mrblessed:
Her attention is elsewhere, whether cheating or not. I think you are living in self-denial.

maybe her attention is in your house. Chief advisor of divorce marriage.

harqinhola:
Any woman that has feminism tendency should not be married .

how some of you reason baffles me. In your tiny brain you think feminist don't get married? In your warped brain you think feminist don't have successful marriage? If you've not seen any. I have seen many.

advanceDNA:


What's surprising me in all of this is that u are still calling her "ur wife". ..
Nigga ..u are married to ur self....u are just a means to an end....this woman u described, .Like all women ... over estimate their worth in a relationship, assume they are doing u a huge favour and have done their part by marrying you, open legs and birthing kids....

Oga ade....don't leave ur house for anyone ..the woman u just described wont even give a flying fvck u left....she's just a naturally unkind, insensitive, inconsiderate person.....

Damaged breeds with no emotional compass ..them full everywhere.. they have no business being married...but wanting to live bills free won't make them stay alone...

Oga Ade....serve her divorce papers.....tell her u are tired with are room mate style of marriage....if she doesnt see need to change after that...then its not worth beingnmarried to such

Baba...... U have only one life and u are living it with someone frustrating and making u terribly unhappy .....which kind of simping tolerance level is this...?? Spits!!!!!

Enemy of progress. Your ugly mouth like serve her divorce paper. When he divorce her, you will give him your mother to marry. Anyway, I don't blame folks like you. I blame op for bringing his family affair to the public for every dick and harry like you to have a say.

4reala:
Can you just try that morning devotion thing she talked about for a week and see how things goes

tomi4life

This is another reasonable person you should consider. Unless you've made up your mind to let go your wife. If truly you want a happy and loving family then pay attention to this.

Villa12:
Enemy of progress. Your ugly mouth like serve her divorce paper. When he divorce her, you will give him your mother to marry. Anyway, I don't blame folks like you. I blame op for bringing his family affair to the public for every dick and harry like you to have a say.

Sigh.....Who is this lúnatíc....??
If divorce is not an option for u try can Waka pass my comment naaa...... all this ur display of gutter behavior doesn't look good on u.

.... are u just desperately trying to be unfortunate or u are just naturally devoid of manners

advanceDNA:


Sigh.....Who is this lúnatíc....??
If divorce is not an option for u try can Waka pass my comment naaa...... all this ur display of gutter behavior doesn't look good on u.

.... are u just desperately trying to be unfortunate or u are just naturally devoid of manners

you can't afford 3 square meal but you're always eager to tell anyone that cares to listen to divorce their wife and husband. You're a bloody single guy but you're always telling anyone that cares to listen to divorce their spouses. You don’t have DNA proof that your father is your biological father yet, you go about singing DNA test to anyone that care to listen. Same test that you can't afford.

I don't blame you anyway

Villa12:
you can't afford 3 square meal but you're always eager to tell anyone that cares to listen to divorce their wife and husband. You're a bloody single guy but you're always telling anyone that cares to listen to divorce their spouses. You don’t have DNA proof that your father is your biological father yet, you go about singing DNA test to anyone that care to listen. Same test that you can't afford.

I don't blame you anyway

I was right.....u are a lunatíc... and I couldn't help but notice u are also suffering from ptsd triggered by one of the many paternity fraud thread on nairaland.....

Sigh....which one is ur case...?? Are u one of them women who can keep their vagina in one place but blame DNA testing for ur problem.?? Or as usual, u are just one of them pple who blame others for ur frustration......

Awon werey.....they will not fix themselves.. it's another woman's son they will be frustrating in marriage.... E ma sófó dànú niii

Baba, i never see any strong reasons to divorce yet. She is pissed about something. Try that morning devotion first and see what happens next.

Marriage is hard work. Even your colleague get her own ogbanje but she never becomes wife, so the ogbanje won't show now. All the best mate!

advanceDNA:



I was right.....u are a lunatíc... and I couldn't help but notice u are also suffering from ptsd triggered by one of the many paternity fraud thread on nairaland.....

Sigh....which one is ur case...?? Are u one of them women who can keep their vagina in one place but blame DNA testing for ur problem.?? Or as usual, u are just one of them pple who blame others for ur frustration......

Awon werey.....they will not fix themselves.. it's another woman's son they will be frustrating in marriage.... E ma sófó dànú niii

you will die poor if i am not a woman as you accuse me. Amen

SINisSIN:
Baba, i never see any strong reasons to divorce yet. She is pissed about something. Try that morning devotion first and see what happens next.

Marriage is hard work. Even your colleague get her own ogbanje but she never becomes wife, so the ogbanje won't show now. All the best mate!

tmi4life

Another reasonable point from sensible human. Please take good note of this. These are the people that want the best for you and your family.

Villa12:
you will die poor if i am not a woman as you accuse me. Amen

Werey......

This one doesn't even know how to read ??

Sigh...this nairaland seff and all crazy pple it makes u encounter..... Damaged every where and looking for people to join them in their miserable states .... E ní sórírè.....

tomi4life:
Not sure if this is the right forum, but I am unhappy, as I type this message, I think it is usually too late to cry when the head is cut off, but i will cry anyways.

