I am tired of my marriage my husband has no consideration for me or our children he cheat like there's no tommorow he insults me like I am a piece of dirt . I am tired of treating infection all the time I am scared he may infect me with hiv soon. I am just tired of the marriage I want to leave I have a business but I am scared because I don't know how will I cope with 8 children all alone my business will not be sufficient for me to take care of 8 children alone. My health is at risk now because of my bp is high and the doctor advised me to stop stressing myself to avoid having a stroke. But I cant even rest because of my husband habit and both families are aware of the situation in our house but my husband isn't ready to listen to anyone.
please how do I go through this ? I need your candid advice.

What's your plan to cater for your children's needs if you leave?

I think the better thing for you now is to ignore your husband's habits and focus on your self : your health and business, make sure both are thriving before you leave.

Let's talk. Check my profile. I'm an E-friend therapist. You will need someone to talk with through this until you are out of this situation. I can be your daily buddy. Tell me what's been going on, how it all began etc. I'm all ears/eyes.

8 children is a sign of poverty and illiteracy.
These are the set waiting for their children to take care of them in old age.

Lazy, Hot bunch.

8 children in this 21st century is absurd, what where you thinking?

Psalme91:
I am tired of my marriage my husband has no consideration for me or our children he cheat like there's no tommorow he insults me like I am a piece of dirt . I am tired of treating infection all the time I am scared he may infect me with hiv soon. I am just tired of the marriage I want to leave I have a business but I am scared because I don't know how will I cope with 8 children all alone my business will not be sufficient for me to take care of 8 children alone. My health is at risk now because of my bp is high and the doctor advised me to stop stressing myself to avoid having a stroke. But I cant even rest because of my husband habit and both families are aware of the situation in our house but my husband isn't ready to listen to anyone.
please how do I go through this ? I need your candid advice.

You are not yet tired, he treats you like a piece of dirt and you continued to validate yourself by getting pregnant and birthing 8 children for the same man you posted slept with various girls you brought to the house to assist in child minding, the same man who abandoned you when he found out the gender of the pregnancy was female, that same child he rejected the pregnancy was only just few months old and you went ahead to get pregnant by the same man and it resulted to your twin sons,,,,,,I believe you now have 6 daughters and 2 sons. why has having 2 sons not changed him because you thought that was the golden bullet?

I have to be blunt with you, you need mental status examination as there is so much disorder in your mind and that is my candid advice.

Psalme91:
I am tired of my marriage my husband has no consideration for me or our children he cheat like there's no tommorow he insults me like I am a piece of dirt . I am tired of treating infection all the time I am scared he may infect me with hiv soon. I am just tired of the marriage I want to leave I have a business but I am scared because I don't know how will I cope with 8 children all alone my business will not be sufficient for me to take care of 8 children alone. My health is at risk now because of my bp is high and the doctor advised me to stop stressing myself to avoid having a stroke. But I cant even rest because of my husband habit and both families are aware of the situation in our house but my husband isn't ready to listen to anyone.
please how do I go through this ? I need your candid advice.

8 children only you?

You are the one of those people causing population explosion in this country.

Seriously I don't pity people like you at all.

Shebi u don finally born boys, why your marriage still de shake

You see, it's only a marriage that is destined to be kept that will survive all kinds of obstacle.

Mindlog:


You are not yet tired, he treats you like a piece of dirt and you continued to validate yourself by getting pregnant and birthing 8 children for the same man you posted slept with various girls you brought to the house to assist in child minding, the same man who abandoned you when he found out the gender of the pregnancy was female, that same child he rejected the pregnancy was only just few months old and you went ahead to get pregnant by the same man and it resulted to your twin sons,,,,,,I believe you now have 6 daughters and 2 sons. why has having 2 sons not changed him because you thought that was the golden bullet?

I have to be blunt with you, you need mental status examination as there is so much disorder in your mind and that is my candid advice.

Mindlog, E be like say the woman matter dey vex you well-well.

Foodqueen:
Shebi u don finally born boys, why your marriage still de shake

You see, it's only a marriage that is destined to be kept that will survive all kinds of obstacle.

.. Even when an irresponsible husband is involved ?

Being married to an irresponsible husband is the worst of all.

@psalme91, .. God will not allow you to die untimely because of an irresponsible husband and you leave those babies behind.

You get HBP because of this man, leave the man kwanu, e hard you. You are thinking of how you would cope with 8 children. Think this part, se, you wan die leave those little children behind ni ?

Presently, what is the percentage of upkeep and provision, your husband brings to support you ?

henrimoto:
.. Even when an irresponsible husband is involved ? Being married to an irresponsible husband is the worst of all.

Does she seem to you like a more responsible human being by her many actions so far?

You only give birth to 4kids anything above that is breeding.

Nicepoker:
You only give birth to 4kids anything above that is breeding.

■ 4 is already too much!

Kobojunkie:
Does she seem to you like a more responsible human being by her many actions so far?

..Kobo ... Kobo!! My person!.. Kobo, how you na ? How that side?

The woman sounds a bit knowledgeable but I no just understand how she is just making Life to be difficult for herself.

Kobojunkie:
■ 4 is already too much!

With proper spacing 4 is still manageable. Personally I can't cross 2.

Nicepoker:
With proper spacing 4 is still manageable. Personally I can't cross 2.

