[size=14pt]Your husband got best friend pregnant; would you forgive him?[/size]
on DECEMBER 24, 2011 · in IS IT BEYOND PARDON?
| 12:00 am

By Florence Amagiya

It is terrible what some men can do because of the inability to control themselves. Maybe, it shouldn’t be called a lack of control, but an intentional act done to spite their wives or the women in their lives.

My ex- husband is a good example of the epitome of lack of control in men. Each time I think of his last escapades, l still wonder if it is possible for Femi not to have known that Amanda, the lady he met abroad is still the same childhood best friend whose photographs he had seen severally in my collections.

Amanda and I did everything together while we were growing up. We went to the same primary school and the same University. We were even posted to the same state during youth service. We had everything in common except for the men in our lives. In fact, we nearly liked the same men and it showed each time one of us brings home a guy.

Amanda got a visa to Britain, but it didn’t stop our friendship. We couldn’t always talk much because of the expensiveness of international calls, we couldn’t even do mails because Cyber café was just a new development and computers was just finding their way into the country to the very rich.

So as I was getting married, Amanda couldn’t make it to the wedding because she didn’t have a stay at that time and we decided that she shouldn’t come because she might not be able to go back if she dares it. The marriage formality was done and life went to normal with the twins coming and the girl following two years after.

It was exactly five years into my marriage when this seemingly impossible episode took place. My husband had being a playboy, but for some time, he had being acting like a changed man. So l thought all was well with my family. I thought he had finally settled down to enjoy being a dad to our children and a husband and friend to me.

His company sent him abroad for a six months course and we practically spoke every other day while he was there. He returned back and I got a call from my best friend, she said she was coming to Nigeria for her marriage and l was happy for her, she also said that she was already pregnant for the man in question.

Amanda came to town and rented a place, so most of the times l visit her because Femi returns from the office late and the children stay back at school for their lessons. I found out her husband to be’s name is also Femi with my Femi’s surname. I was surprised, but saw it as a coincidence; it was on one of my visits to her place that l met her fiancé who happens to be my own …

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I don't know about forgiving him but all I'm sure of is that I'll leave him cos any man who does that is definitely a wicked man,btw the lady in the story knew he was a womanizer but still went ahead to marry him,she's partially to be blamed too. There's no excuse for what that man did,even if it wasn't with my besty,why would he want to take another wife without telling me about it? He obviously has no respect for me or the marriage.

freecocoa:

I don't know about forgiving him but all I'm sure of is that I'll leave him cos any man who does that is definitely a wicked man,btw the lady in the story knew he was a womanizer but still went ahead to marry him,she's partially to be blamed too. There's no excuse for what that man did,even if it wasn't with my besty,why would he want to take another wife without telling me about it? He obviously has no respect for me or the marriage.

Is it him or his kini that is wicked?

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He's the one in control of his kini so all blame goes to him,besides his kini is him so what are you saying?

freecocoa:

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He's the one in control of his kini so all blame goes to him,besides his kini is him so what are you saying?

Men think differently from their kini.

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I vehemently refuse to accept or believe that,how can something you control and have a 100% authority over not succumb to you when you ask it to?its all about self control please.

Nice One from the GUY.

Unforgiveable wot message is he teaching our kids,I wil defo GET RID!!!. If he had cheated wiv anoda woman den dats a different case as I may re-think situations,my best-friend dats wickedness,he wanted to hurt me and d kids dats y he got her pregnant.I wish dem safe delivery but I hope karma serves dem breakfast,he wud also only be in contact wiv me wen he wants to visit his kids anything else won't be accomodated reference my signature y'all Peace!!

MODs, u guys are not doin ur jobs proper. Pls take this thread to "Maury show" IMMEDIATELY! What a nollywood script!

I would forgive him, but I would not stay in the marriage. Definitely, it would be difficult forgiving something heartbreaking like this and the people who have hurt you, but you just have to in order to move on. When you forgive, you do it for your own benefit and sanity, not for anyone else's. But that does not mean you have to stay! [Insert Ideal's Get Gone!].

freecocoa:

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I vehemently refuse to accept or believe that,how can something you control and have a 100% authority over not succumb to you when you ask it to?its all about self control please.

