Whether married or engaged, should your partner have access to your phone?

Yes or No? And maybe why?

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Ibelieve in transparency but not when it comes to phone issues


Idont wanna see your phone so please don't ask for mine

Candidlady:
Ibelieve in transparency but not when it comes to phone issues


Idont wanna see your phone so please don't ask for mine

If we marry nko?

illicit:


If we marry nko?

What would you need my phone for

I can't be with someone that'll hide his phones from me. If you can't be very open to me same way I'll do , then there's no need to be together. I hate that thing ehnnnn , you wan use curiosity kill me. I play with my dad's phone as I like, so I expect same from my oga.

Candidlady:



What would you need my phone for

At least I can pick your calls and u can pick mine

I have seen happily married couples do that

There's a couple I know , if u looking for either of them, and u met one

The same thing u expect the other one to say is what the one u met will say

It's just like they have the same mind

Ideally for a married couple, there should neither be any Entitlement nor any Restrictions.

illicit:


At least I can pick your calls and u can pick mine

I have seen happily married couples do that

There's a couple I know , if u looking for either of them, and u met one

The same thing u expect the other one to say is what the one u met will say

It's just like they have the same mind

You lost me from your third paragraph...

Taking my calls doesn't mean you fingering my phone...


You are allowed to take my calls and yeah with me permission!!!

Imight be doing something at that time.. you can't just take my calls without me giving you the go ahead...

Candidlady:



You lost me from your third paragraph...

Taking my calls doesn't mean you fingering my phone...


You are allowed to take my calls and yeah with me permission!!!

Imight be doing something at that time.. you can't just take my calls without me giving you the go ahead...

I can't fiddle with your phone if there's nothing to suspect...



The third paragraph, I was talking about some Wonderful couples I have met, they do things together
I doubt if they had secrets

If a marriage is happy and transparent, permission or not, they should be able to answer each other's call

One of the things that brings unhappiness and distrust in relationships is when we set unnecessary barriers

illicit:


I can't fiddle with your phone if there's nothing to suspect...



The third paragraph, I was talking about some Wonderful couples I have met, they do things together
I doubt if they had secrets

If a marriage is happy and transparent, permission or not, they should be able to answer each other's call

One of the things that brings unhappiness and distrust in relationships is when we set unnecessary barriers

First off... Who as a person doesn't have secret(s) ?? (Prolly coz of my trust issues)

Even in marriage ibelieve there should be some sorta boundaries between the man and the woman ?

Please iwould love to know some necessary barriers and some unnecessary barriers

Help me mention few
Nagode

Candidlady:



First off... Who as a person doesn't have secret(s) ?? (Prolly coz of my trust issues)

Even in marriage ibelieve there should be some sorta boundaries between the man and the woman ?

Please iwould love to know some necessary barriers and some unnecessary barriers

Help me mention few
Nagode

If u marry me, u dont need secrets

Or let's say ur secret is/becomes our secret, its us against the world now

In my idea of marriage, nothing is mine
It's ours


Operating phones shouldn't be a barrier, it will bring unhealthy suspicion if it's not allowed

I see married people as one, I don't see any barrier

If it's genuine love o

And yours truly, I have seen examples

What I told you that my uncle, a lay pastor and a retired lecturer, well travelled, never had girlfriends?

In marriage, to make it work, you need open hands.

My uncle's wife knows his location and whereabouts and vice versa...

NO.

Hiding anything away from ur woman or man is tantamount to distrust.

illicit:


I can't fiddle with your phone if there's nothing to suspect...



The third paragraph, I was talking about some Wonderful couples I have met, they do things together
I doubt if they had secrets

If a marriage is happy and transparent, permission or not, they should be able to answer each other's call

One of the things that brings unhappiness and distrust in relationships is when we set unnecessary barriers

You don talkam finish.

Yes,she has.... Cuz I don't have anything to hide......

He can have access to my phone when necessary, but he's not entitled to it the same way I'm not entitled to his.

What am I hiding that my wife can't have FULL access to my phone...

As I speak, she just returned my phone 📱 to me, as she used it for something....

Just in case you're not married, endeavour to discuss this phone issue with your partner since it's a big deal for you. Something I also noticed is your relationship with your dad. A little advice: learn to see your partner for who they are and try not to compare them with your dad. Allow your partner's personality to flourish.

IconicR:
I can't be with someone that'll hide his phones from me. If you can't be very open to me same way I'll do , then there's no need to be together. I hate that thing ehnnnn , you wan use curiosity kill me. I play with my dad's phone as I like, so I expect same from my oga.

This shows that the couple have healthy communication.

illicit:


At least I can pick your calls and u can pick mine

I have seen happily married couples do that

There's a couple I know , if u looking for either of them, and u met one

The same thing u expect the other one to say is what the one u met will say

It's just like they have the same mind

What if there's an emergency and they need access to your phone?

Candidlady:



What would you need my phone for

Valid point

GanagiBitrus:
Ideally for a married couple, there should neither be any Entitlement nor any Restrictions.

Any specific reason?

Stawner16:
NO.

Does that mean your partner can have access to your phone?

Nice2023:
Hiding anything away from ur woman or man is tantamount to distrust.

Do you also have access to her phone?

Sonnobax15:

Yes,she has.... Cuz I don't have anything to hide......

Should we say there are boundaries but yet a healthy one?

Samantha124:
He can have access to my phone when necessary, but he's not entitled to it the same way I'm not entitled to his.

Interesting! Most couples do not allow their partners access to their phones based on reasons known to them.

wunmi590:


What am I hiding that my wife can't have FULL access to my phone...

As I speak, she just returned my phone 📱 to me, as she used it for something....

Not entitled per se but it can be a sign of respect or disrespect depending on who’s asking.

Privacy is a normal and healthy part of relationships. If you don't trust your partner enough to afford them reasonable privacy, the battle is already lost.

I have nothing at all to hide from my fiancée, but I'd def think it was weird if she requested to go through my phone.

Chironks:
Interesting! Most couples do not allow their partners access to their phones based on reasons known to them.

It is either the partner is cheating or hiding some business deal with the partner...

I don't have anything to hide, my wife knows everything about me, she has my ATM pin, all my bank app password and every app I used that has password...

That's the person I sleep side by side with, if anything happen to me, she will be the first to rescue me

Yes.

Chironks:
Should we say there are boundaries but yet a healthy one?