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Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by MrPresident1: 9:14pm On Jan 09 |
She should have given her ex her husband's account number. The child has been under the man's charge and authority 1 Like |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by Praktikals(m): 9:14pm On Jan 09 |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by worldclass68(m): 9:14pm On Jan 09 |
That's why one shouldn't marry a single mother no matter what!!! To avoid all these nonsense scenarios. 1 Like |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by Hezmatosky: 9:14pm On Jan 09 |
Like the money is what they've been surviving with The money is for the child through the mother, anything they want to do with it, na dem sabi. That's not my business |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by brosgift(m): 9:16pm On Jan 09 |
tallfish145: Not too right. |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by Pickieox(m): 9:23pm On Jan 09 |
TheWinterBird: So the man that is using his money to cater for the child that's no his for 10 years na mumu bah. Continue. You guys are just funny and cruel. You can't take what you dish out to people. 2 Likes |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by Praktikals(m): 9:23pm On Jan 09 |
tallfish145:If the mother knows what good for her, she should hand the money to her husband. (I am assuming the husband is responsible and has been taking care of the child from the ex). |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by udumosam23(m): 9:25pm On Jan 09 |
He is your Husband. Husband o. He took care of the child with the full knowledge it's not his. Ordinarily, he shouldn't even let you accept gifts from your ex if he's very stable. If he did, then he has challenges and needed support for all the family. It is his responsibility to provide for the family and if he has been up to his responsibility and has treated the child as family too. Then it is good you submit the money to him. He might give it back to you for the child's upkeep except it is huge. My point is, it seem to me you had a healthy marriage without the money. Don't let the money make the difference. Otherwise, your husband matters little. |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by tonicyril: 9:26pm On Jan 09 |
TheWinterBird:nor arguing this with you but this is the reason men dint wife single mother.. Can u hear ursef?? Have u forgotten that this man has bn catering for this child for the past 10 years now with his own money without complain?? 2 Likes |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by udumosam23(m): 9:31pm On Jan 09 |
TheWinterBird: If she hasn't been the one deciding the welfare of the child for the past 10 years, why will she start deciding now. Why do you want to cause trouble? 1 Like |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by ExudeLoveToAll: 9:32pm On Jan 09 |
tallfish145: Yes the child support should go to him and not the wife if she is not the one footing the bills of the child. The reason why they pay child support is to help alleviate the financial stress for the one that is taking charge of the child. I'm this case the man is the one taking financial responsibility for the child's welfare. What is the basis for the mother holding back the money when the man is the one footing all the bills of the child, what then is the essence of the child support? Is it for the woman to use it to buy a vehicle for her self or it should be channelled for the wellbeing of the child which the husband is already doing. Let the money be given to the one who is footing the bills of the child. 2 Likes |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by ExudeLoveToAll: 9:36pm On Jan 09 |
udumosam23: Even if he is stable you can't deny a man his child because the mother married another person. No you can't do that, |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by udumosam23(m): 9:39pm On Jan 09 |
Jewessgratitud3: Should shouldn't show him you mean? Did you know what will happen should he find out he collected money from her ex behind his back? Aren't you naive? If he is her husband and has been responsible for the welfare of the family, showing him the money is not enough. Asking him what to do with it is reasonable if you have any iota of respect for your home. 6 Likes |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by BadMaster: 9:44pm On Jan 09 |
When we advise foolish men, the will never listen. Never marry single mothers. Imagine after carrying the burden of the child, which is not his, for 10 good years, isn't the mother suppose to hand the money sent by the deadbeat dad to her husband, for him to judiciously use it for the home? But No, she would rather use it for herself, and continue to let the foolish husband shoulder all the burden. 1 Like |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by ExudeLoveToAll: 9:47pm On Jan 09 |