Na lie! 4 is too much for the average Nigerian family wey never even see better food chop. No matter how you take space dem reach , e no go make money or food show up for table!

Madam calm down. Be patient and pray. I did not see where you wrote abuse up there.

Intergrated:
Madam calm down. Be patient and pray.
■ I did not see where you wrote abuse up there.

Pray for what? For God to take away the burden of 8 kids she amassed most likely during the time her husband was cheating on her? Or pray that her serial cheater of a husband will suddenly stop cheating on her? Or pray ... what is she praying for? And to which God? The same God she ignored all the while?

Isn't verbal abuse a form of abuse?

Your husband keeps giving you infection and you keep having kids above your financial capability.
If you leave your husband now, what's the guarantee that he will continue his responsibility as a father?
The matter is complicated

Kobojunkie:
Pray for what? For God to take away the burden of 8 kids she amassed most likely during the time her husband was cheating on her? Or pray that her serial cheater of a husband will suddenly stop cheating on her? Or pray ... what is she praying for? And to which God? The same God she ignored all the while?

Isn't verbal abuse a form of abuse?

are you saying she should leave and care for the 8 kids alone? What's done it's done. She should forget this idea of he must not cheat. Is she going to put password in the penis? Her focus should be the kids how to team work and take care of the kids. Nigeria women should stop this nonsense idea. You leave him only for them to start sleeping with someone else husband for upkeep.

Intergrated:
■ are you saying she should leave and care for the 8 kids alone?
■ What's done it's done. She should forget this idea of he must not cheat. Is she going to put password in the penis?
■ Her focus should be the kids how to team work and take care of the kids.
■ Nigeria women should stop this nonsense idea. You leave him only for them to start sleeping with someone else husband for upkeep.

1. Where in my response did you get that idea from?

2. She should accept a cheater as her lot in life? Would you equally accept a cheating woman as your lot in life by the way?

3. What makes you believe that such teamwork exists even now in the marriage given the woman makes clear that he neglects her and the children as is?

4. So, it is OK for her husband to continue sleeping probably with someone else's wife and giving that one upkeep, but not OK for this woman to abandon this husband and maybe even go sleep with someone else's husband for upkeep?

henrimoto:
Mindlog, E be like say the woman matter dey vex you well-well.

E no vex me as I hear and see worse on a daily (though get paid for it ) but you see that woman right there, she doesn't want to leave her husband, not after having given birth to her 2 golden sons.

I only feel for those 8 children who are being raised by 2 dysfunctional adults who ought not to have anything to do with parenting. With their older daughters already teenagers, the view don't look good from here.

Intergrated:
are you saying she should leave and care for the 8 kids alone? What's done it's done. She should forget this idea of he must not cheat. Is she going to put password in the penis? Her focus should be the kids how to team work and take care of the kids. Nigeria women should stop this nonsense idea. You leave him only for them to start sleeping with someone else husband for upkeep.

.. Which team work .. with who? This kind of irresponsible husband don't care about the welfare of the children. Na the wife everything dey dey her head.

Mindlog:


E no vex me as I hear and see worse on a daily (though get paid for it ) but you see that woman right there, she doesn't want to leave her husband, not after having given birth to her 2 golden sons.

I only feel for those 8 children who are being raised by 2 dysfunctional adults who ought not to have anything to do with parenting. With their older daughters already teenagers, the view don't look good from here.

.. God Forbid! The worst to happen to her in this present situation.

The woman is not being reasonable with herself and for the kids. Go there now, na the woman dey cater for nearly everything.

Intergrated:
are you saying she should leave and care for the 8 kids alone? What's done it's done. She should forget this idea of he must not cheat. Is she going to put password in the penis? Her focus should be the kids how to team work and take care of the kids. Nigeria women should stop this nonsense idea. You leave him only for them to start sleeping with someone else husband for upkeep.

Team work with a man who is hypersexual and more concerned with his next sexual encounter than parenting his children?

She better accepts her fate as a married single mother and intermittently, regard herself as a widow because she is husbandless in the real sense of the word.

So after having twin boys in 2021, you still went on to have baby no.8 in this economy? You know you and your husband's financial situation, yet you still kept getting pregnant, have you never heard of birth control? Let me be brutally honest with you, NOBODY us going to take you in with 8 kids. Even some landlords won't rent apartment to you if they see you with all your baggage. You're going to have to leave them behind or share them around like palliative. My heart breaks for those innocent kids

Imagine opening your kpekus for someone that doesn't bring you any form of joy till you gave birth to 8 children, women una de try oh! Make I no say more before I offend God.

henrimoto:
.. God Forbid! The worst to happen to her in this present situation.

The woman is not being reasonable with herself and for the kids. Go there now, na the woman dey cater for nearly everything.

She must do every, every to be alive, else the worst would happen to those children.

Their father would share out the 3 older daughters who should all be teenagers as house helps and the husbands of their madams will likely sexually abuse them as their own father sexually abused the girls their mother brought to the house to help with the children,

Mindlog:


She must do every, every to be alive, else the worst would happen to those children.

Their father would share out the 3 older daughters who should all be teenagers as house helps and the husbands of their madams will likely sexually abuse them as their own father sexually abused the girls their mother brought to the house to help with the children,

.. Oluwa o ni je !!