I have an issue that's bothering my mind , I have to pour it out, I'm a single dad, i have 2 son from my previous marriage, i had a issue with my ex wife my mom doesn't like her so we departed 3 years ago,she took my kids along with her just to cut the story short she went to remarry a man that live in scotland but the man is a Nigerian, the man has a house in south west, so my ex had a daughter for the man, so recently a lady that live in my area jest me that the man have chase her out from his house that she has relocate with my 2 son and the daughter she had for the man so last week I received a call from her I was so surprised how she got my number ,she was pleading that she is sorry for every thing that she had done to me that I should forgive her and come back to her again that she had learn a lot of lesson that the man that he got remarry to that the man was complaining that he can't take good care of my own 2 sons that she cant bear the pains again that she had to leave the man house with my 2 sons and her a daughter to port harcourt, I do always send money to her for the upkeeping of my sons and I do pay their school fees too, I always go to my son school to check on them and pay their school fees, so she said that she will like me to come to port Harcourt to live together as family again that she is very sorry about what really happen between both of us, please I need an advice from you nairalander what should I do, i need a mature advice please, God Bless you All.

Honestly, I have to wait for the professionals to come, so that I can add my own advice...

Sometimes love is unconditional
From your post you still love her
People make mistakes my brother and we are all humans

Reject her and see her reaction till March next year
What she does next will determine your next move
Good luck

wunmi590:


Honestly, I have to wait for the professionals to come, so that I can add my own advice...

Ok

Zaheertyler:
Sometimes love is unconditional
From your post you still love her
People make mistakes my brother and we are all humans

Reject her and see her reaction till March next year
What she does next will determine your next move
Good luck

Ok I will do that, Thank you

why move 2 portharcourt with her?what happens 2 ur job in ur present location?

Yemi4luv:


Ok I will do that, Thank you

Thank God
Follow your heart most importantly
People would tell you to be a man and bullshit her
Those same people wash their girlfriends undies
And why doesn't she move to you instead?

Do not enter the trap!

Rule 1: forgive a cheat but do not make the mistake of taking them back.

They always think it is better outside because the other man sweet talk and try to keep up appearance and attention they feel they lack. The result is always not a palatable one. They will get used, overused, and dumped!

Back to the Op, my advise will be to collect your two sons in order to care for them properly. This will lessen her responsibility.

She should care for the daughter of the man.

Yemi4luv:
■I have an issue that's bothering my mind , I have to pour it out, I'm a single dad, i have 2 son from my previous marriage, i had a issue with my ex wife my mom doesn't like her so we departed 3 years ago ...I received a call from her I was so surprised how she got my number ,she was pleading that she is sorry for every thing that she had done to me that I should forgive her and come back to her again that she had learn a lot of lesson that the man that he got remarry to that the man was complaining that he can't take good care of my own 2 sons that she cant bear the pains again that she had to leave the man house with my 2 sons and her a daughter to port harcourt..., so she said that she will like me to come to port Harcourt to live together as family again that she is very sorry about what really happen between both of us, please I need an advice from you nairalander what should I do, i need a mature advice please,

OP, what exactly is the matter in this case? Are you really asking us whether you should consider getting back with your ex? Has your mother changed her mind or something?

Where is your mom now

Does she like her now

U said u parted ways cos ur mom didn't like her

Anyways, all women should understand that the grass is never greener on the other side.

Foodqueen:
Where is your mom now Does she like her now U said u parted ways cos ur mom didn't like her Anyways, all women should understand that the grass is never greener on the other side.

That is not a good enough reason for a woman to remain in a relationship where she is seen to be of no real value though. OP said they split up because his mother did not like her. What was she supposed to do? Remain with OP even after being rejected by him?

She tried to move on but her attempt failed, that is not her fault or because she left OP. Wish she would see and know this though.

Not every apology is from the heart.

Sometimes people apologize because you're the only option they have at the moment, and not because they regretted their actions.

Keep providing for your sons but be very careful about accepting her back.

decatalyst:
Do not enter the trap!

Rule 1: forgive a cheat but do not make the mistake of taking them back.

They always think it is better outside because the other man sweet talk and try to keep up appearance and attention they feel they lack. The result is always not a palatable one. They will get used, overused, and dumped!

Back to the Op, my advise will be to collect your two sons in order to care for them properly. This will lessen her responsibility.

She should care for the daughter of the man.

A cheat
His mom didn't like her and obviously made her marriage hell.Some of you ehn?? Tufiakwa!

Uncle you guys need to revisit everything that has happened and plan your way forward from here.
Your son's need you also and if you say you were sending money,why is the other man complaining too?

Leave her to suffer more. Look for a way to fuel her suffering.