TheWinterBird: This is why no man should ever marry a single mum in whatever situation. The money he is using to foot the bills of another man's child is plucked from the trees isn't it? If the man calculate how much he has spent for ten years on the child as child support for that ten years can you pay? What is the essence zof child support, to support the child isn't it, someone is already doing that optimally for over a decade. The best is to give that person who has been caring for the child financially. When the child support hasn't landed did the woman deen it fit to provide financially for her child ? Did she argue on who to spend Money on the child? Did she argue on who to pay tuition fees and medical fees? If no then she hasn't been supporting the child financially but the man. He deserves the child support. If you say it should go to the woman then she should be prepared to use the child support money to start paying the child's school fees, medical bills, feeding, clothing, housing etc No man should be in this kind of disfunctioonal home where there are potentially two husbands and intricate relationships. No man should carry the burden of another, single mum's comes with plethora of baggages. 2 Likes |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by Jewessgratitud3: 9:49pm On Jan 09 |
udumosam23: You don't get the point. Hes demanding for the money. Is it right? |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by Justkatty(f): 9:49pm On Jan 09 |
Offpoint1:Now this is a man speaking 📌 |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by ExudeLoveToAll: 9:51pm On Jan 09 |
Jewessgratitud3: You will never disappoint, critical thinking skills is seldom available these days 3 Likes |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by ExudeLoveToAll: 9:53pm On Jan 09 |
linearity: Worst case the guy will take his hands off the child, she should suse the hidden money to pay school fees, clothing, medical bills. That child support is a token compare to what the man is spending. 1 Like |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by ExudeLoveToAll: 9:57pm On Jan 09 |
okoroemeka: What is the 40 for the woman for, will she use the money for herself? If yes then she doesn't deserve a penny from that. The money fis for child support, someone that is spending more than that should be the one to get it. If the man leaves the money and hands up his hands from the child will that child support handle all the bills of the child? Ungratefulness and greed can actually take away ones sanity and the will to make a good decision 1 Like |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by ExudeLoveToAll: 9:59pm On Jan 09 |
linearity: The man should take his hands off and allow her use the money to sort everything that concerns the child from tuition, medicals, clothing and feeding. Let's see if she won't change her mind, ungratefulness and greed is a bad combination 1 Like |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by sparko1(m): 11:10pm On Jan 09 |
Jewessgratitud3: Don't marry single mom, they won't hear. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by tonytony208(m): 11:39pm On Jan 09 |
TheWinterBird: Thanks to your mental blindness, you didn't see where the poster said the man had been caring for the kid for the past decade with his own finances, right? 1 Like |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by JASONjnr(m): 11:47pm On Jan 09 |
Free2Fly: Especially that kid.... Very annoying somebody. |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by ezegenigbonine: 12:35am On Jan 10 |
Kooldon: Na ur papa born u |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by eepeepook: 12:39am On Jan 10 |
Didn’t one child here claim he wants to marry a woman with three children? Let’s hope he was only trolling. I can never take you lot serious. |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by TeamXola(m): 2:14am On Jan 10 |
Marital issues will always occur when you allow a third party to interfere in the marriage. |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by efelico: 2:57am On Jan 10 |
I think the family need to define how they spend their money irrespective of the source it's coming from. I don't understand how one should be having issues accessing money belonging to his/her partner except there is an already existing issues that has not been settle. The problem to me is far beyond the said money |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by Juliearth(f): 3:23am On Jan 10 |
tallfish145: If you can't trust the child's finances with his step father, why is he bearing that title? Please dont cause problems in your home. Do the needful. |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by ogaontop(m): 5:12am On Jan 10 |
I will let her do her wish, I can't and won't demand such money! The way she handles it will determine if I will continue to cater for the child or let her and the real father continue. |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by Danabu(m): 6:23am On Jan 10 |
TheWinterBird: You just said it senlessly and stupidly Luke the woman you are.Ain't surprised. 1 Like |
Re: What's The Best Advice On This Matter? by SporaD8: 6:25am On Jan 10 |
Juliearth:I don catch you today!!! Judging from previous comments from your Gender here, I can't believe a lady is capable of this critical thinking - talk true na Man you be! 1 Like |
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