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Traditional Wedding All the way

Ileke-IdI:

so we were just having this conversation today (not about our marriage o) . Talking about compromise.

I think in anything, I should get to decide this.

I dont care about white weddings, tbh. I want a traditional wedding, with a pastor and a court certificate, etc. Anything that makes it legal and makes sure that I get half of anything (incase he fcuks up).

But traditional wedding is the only one that matters to me.

swiftycool:

Ladies, be careful what u wish for, though traditional weddings are more homely, less expensive and recognised by your locality, it should be noted that

1. It recognises the man as superior to the woman cos she was bought with a price rather than they being partners.
2. It allows polygamy unlike other forms, hence your hubby can always take multiple wives once he feels like and if he mistakenly impregnates ur househelp or any stray slut, he could be forced to marry her by tradition against your will.
3. It allows divorce easily for even very thrival reasons and doesn't mandate any settlement for the woman even if not her fault
4. The man's property still remains his and his family's own and they have the rights under customary laws to kick u out for some unfair reasoins once he dies.
5. Traditional marriages are not recognised in the international community, hence giving the man a right to marry an oyinbo lady outside which becomes the legal one even though u were there for several years.
6. Some of them involve some fetish rituals, libations to gods or fore-fathers, this unknown to many have some very strong spiritual conotations which later come to affect the family in future.

So if you have to choose, b wise or rather top it up with a more protective form

@switfy cool u must be a lost son, it a shame 4 an African to condemed his own tradition for preference to a western tradition, did u know the spiritual tides behind a white wedding, even in the bible, it was a traditional wedding Jesus christ attended. Please find out more about traditional marriage from ur parent b4 u go about vomiting nonsense.

N101:

I have yet to see the relevance of a traditional wedding when an introduction will do. And I'm with Freiburg, the only people I hear refer the 'white weddings' are Africans.

The important thing is the marriage. As far as I'm concerned I only need one ceremony that is legally binding and that is it.

realiforj:

For me both is important. the traditional marriage is expected to be done first as its where the dowry is being paid.  the white wedding is key as a christian and a child of God,one needs to do this in God presence and house for his protection over your marriage.  Lets not forgat that God himself is the author of marriage.

oludashmi:

You are really ignorant (not insulting you).
Did you hear the way it is pronounced? Introduction!!. . . this is a way for the immediate family of both parties to meet and know each other before the traditional wedding day where the dowry is paid. Dowry is not paid at the introduction, neither is it paid in the church. And the dowry is the most important part of any union both before God and Man, even if it is paid in the sitting room with witnesses and no ceremony is conducted at all!

swiftycool: Ladies, be careful what u wish for, though traditional weddings are more homely, less expensive and recognised by your locality, it should be noted that

1. It recognises the man as superior to the woman cos she was bought with a price rather than they being partners.
2. It allows polygamy unlike other forms, hence your hubby can always take multiple wives once he feels like and if he mistakenly impregnates ur househelp or any stray slut, he could be forced to marry her by tradition against your will.
3. It allows divorce easily for even very thrival reasons and doesn't mandate any settlement for the woman even if not her fault
4. The man's property still remains his and his family's own and they have the rights under customary laws to kick u out for some unfair reasoins once he dies.
5. Traditional marriages are not recognised in the international community, hence giving the man a right to marry an oyinbo lady outside which becomes the legal one even though u were there for several years.
6. Some of them involve some fetish rituals, libations to gods or fore-fathers, this unknown to many have some very strong spiritual conotations which later come to affect the family in future.

So if you have to choose, b wise or rather top it up with a more protective form

jennykadry:

Good points sir, I agree with all but no 1. My mothers father never took a dime from my father when he wanted to marry his daughter, he only told my dad to take care of his daughter for him, my father did the same thing with his sons in law and never took a dime from them. My husband is talking of doing same and I just looked at him and hissed ehn, how can we miss so much money for some tradition? if I don't get a new car from him , I will get it from my son in law.

Some men do not accept bride price from their in laws.

ifyalways: Traditional marriages rock my boat anyday,anytime.

I'm bored at and rarely attend the so-called white weddings.what makes it 'white"?whose culture or identity is that?whats its origin?