!

As a married couple, you have all moral, legal and scriptural right to always romantically seduce each other!


17- Third party game: Telling another person what you should have told your love first makes them stop loving or trusting you when they finally discover it.


18- Not being able to defend your love behind them when friends, family or society speaks against him or her before you, destroys love. 


19- Disrespectful COMENTS: A lady loves to be cared for, but the man loves to be respected. There are some COMENTS that may sound casual but might end up killing your love life. eg-

- You no get sense oh

- Abeg Abeg

- And So?

- Sighing

- You are not the only one....

- Do let me leave jor

- For your mind!

- When people dey talk you follow too.


20- Lies:

Lies will make you lose trust, integrity, character and eventually kill your Relationship.


HYGENE:


21 - Irritating Smell:  Body odour caused by unkept undies and Clothings, mouth odour and general dirty can kill a romantic atmosphere and cause seperation between you two. 


22- Unkept Vital Parts of the Body: Too much hair down there can sometimes be irritating for the male and female genetile organ, so married ladies, don't cultivate a forest in your body! or are you trying to loss your man in the bush?


23 - Dirty Home: The look of your kitchen and bedroom explains if you are a dirty or clean woman: 


If the man tries to clean the house, he focuses more in the seating room because a man believes there is his own while yours is the kitchen, bathroom and bedroom! While you two try your best, the ladies should know that a dirty kitchen and scattered bedroom can turn love sour.


24: Uncontrolled gassing on outing especially during your courtship stage.


OTHERS:


25- When you have no life experience apart from sex and relationship, it kills love faster!

Apart from I love you, I love you.... share life experience together! go to market together, married couple bath together, go to movies together, gossip together, visit friends together.


A love life lived only in the bedroom will be destroyed on the bed.... Go out and experience life too. Be romantic also and not just sex all through.


26- Anxiety over Having a perfect Relationship.


Too much anxiety for a perfect home will make one too strict. Learn to loosen up as no one is a completely perfect been. it is not wrong to want a perfect home but if you don't watch it, you will not make accomodation for lapses and forgiveness which builds love.


27- Lack of Support:

There comes a time when the man needs support just like also the woman.

This support may be emotional, Spiritual, financial, social or otherwise, once they keep on getting it from outside the relationship, your love life is bound to die.


28- Control:

Wanting to be in control all the time can destroy not just your love life but a home.

Sometimes the Lady must free up the man.

Sometimes the man must allow the lady to choose the food the house will eat, make decisions and feel the sense of belonging.


29- Lack of Sexual Commitment:

You have the job to forever seduce each other, romance each other and be crazy about each other!

Don't only die for him or her during courtship, continue the dying in marriage!

Don't look hot in courtship and then quench the fire in marriage! You need to be hotter I. marriage!


30- Family People:

It is good that we all have a family we came from, but allowing them to always intrude into your new relationship and family negativity, will affect the growth of your family, bond and love.

Men, shield your woman away from the toxic in-laws just as the woman should too.

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