coputa:

1. The less you share, the less people will be in your personal life.

2. You'll slowly stop caring about people's opinion on you.

3. You won't have to seek validation to do what feels right for you.

4. If everyone is your friend, you've a problem. You can't trust anyone with personal information.

5. You'll attract peace into your life. You'll experience less drama, toxic energy and more time alone.

6. The real flex is being private, staying low-key and telling no one about your life.

7. It'll be 10x easier to walk some paths alone to achieve your personal goals.

8. Privacy teaches you independence and how to connect with people on a deeper level.

9. Everyone leaves. You'll learn how to be alone and not feel lonely.

10. When you build in silence, people won't know what to attack.

11. People will want to know more about you when you talk less about yourself.

12. People don't care so much about you. They only care on what you can offer.

The most important thing is put last in your list: people don't care much about you the way you think

The only person deserving of our plan is our wife else keep it to yourself ! Your colleagues at work are not your confidants

LIVINGICONREBOR:
At least reference quora.com, the online site you copied this stuff from.🤔

Read and pass and stop showing yourself. Anyone could have put up the write up.

The proverbial "village people".

Don't end up like....(I will not call name, they didn't even see his dead body to bury).

good write-up

Op
I learn the hard way since then I am always on guide...

I can share alot about me with you & you'll still won't know a thing about me.
I will scatter your head.

Gentlesoul2021:
Op
I learn the hard way since then I am always on guide...

I have been so open all this while especially when am high and it's very damaging(i mean to be open) but have gotta learn something from what op have said. And as you said i also gotta learn the hard way now

coputa:

1. The less you share, the less people will be in your personal life.

2. You'll slowly stop caring about people's opinion on you.

3. You won't have to seek validation to do what feels right for you.

4. If everyone is your friend, you've a problem. You can't trust anyone with personal information.

5. You'll attract peace into your life. You'll experience less drama, toxic energy and more time alone.

6. The real flex is being private, staying low-key and telling no one about your life.

7. It'll be 10x easier to walk some paths alone to achieve your personal goals.

8. Privacy teaches you independence and how to connect with people on a deeper level.

9. Everyone leaves. You'll learn how to be alone and not feel lonely.

10. When you build in silence, people won't know what to attack.

11. People will want to know more about you when you talk less about yourself.

12. People don't care so much about you. They only care on what you can offer.

This is so right. But the narcissistic tendency in humans can never make most want to do this. Most people want everyone informed about their successes in life. They want to brag about it. They want others to envy them, to worship them. Why do you think the large majority of Christian crowd at Adeboye's church were super esctatic when he said "your colleagues will come to you for food" or something of that sort? Omo, people are just inherently narcissistic.

Fairview1:
Seeking for safe space can provide individuals with privacy, reduced stress, self-sufficiency, and freedom, but it can also lead to loneliness, lack of social support, limited opportunities, and stigma. Whether living in seclusion is beneficial or not depends on the individual's personality, needs, and goals.

You just need to find a balance Op. Research has consistently shown that the biggest drawbacks of living in seclusion is loneliness, which can have negative effects on mental and physical health.

Thats it

As life no too balance...our job on earth here na to find the balance....

ifinger:


The only person deserving of our plan is our wife else keep it to yourself ! Your colleagues at work are not your confidants

A man mustn't tell his wife everything, women are too emotionally wired

.

How to be paranoid

coputa:

12. People don't care so much about you. They only care on what you can offer.

#12 is a golden truth. Thanks for sharing.

coputa:

1. The less you share, the less people will be in your personal life.

2. You'll slowly stop caring about people's opinion on you.

3. You won't have to seek validation to do what feels right for you.

4. If everyone is your friend, you've a problem. You can't trust anyone with personal information.

5. You'll attract peace into your life. You'll experience less drama, toxic energy and more time alone.

6. The real flex is being private, staying low-key and telling no one about your life.

7. It'll be 10x easier to walk some paths alone to achieve your personal goals.

8. Privacy teaches you independence and how to connect with people on a deeper level.

9. Everyone leaves. You'll learn how to be alone and not feel lonely.

10. When you build in silence, people won't know what to attack.

11. People will want to know more about you when you talk less about yourself.

12. People don't care so much about you. They only care on what you can offer.

you gotta be a good person to be attracted by good people.

like attracts like

you gotta be heaven to see heaven



you cant eat your cake and have it

saasala:
I laugh when I read this type of article about not sharing things about yourself.

