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The Duration Of Courtship And Purpose Of Courtship In Christian Marriage. by Agybabe(f): 10:38pm On Oct 23, 2011
There are two sets of people i want us to talk about and share your views into their relationship.
The first set is about a guy and a lady that are into courtship for 3years and have not seen their unclothedness (they are christians and workers in the church and it is the will of God for them to get married). The guy started asking for sex else he'll end the 3years courtship but the lady insisted that it should be sex after marriage and also she does not want to leave the guy after 3years because she is not getting younger. The man has no good and stable job thus no sufficient fund and the lady do not have a well paid job. Pls what is your advice for them.
The second sets is about married couples who courted for just one month (both christians and workers in church and was also God's will for them to be married). After the marriage they were not able to cope because the man is very hot tempered and gets angered over minor issues and he has a well paid job. The woman squanders money on unnecessary items like clothes, shoes, etc and the man is fed up and wants to end the marriage. Please what is your advice for them. Shalom.
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Re: The Duration Of Courtship And Purpose Of Courtship In Christian Marriage. by tpia5: 3:24am On Oct 24, 2011
please translate so we can contribute.

or should we all respond in the same language ie shorthand.
Re: The Duration Of Courtship And Purpose Of Courtship In Christian Marriage. by Nobody: 3:37am On Oct 24, 2011
I can understand if this was typed on a phone, but If not, why do people feel it's cool to type like this on a full blown keyboard?

Apparently comprehension is so overrated grin
Re: The Duration Of Courtship And Purpose Of Courtship In Christian Marriage. by Agybabe(f): 6:24am On Oct 24, 2011
Please i am sorry about that, i have made corrections. Thanks as you share your views and advice.
Re: The Duration Of Courtship And Purpose Of Courtship In Christian Marriage. by chikeuz(m): 6:35am On Oct 24, 2011
I think courtship should last as long as it truly takes the couples to know each other very well.
The high rate of divorce happens to be, as a result of inadequate courtship. Why will u divorce him, for his faults which you know before jumping the broom.
Yea i know, the BF/GF Thing? Its usually most atimes sexually oriented or just to be on par with our peers. Hence, forgetting the essence of such relationships.
Proper courtship, must really help in the short run, cos in the long run people may change-in the short run you have time to learn other things about your spouse.
Re: The Duration Of Courtship And Purpose Of Courtship In Christian Marriage. by Image123(m): 10:01am On Oct 24, 2011
Marriage marriage marriage marriage, giving majority a lot of problems because people often fail to follow God, the origin of marriage.
Abeg pardon shorthand o, some people do use phones to post too. Though that should not be misused or abused.
To the first relationship scenario, is it 3years courtship or 3years boyfriend and girlfriend palaver? i think a true courtship starts when two people decide to marry and have both agreed, parents agreed, church agreed etc. So is it 3years courtship or 3years friending?
For the second case, it's probably a case of improper courtship. The period was probably not used in proper and realistic planning/harmony. All they need to do is work hard and catch up on their marriage goals, with God, all things are possible.
Re: The Duration Of Courtship And Purpose Of Courtship In Christian Marriage. by Agybabe(f): 10:24am On Oct 24, 2011
Image123:

Marriage marriage marriage marriage, giving majority a lot of problems because people often fail to follow God, the origin of marriage.
Abeg pardon shorthand o, some people do use phones to post too. Though that should not be misused or abused.
To the first relationship scenario, is it 3years courtship or 3years boyfriend and girlfriend palaver? i think a true courtship starts when two people decide to marry and have both agreed, parents agreed, church agreed etc. So is it 3years courtship or 3years friending?
For the second case, it's probably a case of improper courtship. The period was probably not used in proper and realistic planning/harmony. All they need to do is work hard and catch up on their marriage goals, with God, all things are possible.
The first scenerio is not friendship but courtship and families, church and friends are aware of it. It is 3 years courtship, they did not get married because they claim there is no fund.
Re: The Duration Of Courtship And Purpose Of Courtship In Christian Marriage. by Image123(m): 5:45pm On Oct 24, 2011
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Okay, my advice for them is to get married then. Though, it might be better if they were seen and counselled by a godly and experienced leader. It's better to marry than to burn. What they should realise is that some people are poorer than them and have married. They'd need a sustainable finance plan and family plan. Although, my default position would be that God gives a man a wife as an helpmeet. If there's nothing to help him with, there's no point for a relationship. Marriage is not just, i'm 27 let me marry. You need to be emotionally, physically, spiritually, financially and educationally mature to embark on it. But for them, i'll say let them marry, plan and trust God. They've got consent like you said. let's hope they've God's consent, for with God, all things are possible.
Re: The Duration Of Courtship And Purpose Of Courtship In Christian Marriage. by Agybabe(f): 6:38pm On Oct 24, 2011
Thank you. In addition to your point. They should combine funds together, they should not wait for plenty money so as to make an elaborate wedding. A small fund will do.
Thier courtship period was long which gave way for the devil to come in.
Re: The Duration Of Courtship And Purpose Of Courtship In Christian Marriage. by diva90: 6:19am On Dec 18, 2012
2 years or more is ideal.

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