I have being in a relationship with this girl for like 2 month now, though she is my childhood friend back then in the church. I knew her to be a girl of good character, but that was then. I am through with my NYSC and working now but not earning much, just like 40k and living in Abuja. My wife to be is in her final year in the school and will be going for service by 2013. We proposed to get married this year precisely around December. But presently she knows I am not financially buoyant for that. She latter suggested that I should save some money in her account, so she can be buying the things necessary for our traditional wedding gradually, that in this way I will be able to meet up with the challenges even though i am not earning much for now. She has also told me in several occasion that the traditional wedding is of utmost important to her, that the white wedding may come latter, because she is not the type of girl that loves a lot of celebration, that she will not even mind a low profile white wedding.
The question now is that, is this idea a welcome one, because I don't wont to be fooled and I will like to know if there may arise any problem in the future.

If shes an igbo, then i think the traditional wedding is actually more imptnt. But ur own problem is keepin your money with ha right?
Shes ur fiancee, if u cant trust her to some extent at dis stage, i dnt know wat u re doing wv ha o. She might av a better way to maximise d money wt ha so u just need to trust ha.

If she runs away with ur money, take it as part of being a Nigerian.

@Scash, thank for ur advise. We all know that money issue can even separate blood brother talk more of a girl that you are not yet married to. I want to be sure I am not falling mugo. I am also afraid she might dump me if she happen to meet somebody with good work and more money than I have.
I am saying these because we all Know how ladies are so in love with material things.

are you sure you want to get married on 40k salary

In her account? No try am, i'm a banker so i know watz up, both of u shld open a joint account with a mandate of BOTH TO SIGN

Open a joint account.
transfer what you want to save into that account
leave instruction that you can sign (alone) to collect money but she can not collect money (above 20K for example) without both signature.

That way, you can save money for the wedding and she can still have some access to the account.
You will know immediately if she collects money and did not use it for the intended purpose.
over time, she will have the opportunity to demostrate that she can be trusted.

try it and die poor.

ireke:

Open a joint account.
transfer what you want to save into that account
leave instruction that you can sign (alone) to collect money but she can not collect money (above 20K for example) without both signature.

That way, you can save money for the wedding and she can still have some access to the account.
You will know immediately if she collects money and did not use it for the intended purpose.
over time, she will have the opportunity to demostrate that she can be trusted.

make the mandate "both to sign"
the essence is for her to have confidence yu re saving and yu to be safe not to be duped.

at each point wen u need money, yu guys will withdraw together and yu do everythin one at a time and yu understand if the cash is used for what its meant for.

r231:

are you sure you want to get married on 40k salary

yu really have to think abt this cos i may understand the lady wanna get married but yu have to understand wat marriage is all abt.

do yu think yu still need some mental maturity??
hope no one is presurizing yu to get into dis this cos Odikwa very risky(very risky).

as i wish yu de best in life, i implore u look b4 yu leap so yu dont make any mistakes in the near future

Your "Finance" or is it fiancee won travel abroad now
After collecting your 40k for like 8months you'll hear the news she's in Holland or UK with sum "sharp guy"

If you really want to save for wedding what sensible people do is opening a joint signatory account like @Atandav suggested but not on dat 40k EXCEPT you have oda means of raising cash.

db10dtruth:

Your "Finance" or is it fiancee won travel abroad now
After collecting your 40k for like 8months you'll hear the news she's in Holland or UK with sum "sharp guy"

If you really want to save for wedding what sensible people do is opening a joint signatory account like @Atandav suggested but not on dat 40k EXCEPT you have oda means of raising cash.

poster i can certainly understand saving money for the wedding but why do you have to save it in her account? dont you have a bank account? and from the responses i read here seems like 40k is really low so i would suggest saving in [size=18pt]YOUR OWN ACCOUNT[/size] and work on raising your earning level

@25omega, thanks for your comment. I actually have an account, but she said that in order to make things easy and on the fact that i wont know how to choose the best quality of thing we require for the traditional wedding. I should be sending the money to her so she can start buying all the things we needed for the traditional wedding gradually until the wedding day when we might have purchased every thing required.

Scash:

If shes an igbo, then i think the traditional wedding is actually more imptnt. But ur own problem is keepin your money with ha right?
Shes ur fiancee, if u cant trust her to some extent at dis stage, i dnt know wat u re doing wv ha o. She might av a better way to maximise d money wt ha so u just need to trust ha.

If she runs away with ur money, take it as part of being a Nigerian.

Lol, Are U saying is only Nigerians that are corrupt to that extent?

sexkillz:

Wait first, i forget my laugh for inside car, make i go bring am. . .

Getting married on a 40k salary = (-10)
Not knowing what response to give to her = (-10)
Listening to her suggestions = (+15)
She suggested savings = (+20)
In her account = (-50)

You are funny = (+100)

hmm this man like say u be teacher or lecturer. See as u give everything marks, besides what do u have about his saving money with her. She is supposed to be his wife to be right. Look, its different strokes for different people. If he does it and it works, then fine. If it does not, then fine. I know someone that sent his fiancee all the money they used to get married into her account. She organized it all even b4 his returned 4 his wedding. Like I said it depends.

This type of question should even arise in the first place.

Tell her you have opened a dedicated account (seperate from your previous account) where all monies to be used to assist in the supposed wedding is to be deposited in it.

Which kin woman go demand for such from a man?

Omo things do happen oh!

MAGA in the making