You can share a good amount of things about yourself to people who care to listen and still maintain a healthy self esteem.

The world is bad and full of negative people but not as bad as people portray it. The amount of good people out there surpass the bad ones.

This is how people keep quiet and die in silence. Their moto is "Don't tell people about yourself"

First surround yourself with good people, and then tell the good people as much as possible. Africans are not wired to live keeping our mouth shut about ourselves or problems

Sometimes you have to take a risk. Don't be too stingy to that extent. Even strict Jewish people sometimes reveal their personal issues on a large scale. Your autobiography should be rich enough.

The average Nigerian will never mind his or her business.

That's why the British left.

Everyone is a suspect including your own bloodline.
So be wise

coputa:

1. The less you share, the less people will be in your personal life.

2. You'll slowly stop caring about people's opinion on you.

3. You won't have to seek validation to do what feels right for you.

4. If everyone is your friend, you've a problem. You can't trust anyone with personal information.

5. You'll attract peace into your life. You'll experience less drama, toxic energy and more time alone.

6. The real flex is being private, staying low-key and telling no one about your life.

7. It'll be 10x easier to walk some paths alone to achieve your personal goals.

8. Privacy teaches you independence and how to connect with people on a deeper level.

9. Everyone leaves. You'll learn how to be alone and not feel lonely.

10. When you build in silence, people won't know what to attack.

11. People will want to know more about you when you talk less about yourself.

12. People don't care so much about you. They only care on what you can offer.

One needs to find a balance. Sharing has advantages and disadvantages. Not sharing at all has advantages and disadvantages.

A so-called friend of mine tried to sabotage my dream project just so I wouldn't get there before him. That's even for me that's an introvert oh, now I share even less. Only when I'm celebrating I make a post.

Celestialsword:
A man mustn't tell his wife everything, women are too emotionally wired

I did not say one should disclose all his plan to his wife? Instead If a man should discuss his plan it should be with his wife

ifinger:


I did not say one should disclose all his plan to his wife? Instead If a man should discuss his plan it should be with his wife

Depending on the so called wife.
Simply because you share same bed with your wife doesn't mean she's with you 💯.

Tell your friend a secret which is a lie, if he keeps it a secret, then tell him the truth

Davidcorny:
A so-called friend of mine tried to sabotage my dream project just so I wouldn't get there before him. That's even for me that's an introvert oh, now I share even less. Only when I'm celebrating I make a post.

Lol I can relate , I had a lady in my place of work whom I was dating never new she was a spy to another guy my boss in the office who she was feeding all my plans and moves ! I got to discover late I had to block d baga

Most people care about you when they need you

Ahmed0336:

Depending on the so called wife.
Simply because you share same bed with your wife doesn't mean she's with you 💯.

In real life all man for himself 🤣 however your wife is closer to you than any other person! That is the rationale

okooloyun1:
Most people care about you when they need you

That is a fact that is why u don't inconvinience urself for any Baga

bouncin04:
Lagosians are annoyingly too nosey and intrusive, doesn't matter if you share or not , as long as you worked or lived in a place for over a week , they will worm and wriggle their way into your affairs.

I concur...

I purposely share wrong information about myself and my plans to others ...that way if you have bad intentions you end up in rabbit hole
I operate on the principle of Zero Trust and if i must share then i share on a need-to-know basis.

Don’t know shit
Can’t say shit