Don't ever try to reunite with her.just try and process it on your head,your once wife left you for another man,eventually thing went wrong to which she asking for your mercy.even if you accept your mind would intermittently remember you that a man had once bleeped her while you had an issue with her.moreso,she has learnt her lesson doesn't mean you should reconcile with her,she doesn't worth a wife.am very sure that is not the reason why the man send her out,because didn't he knows she has children before considered marry her.i would kindly advise you increase the upkeeping you sending to her in order to sustain them and sometime help them if they are in need not for anything but for the sake of your children you have with her

Yemi4luv:
I have an issue that's bothering my mind , I have to pour it out, I'm a single dad, i have 2 son from my previous marriage, i had a issue with my ex wife my mom doesn't like her so we departed 3 years ago,she took my kids along with her just to cut the story short she went to remarry a man that live in scotland but the man is a Nigerian, the man has a house in south west, so my ex had a daughter for the man, so recently a lady that live in my area jest me that the man have chase her out from his house that she has relocate with my 2 son and the daughter she had for the man so last week I received a call from her I was so surprised how she got my number ,she was pleading that she is sorry for every thing that she had done to me that I should forgive her and come back to her again that she had learn a lot of lesson that the man that he got remarry to that the man was complaining that he can't take good care of my own 2 sons that she cant bear the pains again that she had to leave the man house with my 2 sons and her a daughter to port harcourt, I do always send money to her for the upkeeping of my sons and I do pay their school fees too, I always go to my son school to check on them and pay their school fees, so she said that she will like me to come to port Harcourt to live together as family again that she is very sorry about what really happen between both of us, please I need an advice from you nairalander what should I do, i need a mature advice please, God Bless you All.

Senior man, ask yourself this question first.

Would she have called you if the land was green with the man she remarried with?

If NO, then you have nothing to build up together again. Continue with the co-parenting forget about having anything love together

@OP Why did you allow her take your 2 sons away in the first place?.. you should have retrieved them from her and get yourself a new wife to look after them.

A leopard can never change its spots.. If you allow that lady come back into your life, she'd kill you. Take her back if you're ready to die and render your 2 boys fatherless.

Our schools should take reading comprehension very seriously ‘ cause what’s all these comments i’m reading.

A man wrote plainly that his marriage broke down due to his mother’s influence on his life and marriage and some boys managed to make it the woman’s fault?


Interesting!

Yemi4luv:
I have an issue that's bothering my mind , I have to pour it out, I'm a single dad, i have 2 son from my previous marriage, i had a issue with my ex wife my mom doesn't like her so we departed 3 years ago,she took my kids along with her just to cut the story short she went to remarry a man that live in scotland but the man is a Nigerian, the man has a house in south west, so my ex had a daughter for the man, so recently a lady that live in my area jest me that the man have chase her out from his house that she has relocate with my 2 son and the daughter she had for the man so last week I received a call from her I was so surprised how she got my number ,she was pleading that she is sorry for every thing that she had done to me that I should forgive her and come back to her again that she had learn a lot of lesson that the man that he got remarry to that the man was complaining that he can't take good care of my own 2 sons that she cant bear the pains again that she had to leave the man house with my 2 sons and her a daughter to port harcourt, I do always send money to her for the upkeeping of my sons and I do pay their school fees too, I always go to my son school to check on them and pay their school fees, so she said that she will like me to come to port Harcourt to live together as family again that she is very sorry about what really happen between both of us, please I need an advice from you nairalander what should I do, i need a mature advice please, God Bless you All.

pause for a moment, and imagine how that man go don bleep craze comot for her body.

You are not taking care of your sons

akube34:
pause for a moment, and imagine how that man go don bleep craze comot for her body.

Even the one you wan go pay bride price for,person dey bleep crease comot for am right now.
The only advice you ppl give is how to break 💔 homes never to reconcile.

But look at most threads in family section,young,bachelor,married,widowers,divorced,all of you keep creating threads and disturbing us here.

Ulunne777:


Even the one you wan go pay bride price for,person dey bleep crease comot for am right now.
The only advice you ppl give is how to break 💔 homes never to reconcile.

But look at most threads in family section,young,bachelor,married,widowers,divorced,all of you keep creating threads and disturbing us here.

sure na, at least I no know. This one she left you, remarried, you are fully aware say them don scatter her, then she came back. And you wan accept am. It just like if my babe cheats and I find out, then I accept her back. In Egungun,s voice “that’s crazy”. Which home wan break again, home wey don break since

You and her are connected for life because you have two sons together. But that's not enough reason to accept her back into your life.

She strikes me as someone that can't live without a man; hence her decision to move on quickly. And now that the grass is no longer green, she wants you to take her back.

I know men who were in your shoes and accepted their ex wives back after they strayed. The ball is in your court and you know her better than we do. It's up to you to decide whether she is deserving of a second chance.

God will lead you right

duduade:
God will lead you right

Which god? His mother?

Kobojunkie:
OP, what exactly is the matter in this case? Are you asking us whether you should consider getting back with your ex? Has your mother changed her mind or something?

Hahaha 😂😂😂😂😂😂

This is a trap

Love her with caution.

You can take her back but not immediately. Let time be the deciding factor so that she never tries it again. Be responsible to those kids because they are yours even if she's the most wicked person on earth. Don't waste your time trying to prove a point. Shower your kids with love and wait for her. She has to see you as a high value man and not a reject that she can move to whenever someone else dumps her. While you're showing love to YOUR kids, her sense will reset. Never love out of pity or you will regret it. You can still show her love without getting intimate. This is where you need to be a man because just as she wants you back what if the other man wants her back? That's why you need time. She just needs comfort right now but we need to be sure where her heart is, that's why you need time. She has 3 kids from 2 men, so the chances of meeting another man with baggage is low.

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Seun, this guy is disturbing us.

Why are some men in the thread saying the woman cheated? OP clearly said they parted because his mom didn't like her but y'all are making up stories up there.