The general rule in life is this

If you fail in your duty, you should be punished

If a man's best offer to a woman is his ability to protect and provide for his family

What happens when he can no longer protect or provide for his family?

What happens when the breadwinner has a terminal disease or loses his job?

The suggestion from the premise that a man's best offer to a woman is his ability to provide and protect for his family is that such a man has failed in his duty

And if such a man has failed in his duty, doesn't that justify a woman to look for a more suitable man?

This, to me, is the problem with the statement that a man's duty is to protect and provide for his family.

Geovanni412:


The general rule in life is this

If you fail in your duty, you should be punished

If a man's duty is to protect and provide for his family

What happens when he can no longer protect or provide for his family?

What happens when the breadwinner has a terminal disease or loses his job?

The suggestion from the premise that a man's duty or best offer to a woman is his ability to provide and protect for his family is that such a man has failed in his duty

And if such a man has failed in his duty, doesn't that justify a woman to look for a more suitable man?

This, to me, is the problem with the statement that a man's duty is to protect and provide for his family.

A man whose confidence in marrying his wife is based off his ability to protect and provide for her will lose his wife

He will lose her once she realizes she doesn't need his protection

He will lose her once she realizes she can earn more than him

This is why most men in marriages abroad always complain that their wife changed once she came to UK or USA.

Geovanni412:


A man whose confidence in marrying his wife is based off his ability to protect and provide for her will lose his wife

He will lose her once she realizes she doesn't need his protection

He will lose her once she realizes she can earn more than him

This is why most men in marriages abroad always complain that their wife changed once she came to UK or USA.

Marriage should be based on shared values and interests.

Money is good but a foundation built on money rather than God or genuine love for each other is simply building on a faulty foundation.

One serious ailment is enough to wipe away a man's savings.

A word is enough for the wise.

You have spoken well.

Geovanni412:
The general rule in life is this
If you fail in your duty, you should be punished

it all depends on what duties you are talking about. its a man's duty to educate his children, but if you are broke and cant afford it then your kids stay at home until you can afford to send them to school. there are NO punishments here.

If a man's best offer to a woman is his ability to protect and provide for his family
What happens when he can no longer protect or provide for his family?
What happens when the breadwinner has a terminal disease or loses his job?
The suggestion from the premise that a man's best offer to a woman is his ability to provide and protect for his family is that such a man has failed in his duty
And if such a man has failed in his duty, doesn't that justify a woman to look for a more suitable man?
This, to me, is the problem with the statement that a man's duty is to protect and provide for his family.

sadly the above solely depends on WHERE YOU LIVE.... in the real world, the above is not true, as nobody marries any longer with such state of mind.... but in Africa where you often pay bride price and men can marry as many wives as they desire, YES if you fail in your duties, then that woman should get lost, if she can... because the reality in Africa is that, if that woman cant provide an heir, she will quickly be dismissed, so an eye for an eye.

Geovanni412:
Marriage should be based on shared values and interests.
Money is good but a foundation built on money rather than God or genuine love for each other is simply building on a faulty foundation.
One serious ailment is enough to wipe away a man's savings.
A word is enough for the wise.

marriage should be based on whatever each and everyone desire for their own life. some women want to get married and still be hardworking independent individuals while other women wanna stay home and become expert in telenovelas and Telemundo. who are we to decide/impose whats best for 2 mature people? who are we to believe that there is only ONE WAY that works (because thats what works "for you" ) ?

here is something very important:
A) many people out there dont believe in god and have fantastic marriages;
B) many people out there believe in a "different" god and have fantastic marriages;
C) a man's saving/money is irrelevant to a good marriage.

MrBrownJay1:


it all depends on what duties you are talking about. its a man's duty to educate his children, but if you are broke and cant afford it then your kids stay at home until you can afford to send them to school. there are NO punishments here.



sadly the above solely depends on WHERE YOU LIVE.... in the real world, the above is not true, as nobody marries any longer with such state of mind.... but in Africa where you often pay bride price and men can marry as many wives as they desire, YES if you fail in your duties, then that woman should get lost, if she can... because the reality in Africa is that, if that woman cant provide an heir, she will quickly be dismissed, so an eye for an eye.



marriage should be based on whatever each and everyone desire for their own life. some women want to get married and still be hardworking independent individuals while other women wanna stay home and become expert in telenovelas and Telemundo. who are we to decide/impose whats best for 2 mature people? who are we to believe that there is only ONE WAY that works (because thats what works "for you" ) ?

here is something very important:
A) many people out there dont believe in god and have fantastic marriages;
B) many people out there believe in a "different" god and have fantastic marriages;
C) a man's saving/money is irrelevant to a good marriage.

I understand that many people don't believe in God which is why I also mentioned that marriage should be based on the love that both parties have for each other.

Reread my earlier post.

In terms of kids, the earlier post is not directed towards that scenario but rather at correcting the misaligned mindset folks have towards relationships in general especially in Africa.

You hear it in the redpilled comments on nairaland. If I have money, I can carry as many girls as I want.

Whilst that might be true, no one ever addresses the question, what happens when the money finishes?

@Mrbrownjay1, are you the guy with the YouTube channel that posted one drama series about a female that reads men's minds?