pansophist:
There is a reason why lots of men shy away from marriage, and it's because they know that proposal simply means a transfer from being responsible for yourself, to I being responsibility for you.

Women should see proposals as "I owe you". Its a masculine duty. A man that even accept a woman's proposal needs his masculinity taken to a mechanic, to check for faults.

So after he accepts, what next? She pays groom price, pay for wedding, and he adopt her surname? Then maybe he become pregnant for her,

Marriage is where a woman's responsibility becomes a man's responsibility. So if you propose to a man, she better fulfil the masculine responsibility that comes with it.

People just jump on fads without thinking it deeply. Too eager to discard sophisticated historical practices for modern one that haven't, can't, and won't stand the test of time.

What has proposing to a man got to do with taking over man's responsibility? Your brain is so wired to think everything in life has to follow a certain pattern, Simp, you need to think outside the box.

CaptainJune:
She went after what she wants. The African version of She Stoops to Conquer. My respect for ladies like this is off the charts 👍🏽

There’s nothing commendable in a lady proposing to a man. It is alien to the orderliness of creation. Quit forming woke!!!

ihavesense:

There’s nothing commendable in a lady proposing to a man. It is alien to the orderliness of creation. Quit forming woke!!!

Is that not supposed to mean a sign of "SUBMISSION" ...In Yoruba culture a wife kneels to give her husband food, that is pure submission to her husband.

You guys are blindly copying a foreign culture and ignorantly defending it while trashing yours.

Mtcheew

Skit

That's good of her She is smart

Double0h7:
I honestly don’t understand the point of doing this. Is she also going to pay his groom price and pay for the wedding?

This is just volunteering to put someone in debt. It’s one of those ideas that look good in your head but are unpractical.

It works for white people because they don’t have village people waiting for their rice and beans. White people can do this and just go down to the registry office and call it a day.

I think it's fine if they are ready to sacrifice for each other, love their selves and has the financial means to take their relationship to the next level which I'm sure they has before this lady could do this. They're good to go.

For the village people they would always have something to say before and after marriage, it's their nature.

Double0h7:
I honestly don’t understand the point of doing this. Is she also going to pay his groom price and pay for the wedding .

In almost all societies in the world, including African groups, the bride's family is responsible for wedding preparations and party expenses..
. People might be doing it the other way round nowadays, but please, fact-check this 🤘

Electorate:


Is that not supposed to mean a sign of "SUBMISSION" ...In Yoruba culture a wife kneels to give her husband food, that is pure submission to her husband.

You guys are blindly copying a foreign culture and ignorantly defending it while trashing yours.

You are right about this.
It is better for a woman to propose to you than to you to propose to her
For a woman to propose to you that means she really love you.

correctyourself:


I think it's fine if they are ready to sacrifice for each other, love their slaves and has the financial means to take their relationship to the next level which I'm sure they has before this lady could do this. They're good to go.

For the village people they would always have something to say before and after marriage, it's their nature.

Correctyourself why can't you correct yourself
"slaves" instead of "self"

Shomek:
Correctyourself why can't you correct yourself
"slaves" instead of "self"

It's a typographic error from my phone, it's unfortunate you could not realize it, or ask why before you conclude.

Lack of reasoning!

Ladies need to read that book...'She stoops to conquer'
There are lessons to be learnt there!
It's not by being an hourglass damsel or 'if I cook or have different sex styles with my man he will not look another woman' geng!

lululovesblue:
I honestly don't understand these replies, but it's nairaland after all. What's going to happen if he's not ready for marriage? Financially, emotionally, etc? I've also heard from a lot of guys that girls taking the lead in relationships emasculates them. How would you view a woman that proposed to you, realistically? How seriously would you take her? Can you promise you wouldn't see her as desperate? I know men are not a beehive and have individual preferences, but I'd still like to know which one women are supposed to do.

Personally I view this as embarrassing. Especially her having to walk back to her seat. Abi she's going to pay his dowry and make him a househusband while she becomes the breadwinner as well? There's so much to unpack.

Unshackle the chains of your mind from rigid social construct. You and 1Sharon are worried about concerns that are the imaginary pitholes made real in a patriarchal system. In the Yoruba belief system, no such thing breadwinner or home keeper, Ifa teaches about the fundamental nature of complimentary duality. Both gender can always work out the flexibility of roles inter-play just to make it work, eben in this modern times with many factors ro contend with.

And she has nyash

I respect her

Typical Naija girl to knee for poor man? They rather you pour them acid

LexngtonSteele:
He has deep pockets +/- a long rod.

