hakuna matata:

morals, ethics & dress sense are among the many responsibilities parents owe their children and ALL parents do it well either by:
1. direct tutelage handing it down themselves or
2. condoning and looking the other way while 'society' does the teaching.
the probs with our digital civilization is that parents look the other way while cable Tv & internet does the mentoring.
either way, without ruling out d possibility of deviation, there is a greater probability that children wld pick more behavioural traits & patterns from either or both parents if conditioned. call me old fashioned if u like. ur dreads & tattoe didnt come from the dream na? ....exactly my point!
for all i dont know, ur child may end up being a tattoed & dreadlocked gentleman @ d bar. i'm not cynical about what he wld be but how i wld rather address him based on his appearance.

debrief08: Why are we so judgemental? Always quick to condemn people who are different from "our norm"?
For all I know Junior may turn out to be smarter and even greater than my Son, I have no right to judge or even predict Jnr future.
A lot of us may not sag or tatoo but we beat, hate, keep mailice, cheat and infect our spouse with STDs yet we will come and pass Judgement on how people adults choose to express themselves.
Does Jnrs fathers sagged pants harm me or my family? Does his mothers Tatoo cause harm to their family life?
So religious yet so unGodly and unGodlike

hakuna matata:
Didn't somebody say "how u choose to dress wld determine how u r adressed?" if u dress as a ruffian its only normal that pple look at in with that eye. u cant be clad in a lion's fur and want to be treated as a lamb. by the way we were only SPECULATING what junior MIGHT turn out to be(ALL THINGS BEING EQUAL) as a natural corollary from his parents. not what junior must be!

JallowBah:

That just means you are judgemental.
And no, I am not talking about women walking around dressed as strippers, to put in on the edge.

But people judge me all the time, just because I dress different than the normal norm in my town, my hair, my tats. I have had that my whole life, I am used to it. Still, it shows ignorance.

JallowBah:

And if that is what my child wishes to do, so be it. As long as my kid is happy, I`m not the one to tell her anything.

My tattoo-love came from my mothers one and only tat that she got in the military in Libanon when she was young. She ended up with to discrete more in the next ten years, while I on the other hand, have chest, back, legs, arms, and small on my face even. People see beauty, and being decent, different.

My mother raised me to be me, to be proud of me, and to follow MY wishes and dreams, not others. Even though it is at sometimes hard for her to accept the way I look and dress ( she dont like my colourful dresses, my headwraps, my hair, or my many tats. ), she fully knows that I am a grown woman, I work, I am a good mother, and I am a good person. And that, my friend, is more important than apperance.

Oh, and my biggest facinasion for tattoos came from internet, looking at different ethnic-tattoos in Africa..

hakuna matata:
my dear & u desired to hav them as body art souveniors? girl u give me the Hibble-de-jibbies! wld like to see them may i?
but truly, such looks wld only attract ruffians & rasta looking guys into ur world . u dont hav a prob with dat? i really want to know the kinda guys u get their attention. pls.

JallowBah:

I get attention from rastas, men in suits, men with no jobs, and men who work in the goverment.
I got a nice attitude about me that they get attracted to, guess they are able to not only see my tats and locks.

As for my husband, he like the tats because I see them as beauty, and he grew up as a half-nomade fulani, with women tattooing their chests and faces as beauty.
And yes, he is a dreadhead as well

And nah, I aint flaunting them here.

JallowBah:

I get attention from rastas, men in suits, men with no jobs, and men who work in the goverment.
I got a nice attitude about me that they get attracted to, guess they are able to not only see my tats and locks.

As for my husband, he like the tats because I see them as beauty, and he grew up as a half-nomade fulani, with women tattooing their chests and faces as beauty.
And yes, he is a dreadhead as well

And nah, I aint flaunting them here.

hakuna matata:

dont bother. i've seen them already!
dread, dread, dread, natty dread!.!

Mynd_44: The day we start facing our business, the better

hakuna matata:

things that cross our sights in public may be our businesses too! ....u know

Mynd_44:
Learn to close your eyes more

Ivynwa: @Hakuna Matata

If Daddy sags and Mummy tats, Junior will be happy.
He has hippie parents that will be living cool,with plenty sweet hip music around the house and hippie stuffs.
I mean such parents won't be taking life too seriously, will be down to earth and fun to be with.
Yeah right! Hahaha!

Why do such scenario remind me of Charly boy, dude is busy enjoying and sparkling up his life even as a grandfather. I bet there won't be any dull day in the family life of such a person that is chilling and enjoying the fun things of life.

JallowBah:

Wait..what? So because me and my husband got dreadlocks, I am tatted, he wears saggy pants at times, my kid is gonna end up like Charly?? Lol, you crack me up.

My child will learn that whatever she wishes to be, she can be, and that she has to work for it.
She will learn that she should not judge people on what they wear or how they look, but on what kind of person they are, like MY mother, who is "decent and normal" teached ME before. My moral is not bad, just because I look the way I do, hon.

debrief08: Charly Boy with his piercings and tattoos and his equally non conventional wife have been married for over 30 years and still seem happy and comfortable with each other. Meanwhile "prim and proper" couples those who are still married a lot of them hardly share a bedroom just married for social purposes, a lot of others are are separated or divorced.
Jesus spoke so much about the pharisees who loved outward appearances yet miserable and wicked on the inside.

Ivynwa:

Jallow Babes you misunderstood me there. If you read my post again, you may understand it better. I never said that such a child will turn out as Charly boy. I only said that it may be all hippie and happy in the home of somebody like Charly boy. Hope you are doing great girl. Wish I can see your tattoos, I like to admire good looking tattoos.

JallowBah:

Wops..sorry, my bad.
Then we are actually on the same page.

I am doing fine, hope you are as well. I have both well done tats, and not so well done tats..hehe..it is possible to see them, but not here on NL

Ivynwa:

Cool Babes,
I'm liberal minded to some extent and doesn't see anything wrong with people spicing up their life the way they want as long as nobody isn't getting hurt while they are it for example I will always be like "people should let Charly boy do his thing as long as he isn't hurting anybody and isn't dabbling with h-omosexuality"(I happen not to support that one)--

JallowBah:

I dont agree with you on homosexuality, but that is a different discussion.
And, you got one of my favourite dance-tunes in your profile, so no worries. Woop!

Ivynwa:

Do you mean the Koshen?
Girl, Bubble gyal a bubble

JallowBah:

Always!

And, you could always make it bounce like a ball, spin like a wheel, in your flip-flops on in your six-inch-heels.

Ivynwa:

Woooooyiiiii
Make the ground move
That's an a*s quake!
-Kanye West

Lol lol lol
Girl ain't we funny, tripping like dem fellas when they watch & ogle dem gyals as they dip it and a drop it.

JallowBah:

Haha, I knooow! It fascinates me, though. Have you seen this one:

Now that..is an a*s-quake!

Ivynwa:


What is that?
Fans myself with tips of my fingers while shaking my head
No that wasn't only an a*s quake.
That was a bassline a*s with a voice making beats of its own. Hahahahaaaa!
Girl, pls let's hush and quit talking like bad a*s babes biko.

JallowBah:

Offtopic. Offtopic. Offtopic.

Sorry..the kids will probably end up more serious than me, I am sure

Ivynwa:



More Serious?
I am of the opinion that kids reared by "hippie-having-fun-and-not-taking-the-world-too-seriously" parents will have a cooler outlook to life.