Born2Freak:
As I am writing this, my friend's sister is considering divorce just after 5 months of marriage. She recently learnt that her husband is a serial debtor- a specialist in borrow-posing (borrowing things and acting as if you own them).

The husband in question is from a rich family but he spends money recklessly and borrows recklessly. His family was covering up for him and she thought that the man is responsible.

The point is that the woman (my friend's sister) was fooled by her husband's rich family and big house in Lekki. The family has a house in Lekki while the man rents in Ibeju Lekki.

But can we only blame the man? If my friend's sister was wise enough to do investigation into the man she was marrying, she would not have married him. She saw a rich family and didnt ask questions. The man does not really have a job. He just helps to manage the family's properties. The man also parties like a wild animal. But because he spends on her, she believed that he was a "big boy"

Now, the reality has set- loan apps and police have come looking for the husband at their apartment. The wife is getting different threatening phone calls and the husband quickly ran to the village to chill.

Please, for any woman that is going to get married, please do your proper investigation.
-Is your husband to be financially responsible (does he have a steady job or business?)
-Does your husband to be flirt with other girls or have cheating spirit?
-Is he a wife beater?
-Is he respected in his own family?

Open your eyes. Ask questions and be careful. Marriage is not a joke. My friend's sister is depressed today because she was carried away by greed and didnt look into her husband.

Believe you in me. You hardly marry a fine or educated women without faking it

SamuelLoch:
■ From you. You said over 83%. That leaves about 17%
Don't stress yourself, okay. Marriage can produce wealth, period!

I said 83% of the people that are married are struggling in poverty. That in no way means the other 17% became financially comfortable after marriage. Please stop abeg!

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Kobojunkie:
I said 83% of the people that are married are struggling in poverty. That in no way means the other 17% became financially comfortable after marriage. Please stop abeg!

Lol! I have heard you

I just tire for some people' all their concern was that the man is from a rich family so she will go and enjoy' even the writer is concerned about the guy from a rich family'' they forget it is better for worse

theophorus:
FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR SANITY NEVER REPLY ANY OF KOBOJUNKIE POST.

On the ongoing matter, Na Mumu dey marry Man because He dey spend on top Her. She be correct Mumu. If She leave the guy next person wen she go marry go be Yahoo boy or Thief because na wetin dey attract Her be that.

Man wen use Front and Back or Skin color as Criteria for marriage go likely marry "wahala Promax".

Change you values and you will attract people like You. Check well, that Girl na from that Tribe wen like Money pass their anything.

juman:
Females like lies and follow known liars.

If you are habitual liar, you party alot, you drink, smoke cigarette, weed, you are reckless etc, you are ladies man. They considered you as somebody with swag.

If you are religious, honest, simple, truthful, straight forward, hardworking etc, ladies considered you too boring and dull. You are too predicable.

You can be in between the two extremes...

That's a very good bad guy. different from a bad sharp guy.

Goodluck with greed

Born2Freak:
As I
-Is your husband to be financially responsible (does he have a steady job or business?)

So what exactly did your sister (or friend) do all through courtship and dating?
She wasn’t discerning to see he is chronic debtor?
Debtors cannot hide their horrible behavior or addiction for long. The tell tales are everywhere.

And this notion of financially responsible is a two way street. If she is financially responsible like it’s expected of her husband, she would have been able to move on and not be depressed.
Men are not poverty alleviation programs in marriages.
Every lady should own her money. Own a job. Let’s stop this I suffered with him when he had nothing. You too hustle your own thing. This will lessen the shock of a man that messes her up in future

The shege don dey hit me ooo

Marriage is beyond man's understanding

You can only attract your likes. Check well and you would see that the lady and the hubby lives the same type of life. Stop crying for her. She don- enter be say she don-enter. Make she remodel him to her dream- man and stop complaining. So many things bothering us now.

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ecolime:
Faworaja ti gbe baby yi ni handicap

She thought she struck gold. It is well with you.

Team his parents are okay, so, he would be comfortable too
You can't plant okro and expect to harvest tomatoes, you only reap what you sow.

authentic18:

Not quite true.
Some men can be easily manipulated or deceived o. Samson & Delilah, Adam & Eve
Same with some women

yeah. On few occasions. But, this very one is same as the hubby.

richmanrichard:
yeah. On few occasions. But, this very one is same as the hubby.