Otherwise, Mr Nice Guy always finishes last.

Women should copy this trend. Make no worwor babe come propose to me ooo.

Na megaphone I go use shout my " NOOOO!!!!"

If na woman talk this one about man now, you go say women are this or women are that

y3mi:
Unshackle the chains of your mind from rigid social construct. You and 1Sharon are worried about concerns that are the imaginary pitholes made real in a patriarchal system. In the Yoruba belief system, no such thing breadwinner or home keeper, Ifa teaches about the fundamental nature of complimentary duality. Both gender can always work out the flexibility of roles inter-play just to make it work, eben in this modern times with many factors ro contend with.

There is no such thing as taking the surname of your spouse either. But alot of men will flare up if their wife wanted to keep her surname.

officialwdhtvv:
Lady goes on her knees to propose to her boyfriend.

#wetindeyhappentv


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlAbkjHfoxs

Bad idea. Is she also going to pay his groom price and pay for the wedding? And take care of her feeding other living expenses! I'll say yes if it's 50 50

Isn't culture full of yet another set of social constructs? I know I'm arguing semantics,but still. Isn't it then a matter of cherry picking, for you to tell me to unburden myself from one construct and use another construct to prove your point?

I get your point either way. Mine was to point out the hypocrisy in the way a lot of people on here think. I guess I got sidetracked.

y3mi:
Unshackle the chains of your mind from rigid social construct. You and 1Sharon are worried about concerns that are the imaginary pitholes made real in a patriarchal system. In the Yoruba belief system, no such thing breadwinner or home keeper, Ifa teaches about the fundamental nature of complimentary duality. Both gender can always work out the flexibility of roles inter-play just to make it work, eben in this modern times with many factors ro contend with.

CaptainJune:
She went after what she wants. The African version of She Stoops to Conquer. My respect for ladies like this is off the charts 👍🏽

Hope she will be ready to foot the wedding bill..
To propose na the easy part..

lululovesblue:
Isn't culture full of yet another set of social constructs? I know I'm arguing semantics,but still. Isn't it then a matter of cherry picking, for you to tell me to unburden myself from one construct and use another construct to prove your point?

I get your point either way. Mine was to point out the hypocrisy in the way a lot of people on here think. I guess I got sidetracked.

Certainly you miss the mark. The other is not a construct but philosophy of life. Complimentary Dualism is so extensive to start explaining than I have time to on here as I surf through threads. I PM'd you sha.

1Sharon:


There is no such thing as taking the surname of your spouse either. But alot of men will flare up if their wife wanted to keep her surname.

Nibo la tu ja si bayi... I'm not exactly interested in this chapter you just deviated to.

1Sharon:


There is no such thing as taking the surname of your spouse either. But alot of men will flare up if their wife wanted to keep her surname.

Oh! I get it now.
I said patriarchal, not patriloneal which your response got me confused about. There's marked difference.

I've already responded, sir

y3mi:

Certainly you miss the mark. The other is not a construct but philosophy of life. Complimentary Dualism is so extensive to start explaining than I have time to on here as I surf through threads. I PM'd you sha.

It's because the guy has small change

LexngtonSteele:
He has deep pockets +/- a long rod.

Otherwise, Mr Nice Guy always finishes last.

Women should copy this trend. Make no worwor babe come propose to me ooo.

Na megaphone I go use shout my " NOOOO!!!!"

It is only an IRRESPONSIBLE MAN that proposes and marry a lady who is not readily Financially Stable as Himself to be A Wife in a Matrimonial Home.
God forbid Baad tin!!!

franchasofficia:
What an embarrassment, hope she is ready to pay the bride price, rent the house, buy their family car and foot the daily bills to run a family?

Marriage does not start and end in trendy proposal or talk of the town wedding.


As a lady, you can give green light to a guy you fancy to start a romantic date that may lead to relationship, courtship and marriage proposal if the guy is ready financially, but do not overstep your boundary by proposing marriage to a man or to your boyfriend because you don't know if he is financially and mentally prepared to go into marriage commitment.

Home girl

Unlike


Indomie generation

Make she no kneel down and propose...make she dey do shakara 🙄

1Sharon:


But that's exactly what yall sound like.

lululovesblue:
I've already responded, sir

Alright ma,
Please don't sir-nitize me.

Hope she pays your price!

Brandiebird:
She did all that just to go back to her seat 😩. That was awkward as 🤬

Ahhhh, should she remain standing and fry akara?