I dont have a female cousin or sister i'd want to play that role and all my other good friends are not desirable for it.
my best friend and only one i want the part for is married.
does my chief bridesmaid/maids of honour have to be single?
what if all my girl-friends are married?
is there a wedding police that's going to come arrest me if i choose a marriaed woman to play this part?
can't i break away from this old tradition?

Not necessarily. I don't think this practice is carved in stone, I personally feel there is nothing wrong if u decide to use your married friend as your chief bride's maid so long she is still in shape and she agreed to take up the role. I also wanted to use my married friend but when she hinted me that she was planning to get pregnant and there is possibility of her pregnancy being obvious by then( I told her 6 months b4 the wedding), I had no choice but opted for my younger sister's friend.

I believe the traditional way to include a "married" friend in your bridal train is the "maid of honour" role. But like mission08 has said, I don't see why you can't be a little creative here. The "wedding police" are technically your ushers, who the bride and groom hold sway over anyway !

Have a wonderful and memorable day.

TV

Choose whoever you want married or not, its your big day so you call the shots.

I was bridesmaid to my friend and i was pregnant then sef. But i love that chic so much, i couldnt say no.

Slimcrazy is at it again, Doctorrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Som1 here needs help. You better face your studies you this 17yrs old student,

Why get married? It's a crazy thing to do!

The "wedding police" are technically your ushers, who the bride and groom hold sway over anyway ![img]http://www.kroro.info/g.php[/img]

Personally, I wouldn't want to use a married friend as I would assume she would bring her hubby as her guest. . . .wouldn't want her sitting with me while her hubby is sitting some other place.

I wouldn't want to use my sister as I would love for my family to relax and enjoy the day. . . .without having to hold my dress, etc.


Using a single babe is nice so she can meet the single grooms men
But if you don't have a single friend manage the one wey dey.

kelz88:

Personally, I wouldn't want to use a married friend as I would assume she would bring her hubby as her guest. . . .wouldn't want her sitting with me while her hubby is sitting some other place.

I wouldn't want to use my sister as I would love for my family to relax and enjoy the day. . . .without having to hold my dress, etc.


Using a single babe is nice so she can meet the single grooms men
But if you don't have a single friend manage the one wey dey.

Seriously, I doubt how successful this has been.

@Poster, it's your day. Write the rules!

sauer:

Why get married? It's a crazy thing to do!

seriously??

Ijogz K:

Slimcrazy is at it again, Doctorrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Som1 here needs help. You better face your studies you this[b] 17yrs old student, [/b]

lmao@bolded.
i'm sorry i'm not willing to feed your lack of scruples on here.
just wander away!
@all, i appreciate all comments so far.keep 'em coming!

it's just the African or should I say Nigerian mentality. who says the person must be single?you can choose to have none or use your mum if you are comfortable with it?I know people who didn't use their closest friends because they felt they will be better off running around on that day putting things in order.

dustydee:

it's just the African or should I say Nigerian mentality. who says the person must be single?you can choose to have none or use your mum if you are comfortable with it?I know people who didn't use their closest friends because they felt they will be better off running around on that day putting things in order.

Well said.

Bride's maid dont do much on the D-day except fan you, hold ur gown (dat is if it's flowing), pick ur calls and do other petty things for ur convenience. Another important thing though is she'll help in picking the money sprayed on u, that is if it's an owambe party . For the money part, it may not work well using someone u dont trust with money because u cant monitor the cash u'll receive as gift. So apart from the trust aspect, she doesnt have to be ur best friend but someone trustworthy. But if u are ok with ur married friend as a bride's maid, common, you are good to go and other friends may come handy with other logistics.

sauer:

Why get married? It's a crazy thing to do!

Genau, herrn Sauer

Who says?

I was chief bridesmaid to two of my friends married as I was (still am).

Go ahead with ur plans and I wish u a fruitful wedlock ahead!

There's no universal reule that states that she has to be single. So u can go ahead and do what suits u most. The most important thg is that u stick to ur plans for that day so u get to enjoy ur day to it's fullest.

ur day, ur rules

@dustydee
I feel like calling you names but I will refrain. Did white weddings originate in Africa or in Nigeria? State facts instead of saying rubbish.

@topic
Feel free to have your married friend as your Chief Bridesmaid. The reason singles are usually used as brides maids and grooms men is simply because the bride's or groom's closest friends would also be single. As your bestie is married it doesn't negate the wedding tradition in anyway.

Come and make me ur chief bride's maid. Wa la hi. Everytin go set well well

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Using a single babe is nice so she can meet the single grooms men

[quote author=4wardever]

Seriously, I doubt how successful this has been.

^^U can't be soo sure my dear.It does happen.Was the maid of honour at a wedding when i met my hubby'one of the groom's men'

bennyraz: Come and make me ur chief bride's maid. Wa la hi. Everytin go set well well

how man go be chief bridesmaid?
You smoke mess?