Yea
Let them keep playing chess with each other
I pity children from these types of homes.
The relationship won’t last

the Boldened points are the reasons ur friend's sister) got married to him......weytin she sabi chop dun hook am for throat now......i dont even know what to say to her but definitely no pity for her ........I am not saying she's a prostitute o but Her values are not different from those of a street prostitute

if i may ask, in what class class would you rate her upbringing, she dey act like weytin yoruba people dey call "omo oju o rola ri" ...... instead of her to focus on herself and how she can use her own sweat to buy house in Lekki too for herself and her parents, she wants to become wealthy and live in Lekki by putting her vagina to use

Born2Freak:


The husband in question is from a rich family but he spends money recklessly and borrows recklessly. His family was covering up for him and she thought that the man is responsible.

The point is that the woman (my friend's sister) was fooled by her husband's rich family and big house in Lekki. The family has a house in Lekki while the man rents in Ibeju Lekki.

But can we only blame the man? If my friend's sister was wise enough to do investigation into the man she was marrying, she would not have married him. She saw a rich family and didnt ask questions. The man does not really have a job. He just helps to manage the family's properties. [/b]The man also parties like a wild animal. [b]But because he spends on her, she believed that he was a "big boy"

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God punish your friend's sister


She was after the wealth from the jump. Did she come from a rich family? Prolly not

Her mates at school had dated her but she refused because they were still hussling

Her in-laws' wealth enticed her and now she's paying the price for her wrong move.

When "big boy" was buying her big gifts, she was there making fun of others... now she's depressed??

No sympathy from here

Your advice should have been "ladies, marry based on values and morals and not entirely on wealth"

Next!

I just know say na one stupid girl, lady, or woman go post this nonsense. Yes men will continue deceiving your gender cause una no get sense

Born2Freak:
As I am writing this, my friend's sister is considering divorce just after 5 months of marriage. She recently learnt that her husband is a serial debtor- a specialist in borrow-posing (borrowing things and acting as if you own them).

The husband in question is from a rich family but he spends money recklessly and borrows recklessly. His family was covering up for him and she thought that the man is responsible.

The point is that the woman (my friend's sister) was fooled by her husband's rich family and big house in Lekki. The family has a house in Lekki while the man rents in Ibeju Lekki.

But can we only blame the man? If my friend's sister was wise enough to do investigation into the man she was marrying, she would not have married him. She saw a rich family and didnt ask questions. The man does not really have a job. He just helps to manage the family's properties. The man also parties like a wild animal. But because he spends on her, she believed that he was a "big boy"

Now, the reality has set- loan apps and police have come looking for the husband at their apartment. The wife is getting different threatening phone calls and the husband quickly ran to the village to chill.

Please, for any woman that is going to get married, please do your proper investigation.
-Is your husband to be financially responsible (does he have a steady job or business?)
-Does your husband to be flirt with other girls or have cheating spirit?
-Is he a wife beater?
-Is he respected in his own family?

Open your eyes. Ask questions and be careful. Marriage is not a joke. My friend's sister is depressed today because she was carried away by greed and didnt look into her husband.

Wait oh Loan apps dey call police come arrest am?

1st time I'm hearing that.

The man did what he did because he loves the woman he married. He knew he had nothing and if the woman finds out she will not marry him.He knew the woman was after enjoyment and not supportive but he loves her. Some women are just the cause of their own problem. If your friend sister truly loves her husband outside money and material things then this is the right time to show love, care and support for him instead of thinking of running away or considering divorce. At the end na she go still regret because many cases like this na olosho dem dey end up oo. dat na if she never even start sef 🤐

Born2Freak:
As I am writing this, my friend's sister is considering divorce just after 5 months of marriage. She recently learnt that her husband is a serial debtor- a specialist in borrow-posing (borrowing things and acting as if you own them).

The husband in question is from a rich family but he spends money recklessly and borrows recklessly. His family was covering up for him and she thought that the man is responsible.

The point is that the woman (my friend's sister) was fooled by her husband's rich family and big house in Lekki. The family has a house in Lekki while the man rents in Ibeju Lekki.

But can we only blame the man? If my friend's sister was wise enough to do investigation into the man she was marrying, she would not have married him. She saw a rich family and didnt ask questions. The man does not really have a job. He just helps to manage the family's properties. The man also parties like a wild animal. But because he spends on her, she believed that he was a "big boy"

Now, the reality has set- loan apps and police have come looking for the husband at their apartment. The wife is getting different threatening phone calls and the husband quickly ran to the village to chill.

