I have heard different married women give reasons why intimacy is the last thing on their minds when they are going through a rough patch in their marriage.
while doing my hair at a friend's house another customer was saying her and her husband hadn't been talking for some weeks but he still wants to get intimate.

The hairdresser asked her if she was cooking for her husband and she said she was,the hairdresser then told her she needs to complete the meal and see intimacy as desert !!
The customer turned around and said she finds it extremely challenging to even try anything with her husband due to their severe marital problems.

As an unmarried lady who doesn't live with her boyfriend I would like to hear mature views on this from the house as marriage is an entirely different ball game from the dating scene

I'll have to come back to this. Don't have time now to write