What of people suffering from incontinence?. Do they have 100% control of their yansh?. Same goes for men because they don't have 100% control of their kini. If they do, how can a right thinking man impregnate his wife's best friend?.

Yield:

[b]I would forgive him, but I would not stay in the marriage. [/b]Definitely, it would be difficult forgiving something heartbreaking like this and the people who have hurt you, but you just have to in order to move on. When you forgive, you do it for your own benefit and sanity, not for anyone else's. But that does not mean you have to stay! [Insert Ideal's Get Gone!].

Do remember to forgive him after cutting off his kini first.

how bout the friend that slept with her husband? after all it takes two to tango

OK_2_NV:

how bout the friend that slept with her husband?? after all it takes two to tango

remember,the friend hadnt met him and hadnt seen any picture of him either.
@op,i'd move out of his life,forgive him when i feel lighter but never forget.ever!!

Eventually

They are real friends.
Shared everything 2geda even poronn. Both shld accept or reject him.

Idowuogbo:

Unforgiveable wot message is he teaching our kids,I wil defo GET RID!!!. If he had cheated wiv anoda woman den dats a different case as I may re-think situations,my best-friend dats wickedness,he wanted to hurt me and d kids dats y he got her pregnant.I wish dem safe delivery but I hope karma serves dem breakfast,he wud also only be in contact wiv me wen he wants to visit his kids anything else won't be accomodated reference my signature y'all Peace!!

the above in bold is the reason why so many cheat openly. in a way , what you are saying is that so long as you dont get hurt (and dont loose face), its ok for him to cheat. whether with your bestfriend or not should be IRRELEVANT!

@Aloy
as much as our coks "may" have a mind of their own, our BRAINS control our body. so walking away is easily achievable even though the cokc may be hard as a brick.

as the popular joke/saying goes:
MEN HAVE A BRAIN AND A DIKC BUT ONLY ENOUGH BLOOD IN THE BODY TO WORK ONE AT A TIME. CHOOSE WISELY!!!!!

it would take some time for me to say i forgave either one of them but they would most definitely
find themselves excused from my life for good.

aloy/emeka:

What of people suffering from incontinence?. Do they have 100% control of their yansh?. Same goes for men because they don't have 100% control of their kini. If they do, how can a right thinking man impregnate his wife's best friend?.

Oh please don't use that theory here,we are not talking of discharges from the body here,true its also the lack of self control as regards sexx but I don't believe that's an excuse,there are men who would sleep with their wife's sister talk more of her besty,these men are just pathetic dogs,who lack conscience\morals and that has nothing to do with any fancy word.

MRbrownJAY:

the above in bold is the reason why so many cheat openly. in a way , what you are saying is that so long as you dont get hurt (and dont loose face), its ok for him to cheat. whether with your bestfriend or not should be IRRELEVANT!

I said MAYBE dat doesn't mean I have made it ok for him to go about cheating,my best-friend is classed as family to me so yes I will deal with this situation differently compared to if he had a one-night stand.To u it might be irrelevant, to me they both carry different weights depending on how you view it.

^^the act of cheating should have the EXACT same weight, regardless of who it has be done with. it should NOT be accepted, because it is a clear LACK OF RESPECT for you (or your union). the minute you do accept cheating, is the minute you have kissed your union GOODBYE!

but hey, thats just MY opinion and you should do what is best and work for YOU.

I don't need her forgiveness, so far God 4giv moi its okay with me, But Am sure that if the guy happens to be milloinaire the gurl go 4gv on the run,

@richy:

I don't need her forgiveness, so far God 4giv moi its okay with me, But Am sure that if the guy happens to be milloinaire the gurl go 4gv on the run,

If it was a naija gal, she'll forgive him sharply!

But if it was an American woman, believe u me, forgiveness is the least on her mind.

That is her golden opportunity to make her bank account shapeless with half of the husbands wealth!

Chop off his black d*ck