Hello,

Do you think sex on the first day really count or that a sign that the relationship may not work out well

It will be d height of madness 4a girl to have sex with a guy on d 1st date. whatz this world turning to?

it's self explanantory it means the lady can easily cheat

thats extremely irrational,it seems like an act of desperation if you ask me

@ poster

If a girl slept with you on the first date what will you think of her?

Would you think she's got any shame or self restraint?

people have different reasons 4 doing wat they do, but as for me sex on the first date is totally a no no, cos some guys will think u r cheap and may never trust u around other guys.

Do u suggest a kiss then on the first day

no just get to talk and know each other, intimacy may come later.

cs/2002/00:

Do u suggest a kiss then on the first day

If your intent is solely sexual then there's no need to call them dates. you're beta off with one night stands.

I don't think you understand the politics of dating. I think that should be the title of your next thread. You need to be educated on that.

@ Topic

Sex on a first date for me will be a pleasure but I will not really trust that babe. I dont think anything serious can happen between us. I love girls that play hard-to-get, they challenge me and drive me

again sex on a first date will just be a bonus track!

@ Poster.


You can try to kiss her lightly when you drop her at her door-step

Sex on first date is BIG NO, NO, NO!!! It shows guy to think you are cheap or weak. Guy, who had sex with you on first date, will not trust you, will not bring you to his mother, and will not choose you as his future wife (refer to Proverbs 31).


If you rely on sexually needed basis, then I don't think this is called a dating to you. It means that you are casual dating without string attached (no emotional attached and no romance involved) just like @NaJa HaJe has said it all.

Its ok to ve sex on the first date, nothing wrong.

NaJa HaJe:


If your intent is solely sexual then there's no need to call them dates. you're beta off with one night stands.

I don't think you understand the politics of dating. I think that should the title of your next thread. You need to be educated on that.

Thank you for hitting the nail on the head.The guy needs to know the difference btw a date and a one night stand.
A date requires patience,the man spends time wooing her,then eventually seduces her,although both parties know that in the end they'll shag each other but the waiting just helps to put a touch of civility to the shagging that will eventually take place.
On the other hand a one night stand has no room for pretence or civility.Here both parties know from the onset that they want to just f--k each other.
I must confess that a one night stand can be very exciting when it comes along.I know i enjoy it when it does.

we need to see this in the right perspective, when a girl has a crush on a guy she would jump into bed on the first opportunity. also if she has an emotional trauma as a result of relationship or anything else she may do the same.

moving forward you would realise that if the guy turned out to be an asshole, she would NEVER allow him again.

also the fact that she let one guy do it don't mean she will let every tom and harry enter her.

so u can only tag a girl cheap if she allows almost every body to have sex on the first date. so my dear if you see a bobo that you really really like enjoy yourself to the fullest. but don't do it all the time o

hypocrites.

@labiyemmy
thanks for that superb word hypocrites, I was beginning to think I was no longer in naija where sex on the first date is so common place, as for the ladies claiming a big no no to it, its between you and your conscience, u've either done it, are doing it or will do it.

hey gals it aint fair
y will i gal find nothing wrong
with a guy taking her on a
shopping spree on first day
but think it wrong 2 sleep wit him on 1st date?

@labiyemmy:

hypocrites.

u can go on and call hypocrites but i want to remind u that this is a general forum and the poster only asked 4 opinions so we the ladies are free to express our views on the matter too, that we say no doesn,t mean pretence but wat we feel ok.

small world we all have our various answers to the same question. For the guys that feel sleeping with a girl on the first day is ok I say fine, but also have it in mind u can get HIV virus on the first day also. We are black u cannot change your colour that is too sure. We know in the outside country sleeping on the first day is not a bad idea. Can I ask a question. Who you allow ur best friend sleep with ur sister on the first date. maybe you don't have a sister, how will you feel if you wife inform you she slept with a guy on the first date?

But we also know to some sex is just like watching Second Chance just kindly sex is nothing to some people u may have it on the first day last day even on the phone. You are left to choice if you want to on the first day or on the night of ur wedding

Nothing wrong with sex on a first date.
it only shows that u guys connect 'sharp sharp'.
although, it may also may that the girl is loose, cheap, communist, donna, et cetera.

why is having sex on the first date such a big deal if you guys like each other she would eventually have sex with you anyway so why not cut the rubbish and get to why you both got together in the first place for.

Besides just because a prude makes you wait for how ever long she makes you wait for doesn't mean that the relationship would survive

p.s the girls you have sex with on the first dates are usually one night stands
she probably just used you for sex just as much as you used her

first date - second date - third date - hundrenth date - and u still succumb to him? what difference does that make? I realy want to know.

umm i dont think its a good idea it sorts of cheapen ones umm

One of those posts where landers are saints.
Lets try to be real when posts like this come and not portray an ideal situation.

For me, I could wait for years to get just one crush and i can leave afterwards if i don't dig the personality she is made of. Secondly, I've learnt that those chics that play d hard to get games could still be playing such with numerous guys. And as such, when u r just starting d game, someone somewhere could be getting same cruch after a long patient wait. So what difference does it make if its sex on first date when u could still cheat on me after all protocols has been observed.
What matters is the kind of people involved cos I've seen people fall in luv with sluts. It takes some maturity and reality to view from this angle.
I still stand to be corrected.

Semilore,

How are you doing? Una don comot from Saudi?

different strokes for different folks

noone can answer - first date sex, second date sex, third date sex -----hundrenth date sex - whats the difference as long as u still said yes to him - he has still conquered you.

Semilore,

Ok, Cool. I will ping u on yahoo in a bit.

Sex on first date is not really advisable but I believe some lady loves that much

i pray never to be a part of it

its just foolish

i pray never to be a part of it

its just foolish