Please, for any woman that is going to get married, please do your proper investigation.
-Is your husband to be financially responsible (does he have a steady job or business?)
-Does your husband to be flirt with other girls or have cheating spirit?
-Is he a wife beater?
-Is he respected in his own family?

Open your eyes. Ask questions and be careful. Marriage is not a joke. My friend's sister is depressed today because she was carried away by greed and didnt look into her husband.

Kobojunkie:
Again... define lasting marriage so we clearly understand how it can be sustained by soul alone?

"Alone" is the key word in your question. Now, we know what you meant. It is all about the man's money, nothing else matters.

Undisputed147:
The man did what he did because he loves the woman he married. He knew he had nothing and if the woman finds out she will not marry him.He knew the woman was after enjoyment and not supportive but he loves her. Some women are just the cause of their own problem. If your friend sister truly loves her husband outside money and material things then this is the right time to show love, care and support for him instead of thinking of running away or considering divorce. At the end na she go still regret because many cases like this na olosho dem dey end up oo. dat na if she never even start sef 🤐

E be like say u no read finish. The man himself has run away. What remains now?

Nazgul:
The question is what does he use the money for?

It's one thing to borrow, it's another thing to spend the borrowed money productively.

If he has an addiction that's consuming his money, she can help him overcome it. That's why she's he's wife.

You guys just like deceiving yourselves. It is her that will help him overcome his numerous addictions? Lol. Na so the wife would just become a rehabilitation centre! When his parents have clearly failed at their primary job, it is now the wife who will "bend the dried fish"?

maasoap:

"Alone" is the key word in your question. Now, we know what you meant. It is all about the man's money, nothing else matters.

It should be about money and soul. Marriage is afterall an investment of the physical and mental kind and money is needed to maintain the physical while a lot also goes into maintaining the mental connection between partners.

maasoap:

You guys just like deceiving yourselves. It is her that will help him overcome his numerous addiction? Lol. Na so the wife would just become a rehabilitation centre! When his parents have clearly failed at their primary job, it is now the wife who will "bend the dried fish"?

Kindly recite the marital vows you and your wife made to each other if you're married.

Nazgul:

Kindly recite the marital vows you and your wife made to each other of you're married.

I know what people recite, though my wife and I didn't recite anything, didn't have to. For better for worse is not the same thing as the spouse becoming a rehabilitation centre or burden carrier

She saw a rich family and didnt ask questions. But because he spends on her, she believed that he was a "big boy"

Now, the reality has set- loan apps and police have come looking for the husband at their apartment.

My friend's sister is depressed today because she was carried away by greed and didnt look into her husband.

I won't be surprised if she turned down and looked down om other HONEST men before marriage because they did not falsely display to her that they were rich.

Look before you leap because not all that glitters is gold.

Nazgul:
■ Kindly recite the marital vows you and your wife made to each other if you're married.

Marital vows work for when both partners are upfront with each other about what is really going on, not for when one partner thinks to scam the other. If say na for here, that woman for go seek annulment of the marriage completely after discovering the man scammed her into marrying him..

Ilekokonit:
■ I won't be surprised if she turned down and looked down om other HONEST men before marriage because they did not falsely display to her that they were rich.

Look before you leap because not all that glitters is gold.

Nonsense! Since when did it become an ethical crime to be a gold digger, Mr. Dust digger?

maasoap:

I know what people recite, though my wife and I didn't recite anything, didn't have to. For better for worse is not the same thing as the spouse becoming a rehabilitation centre or burden carrier

If you didn't recite any vow, you shouldn't interfere in this matter. Cos if you understand the meaning of a vow, you wouldn't be saying this.

IconicR:
Family name and reputation matters but make sure you are not getting married to the black sheep. These signs are always there but most ladies overlook them and later regret it. Someone is dating you and he keeps clubbing, partying, drinking, smoking, always at the wrong places and keeping the wrong companies and call it vibes and you sef dy follow am shake head say na vibes only to start crying blood later in marriage lailai no be me. Na nonsense full street but if you are wise, you'll still get the best but also make sure you are deserving of the few best among these nonsense littered everywhere these days.

I don't know a responsible man that always go clubbing. Does anyone know?

ppogba:
On behalf of Nairaland's official OAP, I hereby dedicate Fire Fire by Daddy Showkey to the bride.

Great Jam.

kolo