I have been married for 6 years now and brethren it has not been easy, I think I married a wrong person, am not a perfect neither is she, i just think we are not compatible. There is is no love between us. Our values are different. Me and my wife dont get along, well.

We have just been tolerating each other. I only realize what i am missing because i recent caught feelings for this colleague of mine. So there is this colleague of mine, we have worked together for almost 2 years now but more related to work. I have started catching feelings for this girl o and it all started in a party we attend together. I know she too has feeling for me. I see it in her eyes. She comes to sit with me, and we talk about alot of private stuff. She tells me all that is happening in her life, i also do same. she knows I am married with kids but i am sure if i make a move she will agree. I never could imagine I will find myself in a situation, tempted to commit adultery. When i have a wife at home, this opened my eyes and push me to want resolved the relationship issue with my wife. I approached her some days ago to voice my concern that the marriage is not working, we dont communicate, there is no love, what can we do to resolve the matter. My wife said she is used to our situation. I asked what can we do differently and she says we shd go see a marriage counselor. I said fine but can we even discuss and she tells me she is tired she wants to sleep and then stops responding to me.

My wife prefers to sleep alone, despite me telling her we shd sleep together as a couple. if she is in the room and I come to the room she will immediately goes to the parlor, we rarely have body contact. The few times we have sex she never kisses even when i try, she puts her mouth away. Even in the car we can be on a drive for 1 hr, without mentioning a word to each other. Most times it is either the car radio or my kids that break the silence. What surprises me is she is very comfortable with it, you just see her on her phone. The only saving grace is I have a source of income and provide for the home that why she listens sometimes.

Reflecting back on if i had to opportunity i wont have married her, she has caused me alot of pain. she doesnt play that supportive role expected of a wife, she has this feminist tendency. She also has this ego issue and find it difficult to take feedback, whenever i raise an issue, she just get very upset and in many times it turns into a fight. There are days I fall sick, my wife no send o. Even cooking for me is like stress. She goes out without telling me, does things without getting my consent or even carrying me along. When she brings people to the house, she wont even introduce them to me as her husband. she doesnt send respect or regards me. I tell you an example of something that happened last year, we were travelling November last year to the UK on holidays with the children, because of our luggages we took two uber vehicles, I sat in one with my daughter, my wife sat in the other with my son. While on the way to the airport, do you know my wife asked the driver to take a detour to shoprite that she wants to give someone the left over stew and food items we had. Shoprite is not on the way to the airport, we had less than 2 hours to go for an intentional flight. It was me that noticed their car going a different direction, I had to call the uber driver to tell him to turn back immediately. When the uber guy came he told me he had asked my wife to mention it to me, but she said no need, I dont need to be told. We got to the airport while offloading the luggage from the car, my wife suddenly disappeared. I had 8 boxes , 2 children to move with. Thank God for those people that help with the luggage at the airport. I passed through customs and NDLEA and began to clear with the airline before she showed up. I was so mad, even a custom lady was yelling at her, how can you just disappear leaving your husband with all the loads and children. My wife didnt even apologize, she said she went to drop the food items with the person she asked to come to the airport, after i asked the uber driver to reroute to the airport. That is how disunited we are.


The good side is not cheating, and she is spiritual, she can go to church 10 times a week, currently serves in 2 units and hold leadership roles in those unit. I have told her if she give 20 percent of the time in church to our relationship and family we would be happier. The major complain she mentioned from my side is we shd go out together more often, she wants me to organize morning devotions, that we shd pray more with the children, this was something I believe her dad did when they were growing up, the experience is different for me. I have told her I will try. She also mentioned I like to complain, which is not true.

This whole thing is hitting me hard cos I dont want to cheat with my colleague and i just experienced a glimpse of what we shd be enjoying. I also have the chance of relocating to the Australia but i knw if we do, I will enter one chance.

Does anyone knw a good marriage counselor, that can be recommended, I saw one done by one of this popular pastor they are asking for $150 for a 1hour session, I also dont want to involve my family or her family.

I am tempted to just leave the house for 2 weeks and go stay in an hotel, but how will that help it will only make matters worse.

don't make the mistake to divorce your wife. See a marriage counselor and always join your wife in prayer daily. No marriage is perfect. I pray God will make your marriage much more better 🙏

Villa12:
Enemy of progress. Your ugly mouth like serve her divorce paper. When he divorce her, you will give him your mother to marry. Anyway, I don't blame folks like you. I blame op for bringing his family affair to the public for every dick and harry like you to have a say.

please ignore the guy. Only fool will listen to him.

DaddyRochie1642:
You sound like a very weak man,

I am so angry reading this your story,

You are WEAK, see the way she is walking all over this man,

Your money is deceiving you, that money that you think you have now is the one that is deceiving you and making you not to reason well and reclaim your place as the head of that your family.

If you were my son and i was your father, I would have been tempted to curse you for disgracing my name and making it look like I raised a weak child that doesn't know what's best for himself.

Oga to slap you dey hungry me honestly.

Oga he's here for advice , keep shut if you don't have anything reasonable to say