abbeyd2:
I have somebody of your age she's 56 now, She narrated the story of her life to me.

It ended this way "IF I COULD TURN BACK THE HAND OF TIME" she would have amended her way.

Because there's time for everything. Very soon no man will look on your side except shop and go.

Westman001:


Why do you ask?

Offpoint1:

I'm not interested about the world "moving forward or backwards' neither am I interested 'America or Africa" mentality.

I'm interested in nature and the truth, your very existence today right now typing this is because, someone hard natural sex and give birth to a human child.

The most grievous sins against nature is killing and refusing to reproduce.

mariahAngel:
Your courage is commendable.

If you could go back in time, knowing what you know now, what would you have done differently?

Jeon:
I admire you very much!.

You did a great thing, Men are not too be worried about. Just live you life.

kazyhm:


How does this answer any of the questions ?

Those without life experience shouldn't have an opinion...........especially someone with shabby and myopic sentiments.

It seems you can't differentiated values from quantity.........

Katcall:
are you single

Jewessgratitud3:
Hopefully someone leans from my story. I don't regret any of my decisions so far. I'm happy that in all, I wasn't consumed, used to a point of no return in fact if you see me, you'll hardly believe I'm 42. apart from say I get small protruding stomach ( which almost everyone has) and it's only when I eat. Otherwise its normal. So it's caused by food and I overeat.

I also don't regret not having children outside wedlock cos it would have reduced my chances of getting attention from men even at my age. Yes.. I still get attention like serious advances from single men. This is not to make a boast. In this year alone, I've had two suitors. Very responsible guy and another man but the thing with me is that I'm too picky. if I don't like you first, e go hard. So those two were not my spec and I won't trap myself in a loveless marriage just because of age or "time is going " , if it's not what I want, I won't do it. Call me anything you like, your opinion. I don't kia!


Modified

I don't know why you're pained. That was me just being witty to lighten up the tense mood of my story but your dumb olodo self cant recognize a witty saying when you see one hence holding unto it and reacting like a beheaded chicken.

Empty skull

Jewessgratitud3:

LoL... Abeg feel free to tell your story. It can help others to be strong. It can go a long way to help.

Me I don't care. If you like use am yab me after telling you, na your toro. So long as e no remove Kobo for my account.

Woow this is interesting, you are just few years away from menopause 😳😳

Katcall:
You are a liar. I will want to marry and have kids. but saying kids take care of their parents in their old age is a big fat lie. What about those wayward kids and prostitutes that forgot they have a parent

greypencils:
If you are Ok being single in your 60s, all good. If not, you had better bend and quickly too. I know a bunch of single women in their 60s. They all had your kinda attitude, picky & unable to trust men. They are all in their 60s now, lonely and regretful. I don't presume they are lonely & regretful. I know because they tell me. Two out of those are family members.

GodHimself:
Quite a nice write up. And you were admirably open.

Of course anything I write here might be wrong since it’s based on perceptions from what you’ve written here.

That being said, it’s good to be picky, so long as the things you’re picky about are core things.
**Smiling** ok thanks I've heard you.
God bless.
Like kindness, concern about your progress, peaceful, mature way of resolving conflict, correcting with love… these things are of the utmost value.

That first guy could have been the one. you killed the relationship because of hearsay.

The guy that left you with a Hardon and came back deflated shows me that you don’t really know much about men.

You were the one that made him hard, and he deflated when he went out to talk to the other lady. But you misunderstood that.

In short, Don’t make long term decisions based on short term emotions. Try to understand men. Men are simple and uncomplicated at their core. It will not take a lot time to get the basics and a true picture of reality.

I hope you don’t take this this wrong way.

In all, God will bring a good man that will make you happy and proud your way, but I’m almost certain he will likely not appear in the form you expect.

Wishing you clarity and the best of men.

Skyview01:


I have an immediate younger sister who died last year, she was around your age and desperate to marry. I will post her story when I have the time on a different page.

A lot of married people are living through hell. A lot of single people are in hell of a existence as well.

You can be single and very happy and fulfilled and same in marriage. We have to do away with these societal expectations that everybody must be married.

I have a Christian lady who married as a virgin and presently, I have advised her to run away from the marriage with the three kids and she listened to my advice. The husband, a big worker in the church is an occultist and tried to use her and the kids for rituals.

She miscarried four times and each time the husband will take away the dead babies to unknown locations for burial. He even tried to use their firstborn for ritual and told the wife he was sending the 8yr old abroad. She had countless veneral diseases, the husband went to the company where she was working and lied against the lady and she lost her =N=6million/pa job.

She had to run into hiding and start from square zero after abuses. If I tell you real life examples about marriages of others I have been involved in, you will be scared to marry.

Be yourself and do what makes you happy, go back to school if you can, travel once every year within Nigeria and other African countries. create a hobby and possibly adopt a child if you can.

Jewessgratitud3:
Hopefully someone leans from my story. I don't regret any of my decisions so far. I'm happy that in all, I wasn't consumed, used to a point of no return in fact if you see me, you'll hardly believe I'm 42. apart from say I get small protruding stomach ( which almost everyone has) and it's only when I eat. Otherwise its normal. So it's caused by food and I overeat.

I also don't regret not having children outside wedlock cos it would have reduced my chances of getting attention from men even at my age. Yes.. I still get attention like serious advances from single men. This is not to make a boast. In this year alone, I've had two suitors. Very responsible guy and another man but the thing with me is that I'm too picky. if I don't like you first, e go hard. So those two were not my spec and I won't trap myself in a loveless marriage just because of age or "time is going " , if it's not what I want, I won't do it. Call me anything you like, your opinion. I don't kia!


Modified

I don't know why you're pained. That was me just being witty to lighten up the tense mood of my story but your dumb olodo self cant recognize a witty saying when you see one hence holding unto it and reacting like a beheaded chicken.

Empty skull

Jeon:
I admire you very much!.

You did a great thing, Men are not too be worried about. Just live you life.

Acidosis:
It's okay to be single at 42. However, the reasons you have given do not justify your relationship status.

Some of the reasons you've given:

1. You don't love a guy enough.

2. He is "stingy"? You met a "stinkingly rich" young pastor in this same Nigeria? (probably an exaggeration unless you're referring to Apostle Selman or Pastor "What God cannot do does not exist" ). Going to ask a man you have only met for a short time money to fund your aso ebi is not how to find husband. Man probably distanced himself but I may be wrong. This is someone you said you don't love according to you, but he's expected to fund your lifestyle. Isn't? Also, your relationship with him was ongoing while you were still dating the broke guy, isn't? Did you just admit to double dating or did I read wrong?

3. You had an impression your guy was cheating. An impression not even fact. In response, you started coming home with other guys. Really? Lol. You met another guy again, slept over at his place and broke up the next day because of shower cap? And also because a lady came visiting and they talked for 30 minutes? Really?

Overall, you have to admit that you have your own flaws. Do some self diagnosis, please. You don't have to marry if you truly don't want to. But truth must be said. You haven't really done much to prove that you want marriage based on the little info you have here. The perfection you are looking for, you need to have and earn it.

Offpoint1:

A woman who has not given birth before menopause is useless to NATURE and have zero contributions to the sustainability of human race.

This sound cruel, but that's the truth... And it's applicable to men without offsprings too.

Monaboo:


Isolated you say?
I laugh
You are wrong dear

There are tons of ladies in their 50's and even in their 60's who are still getting married on a daily basis in Nigeria.

Becos you don't see it doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

djon78:



Oga people are adopting children and giving them the best of Life


There are millions of homeless children that are not being taken care of some born by mother's that threw them away

Then someone adopts a child that could have become like these homeless children but rather gives the child a good Life, good education and he or she becomes very useful to the society

And you are talking this way


To be candid
Your reasoning is very suspect
It doesn't add up and it's extremely very backward
Not productive at all

Truvelisback:
No one has the right to judge you. Life is not fair. Somethings are beyound our control. We are only humans.

Skyview01:


your opinion and has nothing to do with the truth!

djon78:



Oga people are adopting children and giving them the best of Life


There are millions of homeless children that are not being taken care of some born by mother's that threw them away

Then someone adopts a child that could have become like these homeless children but rather gives the child a good Life, good education and he or she becomes very useful to the society

And you are talking this way


To be candid
Your reasoning is very suspect
It doesn't add up and it's extremely very backward
Not productive at all

MaverickA3:
I stopped reading the moment I discovered the op is a woman.

Chikarata2020:
From ur write up, I can say u are a very egoistic person. Most men that are stable bachelor's, who want to marry don't just date a single lady b4 they marry. They choose from a pool of options available. U don't just crash out of a relationship bcs ur man is double dating, rather u fight to win him for your self. Time Wait's for no man

ahnie:
Jeon men are very vital in our lives, let's stop decieving ourselves I understand her choices,but at some point she's going to be lonely and needs someone to look after her in her twilight.
Marriage is a fulfillment in a. African woman's life
But since she's comfortable the way she is...it's her choice,and all we can do at this stage is to wish her well.